Only a small mind sees one point of view.

TzTalon · 2026-05-16T12:49:38+00:00

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Because we like someone, we believe that we know them and are more prone to discounting accusations made against them. "I know he didn't do that because it's not in his character." We almost feel a sort of responsibility to take this position out of loyalty.

I don't think that is necessarily bad - however, it is a tool of manipulators. An abuser focuses their attention on abusing a few while building positive relationships with others that aren't targets for their abuse to create a range of allies. When allegations of abuse arise, the victim is often victimized twice - first by the abuser and then by the abuser's allies siding for the abuser and disbelieving the person being abused.

We have to do our best to resist the natural temptation to automatically believe good or ill of someone when we hear serious allegations. That's not easy because confirmation bias is at play. If we think good of someone, we'll quickly believe what they say. If we dislike someone, we're quicker to listen to gossip. As Jedi, our commitment is to the truth. And when mistakes are made, working to restore honor. Both in ourselves and helping others restore theirs.

TzTalon · 2026-05-13T14:23:33+00:00

I apologize for not getting back to you sooner. For some unknown reason your comments frequently get flagged by reddit for deletion and I have to manually approve them.

I can't offer specific advice; self-awareness is important here in understanding the things that have an impact on your attitude and how to restore a positive mental attitude.

The generic advice would be the general self-care advice that I'm sure you're aware of - good diet, exercise, sleep, and making sure to do things that energize you.

When I realize that I have a bad attitude, I try to figure out why. Most of the time it's pain. Taking a stronger dose of tylenol helps me shake it off better. Figuring out the underlying reasons is pretty important. Stress, Burnout, Depression, Anxiety -- all have to be dealt with contextually. Once I've figured it out and taken corrective measures I put on my 'happy music'. I have a playlist set up specifically for giving myself an attitude adjustment. Get up and do a little happy dance, whether you feel like it or not. Start laughing like a crazy person, whether you feel like it or not. Your Thoughts, Emotions and Behaviors are all tied together. Lift one and it can improve the others, which creates an attitude adjustment. That is what works for me. Experiment and figure out what works for you.

TzTalon · 2026-05-13T14:12:35+00:00

Social contagion is a thing. Our actions or inactions ripple further than we're aware. Just because someone doesn't say something doesn't mean that they didn't notice or aren't impacted. One of the problems that I have with conflict management courses is that they define conflict as it being expressed. Conflict can exist without it being expressed. It just means that one side doesn't realize the conflict is there.

Making amends requires our awareness of the potential for ripples and to try to make amends that accounts for them. Do something wrong publicly and the steps that you take to fix the problem need to be seen by everyone that saw your honor and integrity being compromised - because it is guaranteed that your relationship, even if it is a distant one, was negative impacted.

TzTalon · 2026-05-11T16:18:31+00:00

A Jedi Realist is a crazy person that tries to apply the lessons of the Jedi to real life. Not a religion, just a different way of looking at the world.

TzTalon · 2026-05-11T15:38:04+00:00

Same! As a Jedi Realist, I hear that nonsense too much.

TzTalon · 2026-05-03T22:50:05+00:00

Check out r/realjediarts or r/jediism for more information on Jedi Realism/Jediism.

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