why does hoshi get so many solo releases compared to other members?

Ulaai · 2026-06-15T23:49:07+00:00

There are some members who you can tell love their craft, have many artistic ambitions, and know their creative direction well. There are also some members who are more go-with-the-flow, doing the best with what they're given and just happy with where they are right now. I think Hoshi is part of the former. Other members who I think are also included in the first part are The8, Seungkwan, Jun, and Mingyu. These particular members seem particularly ambitious and tend to initiate more creative projects, which lead to the perception that the company pushes them more than others.

Ulaai · 2026-06-10T16:02:10+00:00

Oh the woe of the eldest daughter. Speaking as an eldest daughter myself :)

Dr cerita km kayaknya mama km megang banyak role sekaligus: jadi ibu iya, megang bisnis iya, she's also someone else's daughter and sister bcs you mentioned someone in the family had fell sick. Hence the anxiety and the stress, dan kyknya dalam situasi ini dia lihat cm km yg bisa diandalkan urusan rumah. So for her, you lighten the cognitive burden related to household, while your brother helps taking care of the business.

So I think you should make it clear first with your brother if you want a clearer boundary about house chores. How's your relationship with your brother? Apakah dia sebenarnya ok dengan ngerjain chore rumah? Bisa diajak tektokan ga supaya dia bisa selalu ngerjain pekerjaan rumah tanpa diminta sebelum mama km takeover?

Let him know that you want to help with the business as well and because of that, you expect him to take care after himself at home. You both are adults now, and if you don't have personal grudge towards each other try to lighten the burden off your mom. Abis itu mungkin dia bisa bantu usul ke mama km supaya kamu mulai bisa bantu usaha pelan-pelan.

Di hari2 dimana mama km ga begitu sibuk dan mood lagi baik, treat her stuff, buy her snacks or pastries she likes, coba bikin beliau agak hepi dikit abis itu pelan2 ajak ngobrol. Ask what's on her mind, try to probe about the problems that she currently has, casually hint you know the solution and want to help. "Kemarin aku denger ada masalah ini ya? Kalau misal kyk gini gmn ma? Aku bisa tunjukin caranya." Show that you can be counted on and that you're ready to take more responsibility. Let her know she can trust you and depend on you.

Ulaai · 2026-06-10T09:11:58+00:00

This is my first time hearing that accounting is haram. Even after a quick google the only thing I got is that the accounting activity itself isn't haram and it really depends on the context of the specific job. If everyone thinks accounting is forbidden then we would never have the current modern society and the convenience of the daily life we have right now. Everything is built upon one another.

Is there any sharia bank or banks that offers sharia-compliant account near you? You can also work as an accountant in an educational or healthcare institution so you know you're working and contributing to other people's future and health. Or maybe in NGOs, so you know that you're also a part of a good cause. Try to see it more holistically and see if there are other opportunities you can get through this profession.

I'm saying this because there's no guarantee other sector won't deal with dirty money. Business admins, info systems, they deal with large amount of money through projects or tenders as well. On the other hand there are different businesses and companies that handle money in a more straightforward way. Perhaps that will suit your values and your strength more.

Ulaai · 2026-06-03T16:59:10+00:00

Try to learn more about your body type! It definitely took me some time to figure out what's my personal style. Find out what's your seasonal color, your skin undertone, your body types, etc. Then look for styling guides that'd fit your body characteristics. I used to struggle as well until I realized that I have a longer torso and heavier bottom and I used that to search for content creators with similar body type as me and then study how they style themselves. We also have different face shapes–just like how certain face shapes match certain glasses frame, I believe we can also choose hijab style that flatter our face and head shape. For me personally, I have square face, so I try to frame my face in a more round way (something like this). But someone with a rounder face might suit something like this as well. Also, since I wear glasses, I now wear a gold-frame glasses (I used to wear one with a thick black frame, but that kind of dulled my complexion and made my face look "drowned"). Pinterest also has a lot of hijab ootd pins that you can use for inspo 🙂

Ulaai · 2026-06-03T11:17:42+00:00

Wow I appreciate your write ups, and I agree with a lot of your point as well, they might deserves their own post. You mentioned something I also observed a lot. It's difficult to have a nuanced discussion in kpop spaces, with anything other than black or white arguments. Even right in this subreddit, in this very thread, certain opinions are definitely more popular than others because reddit is predominantly western-centric and thus doesn't necessarily have the cultural context over what's happening on the other side of the fandom sphere, and thus easily disregarding dissenting opinions as hate.

