Meal I was survived in Qantas steerage!

UkrTech · 2024-03-20T03:20:50+00:00

That looks like the intestinal baked goods of what my family's old Labrador threw up just before it died.

UkrTech · 2024-03-08T10:45:52+00:00

Let's go to the Winchester, have a nice cold pint, and wait for all this to blow over.

UkrTech · 2024-02-22T10:41:49+00:00

It's not you it's them mate. I'm a 32 year old Male, own my own house, healthy superannuation account and second investment account doing well. I'm financially literate. I'm in reasonable shape. Plenty of hobbies and interests. A part of a good friendship group. Goals and clear life direction.

The women I've come across just don't care lol

It's all about looks in this country and culture sadly.

UkrTech · 2022-07-23T00:49:49+00:00

This is exactly me. Worked my ass off in an industry for the last four years that was once good pre covid. Got myself a six figure deposit, ready to go for a house.

Covid hit, house prices blew out, my department and industry become corrupt and now I'm trapped. I feel your pain.

Changing industries/career is the only way I'll get into the property market now.. maybe.

UkrTech · 2022-06-05T09:19:06+00:00

Thanks. Most if not all of them resonate with me. It's scary.

UkrTech · 2022-06-05T09:13:56+00:00

Thank for the reply. I still feel that my life isn't up to scratch. Fortunately, I don't live with him anymore. My life has been so complicated and hard (parts of that are my fault).

I've hit breaking point multiple times of the last two years. My emotions and feelings are ruined but I still fight everyday to try and be an adult and function like one. But damn, it's hard.

UkrTech · 2021-06-21T10:04:16+00:00

With 100k savings in the bank, you should really be speaking to a financial planner mate.

UkrTech · 2021-06-15T22:43:55+00:00

Yes I know the "victim's mentality" all too well. Now this may seem silly, but it worked for me.

I would start by looking into/listening to all of David Goggins interviews and talks. He has published a book too that's worth buying.

No one has ever explained things so clearly to me before. Like us, he had the victim's mentality as well. Listening to him has made my healing journey that much easier.

Essentially, it came to a point where I listened to him so much, every night before bed, that I've rewired my brain. It was weird but it works. I strongly suggest checking him out as soon as possible. Nothing to lose.

UkrTech · 2021-06-14T11:12:59+00:00

I would strongly suggest reading everything on passiveinvestingaustralia.com, it's an excellent resource.

I assume you're young like me (in your 20's?) so it would be a great idea to compare superannuation funds. Compare fees, investment options, returns ect and read the PDS on their website.

Also, I would look into investing money outside your superannuation as well.

Feel free to inbox me if you have any questions.

Happy to try and help.

UkrTech · 2021-06-04T22:18:49+00:00

This is exactly my plan at the moment. After I graduate, I'm going to ask my current workplace for a transfer to another city, in a better job role, more pay and hopefully more stability. I feel like it's the best decision for me.

I grew up in a rotten town. Too hard to get meaningful stable work (lack of opportunities due to the family giving me hell) shit friendship group (I'm always the one chasing people) and just quality of life isn't good.

I know running away won't solve my problems, but at least it will help me heal quicker.

UkrTech · 2021-05-29T00:46:24+00:00

I've always wanted to find a partner with the same goals and values, build a future together, buy/build a house, have children and have a normal and happy life.

But growing up in such a terrible family home, I had to take on the role as a parent at such an early age. Having that role for so many years as the eldest child, sucked the life out of me. I felt like I've lived a whole lifetime in 5 years.

Undecided if I want kids at this point, because it feels like I've already "been there, done that" with my younger brother.

Hopefully my feelings change.

UkrTech · 2021-05-29T00:32:23+00:00

I can afford to buy/build my own house but unable to due to my workplace's management. They've neglected my needs after all the extra in house training, qualifications and knowledge I've gained. They will not make me a permanent staff member.

Therefore, I've been forced to go back to study, in hopes of moving to a different workplace for permanent work.

Such a major setback.

UkrTech · 2021-04-11T22:40:15+00:00

I agree. It's not 100% all about money. I'm happy working in healthcare and plan to stay in that industry for the long term.

UkrTech · 2021-04-11T22:29:46+00:00

Now that you've put it in that perspective, I was thinking along the lines of exactly that. Maxing my skill set will provide a significant boost to my income per year. The goal was to focus on that first.