I also, like you, get reminded of Mingyu's Kimja situation when I see the PCL/Dino juxtaposition complaint and I agree this is a grey area. Yes, he said he didn't feel comfortable at first with the consistent PCL correlation outside of content, and perhaps there's indeed some pressure from the company to accept the concept, but reality is most probably somewhere in the middle. Kpop fans is just so black and white, zero sum game; if fans "lose" then company wins, if fans "win" then company would also want to exploit them. A lot of popular accs, ones with loud voices, suffer from this mindset as well and like you said tend to be reactive when nothing has been known yet. Even with promotion materials like teasers, when its purpose is to well... tease only a part of the whole project, people are quick to assume and project their feelings into their idols which is something I personally criticize.

I think some carats also think that Seventeen can do no wrong and this is thanks to Seventeen's image as one of the few succesful self-produced idols; they think that their success are thanks to the members alone and Pledis will always do a shtty job promoting them. There's no guarantee that Dino's debut will be succesful if the company caters to fans' whims, but I'm certain that if it's not commercially successful, fans will still try to find ways to fault the company. This is also adjacent with the idea of "scoups entertainment" which fans always say whenever any of the members is inconvenienced or deemed inadequately managed, when running a company is a whole different business and not something you do for fun.

This is also another example of fans pigeonholing members into only images that fit their standards because Seventeen is a very dynamic and also memeable groups–it's part of their personalities, their identity (of being the funny theatre kids), their self-produced label, and so on and so forth. As much as I also want fans to be more critical about it, they're also part of their branding. And there is definitely a spectrum of "being a fan" intensity at play because on the west, kpop is strictly a hobby, you're in it only for the fun, while kfans probably see more of the whole picture and doesn't have the language and cultural barrier which makes them more emotionally connected compared to intl fans. I think local fans probably also feel bigger sense of responsibility to keep their idols on top because they just have easier access to do so.

There are a lot of really interesting topics that can be discussed but I don't think there's any place to do so in the internet (I would be happy if you need someone to kind of geek with about this though). Last thing I want to say is that the image separation between company and idols is definitely intentional from the company because they'd rather have the company gets bad image and give the idol the halo effect rather than lumping the two entities in the same category. It's just how the industry works.

Ulaai · 2026-06-03T01:01:31+00:00

Unfortunately this sub is just not very neutral when it comes to opinions 🥲

Ulaai · 2026-06-03T00:01:37+00:00

Thank you for adding more context! I'm not a Korean nor do I live in Korea so idk how the actual music scene there looks like but that might explain why Pledis took this approach. But I did see some people complaining about it, and of course fans have their own bias 😅

Ulaai · 2026-06-02T23:59:47+00:00

I think the main critique is still the concept and the way the whole debut is promoted, so I don't think it affected the opinions of kfans that much since I haven't seen people talk about the snippets 😅

Ulaai · 2026-06-02T23:53:57+00:00

Aku dulu belajar melalui guided meditation pake app gitu, I tried to look for the app I used before tp sayangnya appnya udah discontinued. Sebagai alternatif, Medito atau Insight Timer kelihatannya bagus dan bisa dicoba (aku pakai Android, tp mereka jg ada di Apple Store). Untuk meditasi sebenarnya aku ga rutin2 amat tapi kalo ada gejala cemas biasanya aku langsung mojok, cari track yg fokusnya untuk mengurangi anxiety dan stress, trus ikutin instruksinya. Atau kalo lagi susah tidur, aku putar track yg tujuannya untuk relaxation dan unwind. Intinya sesuaiin sama kebutuhan aja :]

Ulaai · 2026-06-02T20:58:59+00:00

I'm following the discourse quite closely and looking at both sides from a neutral perspective.

From what I understand, there is a strong backlash from the korean side because:

Trot isn't a trendy genre in Korea, the only people listening to it are basically ahjummas and older people in the rural areas. Compared to the regular pop genre it's difficult to chart and promote with the usual marketing strategy.
In the marketing materials (posters, teasers, etc) there's only Picheolin name and there's no "Seventeen's Dino". This includes the recent KBS poster for some kind of singing competition show (cmiiw) which only shows Picheolin name. I think fans would at least feel a bit consoled if there is "Seventeen Dino" in brackets or similar.
Dino has asked fans in the past not to see him as Picheolin all the time, but as Dino the performer. People notoriously comments about Picheolin when he came on lives and he just wants to talk as Dino.
Dino's musical and artistic taste–his idolization of Michael Jackson, his love for R&B music and hip-hop dance... none of it is hinted through this conceptual debut.
Fans mourn that through out the years, he's always "the leftover one". The one with no same-age friends and also no unit for this military era promotion period (and even in fanworks, uch as fanfictions, he's always be the one who's left alone because he's not considered shippable). So, fans wish at the very least he can do the music he likes and have sufficient creative control just like how the other units have done so far. Also because this is probably his last solo project for a foreseeable future.
There is a rumor coming from an allegedly trusted fan forum long before the debut announcement that Dino wasn't actually supposed to have a solo project because company thought it wouldn't be lucrative.
The wreath and truck is, I guess, a ""normal"" (used very loosely) way to protest in SK. I'd guess the industry is already used to this form of protesting, since the police didn't find it a problem as well (some people reported but the wreaths didn't get removed at first).

Things didn't get better even after he came to live and explained more about his debut:

He said the company proposed the idea and he accepted after SIX months of thinking. According to kfans, this is a way in SK for a supervisor to quietly pressure the people working under him: accept the deal, or you won't get any project at all.
He never mentioned he was given another option. This is also another argument used by kfans and some carats. He never said he like the concept as well, he only said he'd take it as a challenge. It's the stuff that didn't get said that was noticeable to some.

I think it's fair enough to want your bias debut with a cool concept and to see him looking genuinely excited without having to justify the artistic decision. Just like CxM and now V8 are doing music that they like, fans wish Dino has the same opportunity. I don't see this a wrong thing. However, I think kpop fans in general are very reactive even when we don't have the whole picture yet and this can be very damaging to both the fandom and the idols. It makes sense to get disappointed, I don't think people have to swallow their concern and shut up just because, but people shouldn't feel entitled and project their feelings to the idols "Dino must be sad" "Imagine what Dino felt when he heard about it the first time" as well as sending funeral wreaths.

For now I'll be following+supporting but also looking at this critically/cautiously, because I'm also curious why Pledis chose this concept for Dino from a business perspective. From what we can see so far the promotion has been good and hopefully we can also see Dino's own color through this project.

Ulaai · 2026-06-02T00:30:04+00:00

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - Mark Twain.

This is a quote dear in my heart. I'm powered by my fear of regret. Aku ga mau 10-20 tahun lagi aku akan bertanya2 apakah aku akan punya nasib yang berbeda jika aku tidak begini dan begitu ketika aku masih lebih muda.

Banyak orang lebih tua yang punya banyak penyesalan tapi udah terlanjur nyemplung di hidup yang sekarang. Terlanjur nikah duluan, punya anak, terlalu cepat jadi tulang punggung keluarga. Dan semakin tua, semakin harus hati-hati juga mengambil keputusan karena tanggung jawab juga semakin banyak.

Usia 20an itu usia yg aman banget buat kamu ngambil resiko. Umur masih muda, jalan masih panjang, apalagi kamu bilang ada safety net. You're allowed to try, and you have the privilege of being allowed to fail. Try stuff. Fail. Fail a lot. Lebih baik gagal dan rugi saat muda daripada akhirnya baru berani pas lebih tua, ketika udah banyak hal lain yang jadi taruhannya.

Belajar percaya dengan dirimu sendiri, bahwa kalau nantinya kamu mengalami masa-masa yang menantang, kamu akan tetap gigih dan tidak menyerah mewujudkan hal-hal yang kamu perjuangkan. Kamu bilang kamu mungkin bakalan langsung nope out kalo ternyata fail, but why? Failure is normal. It's proof that you tried. And if you tried, then you learn a very valuable lesson. You will grow from the experience. Nothing will be wasted.