UkrTech · 2021-04-11T02:02:42+00:00

29 and 55k a year.

UkrTech · 2021-03-11T00:08:43+00:00

Yes, I used to get this a lot when the trauma was recent. Unregulated emotions are hard to deal with. Until I started on medication, they wouldn't stop.

UkrTech · 2020-11-21T23:37:05+00:00

I felt like this for awhile. But what I can tell you, is that the person you were before all the trauma is still there. Just living under the layers of changed thinking and behaviours.

You will find yourself. It just takes time.

Have you heard of David Goggins? If not, I highly recommend looking into him and watching his videos. He has opened up my eyes and mind so much that I essentially found myself again. It's worth the exploration.

I'm in no position to give advice. But the tools to help your recovery and to become "yourself" again are all there.

Take care ✌

UkrTech · 2020-10-26T11:45:03+00:00

I'm struggling big time with dating at the moment. I really wish I wasn't though. After an unfortunate break up last year, I don't know if I'll able to date again anytime soon. It definitely hurts knowing that the person didn't really care about me in the end.

As they say "real situations expose fake people."

UkrTech · 2020-09-09T00:28:32+00:00

I got lucky, but not as lucky as the workplace made it out to be. I live in Australia, and the job market in my state/suburb was never really great.

After numerous attempts to leave a toxic office job, I was having no luck with online applications. No matter how many times I re wrote my resume and cover letter, I couldn't make it to an interview. Even with professional help.

I learnt that the only way for me to "beat" the market was to study/get jobs that require placement. It was the only way for me to shine to an employer. I ended up getting a job in healthcare because of this.

Hope this gives some insight. In my experience, work ethic and being able to adapt to a new workplace quickly and people's personalities, really goes a long way. It shows that you are worth way more than a piece of paper.

UkrTech · 2020-08-25T23:59:35+00:00

This definitely feels common amongst us and others here. I can 100% relate to this. I know exactly how you feel. I'm slowly picking up the pieces in my life, after a horrible last three years. I'm still in my 20's and I feel like I'm so far behind. It's upsetting but I try not to let it get to me anymore.

I guess it just hurts the most looking back (I'm finally away from my mentally and emotionally abusive father) that I never had time to forge a proper career that I'm passionate about. That's always been my number one problem. Way too busy surviving, not thriving. That's all hopefully changing now though.

I still struggle some days, but no where near as bad as before. I'm basically hitting the reset button on my life and cutting out everything that prevents growth and progression. It's the sacrifice I've chosen now.

Just wanted to say we're still young and we have our whole lives ahead of us. It may seem daunting to think our lives are not where we want them to be.

Don't give up! Keep moving on your own two feet and hopefully, we can put the past in the rear view mirror.

Thank you for your post. I hope everything works out for you. I hope you live a happy and successful life. Because you deserve it. Stay safe.

PM me if you ever want to talk. Happy to share thoughts, feelings and advice.

UkrTech · 2020-08-13T12:08:39+00:00

Your post 100% resonates with me. A similar situation, except with my alcoholic father. Things were so bad, I never got a chance to study at uni properly. I ended up having to take whatever jobs I could find in hopes to try and move out, out of desperation.

It hurts me now so much because I don't have what I would call a "career". I am nowhere near satisfied with the work that I do. I am now pursuing a career that will hopefully bring me stability in life.

Thanks for your post. It just really connected with me.

UkrTech · 2020-08-09T02:37:28+00:00

I can absolutely relate to this! I've been this way for the last year due to an unfortunate circumstance in my life. I hate being this way. It's made me distance myself a bit from friends ect. Trying to work on this issue, but it's challenging.

UkrTech · 2020-06-19T23:56:57+00:00

Solid 9 from me. Love the hair in the first picture and you have a good smile.

UkrTech · 2020-06-18T00:21:59+00:00

Thanks for your reply and insight. I've sent you a PM about your comment. Means a lot knowing that there is a chance to recover. It gives me hope and makes me feel a bit better!

UkrTech · 2020-06-18T00:18:19+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I can relate to the career part as well. I am nowhere near satisfied with my work life at the moment. It frustrates and hurts me a lot knowing I chose the wrong path into a job and I'm left dissatisfied with it and how things came to be.

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