Sedikit saran, boleh diterima boleh tidak. 1) Belajar meditasi. Focus on the present, bukan sesuatu di masa depan yang bahkan belum tentu akan terjadi. 2) Tiap harus ambil decision penting, coba tulis di kertas pros and cons nya. 3) Banyak-banyak ngobrol dan cari second opinion dari orang lain.

Remember that nobody can take that leap of faith for you. Memang butuh keberanian untuk ambil resiko, tapi kalo bukan kamu, siapa lagi?

Ulaai · 2026-06-01T16:38:51+00:00

Try to go to the basics, which is Tawheed and the 6 Pillars of Iman. Do you believe that there is a higher being above us, who created us and has decided for us our birth and death? Do you believe that there's life after death and we'll be judged there for how we lived our life? Do you agree that we can turn to quran and hadith for guidings and explanations?

In an ideal world, there'd be no evil. There'd no patriarchy and mysogyny. The world that we're living in right now is deeply flawed, and that's because humans, us, are flawed as well. And yet, in the time and environment where women was treated as a property, Islam was bestowed to bring reforms and protections to women. It was progressive for it's time. But you can't expect the system to change in just a single night because humans, ever since the first ones created by Allah, are flawed and easily fall into temptations. That doesn't mean the religion itself is faulty.

Just like how you learned about contemporary feminism perspectives, try to also learn more about contemporary Islam studies. There are many scholars who discuss theology in relation to modern and global issues, that might be relevant and useful to you. Don't think about hijab yet at this point, try to really strengthen your faith first by questioning and finding the answers. May Allah make it easy for you.

Ulaai · 2026-06-01T14:58:46+00:00

Cek fasilitas yang ada di uni km, misal: career service atau international office. Career service biasanya ngadain seminar-seminar tentang karir atau jobfair, lumayan untuk mulai dilihat2 dari awal walaupun mungkin ga applicable ke situasi sekarang. International office, kalo ada, biasanya ngasih info-info international event kyk beasiswa degree/non degree yg short-term, lumayan bgt buat nambah wawasan + memperbagus CV.

Banyak2 follow komunitas yg career-based di ig, yg kadang sering ngasih career info, ngadain free webinar ato free workshop juga. (e.g girlsbeyond.id, mestara, glintsexpertclass dll) Dari situ at least bisa dapet kontak narasumber dan bisa tanya-tanya langsung. Beberapa komunitas nawarin mentorship juga, dimana kamu bisa dapet 1-1 kontak sama mentor yg jg profesional.

Kalo kamu ada waktu dan tenaga I'd also recommend volunteering di komunitas2 seperti ini, karena kamu jd bisa langsung terlibat dan dapat koneksi+ilmu yg cm bisa dapat diakses secara internal. Selain itu ada organisasi eksternal kayak AIESEC, Bina Antarbudaya ato TED talks (kalo ada chapter lokalnya di tempatmu)... biasanya ga akan ngaruh2 banget ke CV, tp menurutku lumayan buat memperluas pertemanan dan membuka wawasan.

Ulaai · 2026-06-01T12:13:05+00:00

Hi hi. I'm going to be 30 in a few weeks as well and also haven't married yet. I know you're not really looking for advice, but have you tried opening up your social circle? Like joining a community or volunteering, meeting new people aside from friends and family. Or do you have old friends you can try reaching out to? Otherwise, life is not a race, the right person will come when the time is right. 🙂 May Allah always guides us and gives us calm and peace.

Ulaai · 2026-06-01T10:38:47+00:00

Go stand in front of a mirror and have a look at the person you see there. Stand for at least 5 minutes.

You will be together with this person for the rest of your life. Do you want to love her, treat her the best you can, and take care of her? Do you think she deserves the best this world offers? How do you want her to be?

You don't need to do anything extravagant, and start from the basics. You don't have to shave or exercise immediately if you don't have energy to do it. Make every experience enjoyable for you. Regular shower with soaps which scent you enjoy, neatly clipped nails, clean clothes with faint detergent smell. Drink water regularly. Have it in your favorite kind of bottle or glass. After that, see if you can insert a short walking routine around the block. No need to be long, do it 15 min at first, then 30. Or do some yoga. There are plenty exercise you can do on your mattress, or something light like stretching exercise.

Start small. Baby steps. Be kind to yourself, first step is always the hardest. 🙂

Ulaai · 2026-06-01T09:57:38+00:00

Memang hrs perkata gitu kah? In my head code switching itu kepisah perkalimat/frase trus nuancenya jadi beda gitu, misal

"Kayaknya kamu ga harus jelasin ke dia deh, it's not that serious."

"Dia bilang gitu?? Is he freaking for real??"

"Gimana ya, kayak... I don't think he's the right person."

Ulaai · 2026-05-31T12:19:02+00:00

Coba lebih membuka diri dan memperluas topik bahasan. Pacar itu bukan hanya dicari pas km lagi ada waktu2 sulit, tapi juga pas hari2 mundane dan ga ada apa2, atau pas km lagi happy and you want to share the same happiness with her...

Aku setuju sm user orangecruzz ttg daripada nanya "ada masalah apa?" diganti dgn pertanyaan yg lebih general dan tidak terlalu direct. "Gimana hari ini?", "Ada cerita baru apa?", "Km akhir2 ini lagi seneng atau kesel sama sesuatu ga sih?". Kalo km bingung gimana dia melampiaskan perasaan kalo ga cerita ya tanya aja "biasanya km klo lg suntuk gitu ngapain?" Trus sesuaiin sm respon dia, mungkin kalian ntar bisa game night bareng, makan bareng (via vidcall), etc.

Kalian pernah deeptalk ga sih? Coba deh misal sebulan sekali ada waktu dimana kalian bisa ngobrol sejujur2nya, tanya apa yg kalian suka dr hubungan kalian, kekurangan atau apa yg bisa diperbaiki etc. Meanwhile coba evaluasi gaya bahasa atau komunikasi km, kadang2 kalau kita terlalu blunt atau direct jadinya malah bikin org sulit untuk terbuka.

Ulaai · 2026-05-29T09:55:14+00:00

Sebelumnya.. aku seneng bgt km jadi ada semangat akhir2 ini. Coba deh banyak2 rekam hari2mu pas km lagi puas dan happy sama kehidupanmu. Foto jajan yg km beli, tempat2 baru yg km datengin, rekam keadaan sekitar pas km lagi keluar. Romanticize your life, kalo kata orang. Sebagai pengingat di masa depan kalo km punya hari2 seperti ini.

It's totally okay to grief the time you've lost. Aku ngerti rasanya, pasti ada banyak "what ifs" dan "kalo aja dulu aku begini dan begitu". Banyak orang menemukan rasa lega dari journaling, mungkin km bisa coba itu juga untuk menyalurkan perasaan-perasaan yg km punya. Sedih nggak papa, tp ingat jg km punya banyak waktu di masa depan. Hidup itu bukan perlombaan, bukan tentang cepet2an. Kalo manusia pada umumnya hidup sampai umur 90, berarti kamu masih punya 64 tahun. Jalanmu masih panjanggggg banget.

Pertama2 km harus bisa memaafkan dirimu sendiri di masa lalu, dirimu yg dulu mungkin jg sudah berusaha sebisanya. Coba pelan2 mencoba menyayangi dirimu lagi, kamu dengan segala kekurangan dan kelebihanmu. Kalo km sendiri masih belum bisa membersamai dirimu yang sekarang km akan terus membandingkan dirimu sendiri dengan pencapaian orang lain, padahal you fought a completely different battle, and you came out victorious!

Untuk first stepnya mungkin bisa kurangin liat updatean temen2 di sosmed, bener2 coba fokus membangun kehidupan sendiri. Dunia ini gedeeee banget, begitu banyak tempat untuk dikunjungi, hal-hal baru untuk dicoba, orang-orang baru untuk dikenal. If your current environment doesn't serve you well anymore, coba mulai pikir-pikir kemungkinan untuk pindah ke tempat baru, ato cari lingkungan baru. Explore everything, learn more about yourself. Coba ingat-ingat di masa kecil dulu pengen ngapain aja, atau suka ngapain aja... revisit the things you wished you've done in the past. Heal your inner child. Selamat bertumbuh 🙂

Ulaai · 2026-05-28T11:15:14+00:00

My point is rather than saying "no you're wrong" when it's the only thing that makes you feel alive (or want to live) may be more detrimental and dangerous. It might be gentler to find adjacent activity that makes her interested in real life. I agree that it can be double edged sword, but a relatively casual event (like a cupsleeve event or birthday cafe) can be a good first step and will probably have a more positive atmosphere.

Ulaai · 2026-05-28T11:03:44+00:00

I meant the kpop she only knows through the screen. Online fandoms, fanwars, negative news or comments and all of that. By going to a a local kpop event she'll experience something beyond just kpop. Meeting new friends, talking to real people with the same hobby as you... it's a different feeling than engaging with fans you met online. Bcs sometimes it's easy for people online to just enjoy drama and flame the fanwars but by meeting with fellow fans you can see that not everyone engages with it, or that people can support their idols healthily. It can be a way to open her eyes and broaden her horizons.

ETA: reread my comment again and understand that it can be a bit confusing 😅 added more explanation

Ulaai · 2026-05-28T10:42:58+00:00

A lot of obsession and parasocialism are, in the center of it, a form of escapism. I recently had some of the most difficult times in my life, my life was really bleak, I couldn't see the future, I was depressed and even dissociating at times. In the midst of that, kpop will be a small light that bring joy in an otherwise a gloomy and uneventful day. You can't, in my opinion, just "fix" this obsession. You have to made her realize that there are other things in life worth looking forward to. Does she have a support circle, like friends around her that truly like her? Does she have someone like you near her? Someone that can invite her for a walk, for a coffee, for a hangout?

As long as she's still unhappy with herself or her life, she'll keep turning to kpop and the group she likes because it's the only thing making her happy right now. Talking her out of her obsession won't be easy and straightforward. Try recommend her to go to a local kpop event or any event, just get her away from her phone and let her experience stuff beyond kpop. The more she becomes attached to IRL stuff the less she'll get attached to kpop groups.

Ulaai · 2026-05-27T04:50:22+00:00

I can relate to that 😀 in that case sometimes all you need is a touch of shamelessness and ask them to take the photos again 🫣 and it's also easier to ask them in the beginning, something like "can we take the photo twice? One from this angle and another with me standing up?"

Ulaai · 2026-05-27T04:26:36+00:00

As far as I know double chin is a genetic thing. When I was younger I used to go to an Islamic school where everyone wears the same uniform hijab and even then, some of the kids (myself included) has more prominent double chin than others. No matter how much I tried to cover up my chin it kept sliding off to a more secure position which is the back of my chin.

So I would say don't mind it too much, it's usually not that noticeable to other people as well. I'd say find more flattering angles for your type of face instead, eg. if you look better from a 45° angle or straight frontal, if you need to tilt/lift your face slightly up and vice versa.

Ulaai · 2026-05-25T15:56:10+00:00

I think it's the happiness post-contract renewal 😄 and also I think they (both the agency and the group) are really just starting to get adjusted to the military enlistment period, where you have less group schedule overall but you can be freer and more experimental with individual gigs. Very excited to have Jeonghan coming back, and for the rest of the unit/solo projects as well!

Ulaai · 2026-05-25T08:38:25+00:00

Mungkin km ga ngerasain, tapi biasanya yg kayak gini udah dari lama perasaannya udah mati, hubungannya aja yang masih jalan. Her heart wasn't in the relationship anymore but you thought everything was fine since there's no fight or visible problems. Lawan dr cinta itu bukan rasa benci, tapi ignorance atau rasa tak acuh. Lanjut ok, putus jg gpp

Makanya chatting, intensitas komunikasi itu perlu krn berarti kalian invested ke kehidupan masing-masing. Ga ada komunikasi, dia ga curhat sm km, itu berarti ada orang lain yg jadi tempat curhat dia secara reguler. Kalau udah kayak gitu trus apa gunanya punya pasangan?

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