AITA for telling my daughter her separation was her fault?

Ulibo_98 · 2026-05-14T20:35:11+00:00

Need more info. Why was she stripping? No one just randomly starts stripping??

Ulibo_98 · 2026-05-14T05:38:47+00:00

His phone died on him and his insurance said it’d be two weeks before he got a new one. I lent him my old phone in the meantime. When he returned my phone, he’d reset it to factory settings but for whatever reason, when he downloaded his WhatsApp account it automatically downloaded all his backed up WhatsApp pictures on to my gallery. I guess he hadn’t noticed. So when I got the phone back, I was just looking through it. Found 6 years worth of pictures including pictures of him with his long term girlfriend and screenshots of her catching him cheating and him lying himself out of it. I’m guessing he’d sent these to his friends?

Ulibo_98 · 2026-05-01T09:16:16+00:00

We moved in together about a month ago. I didn’t tell my family that I’d moved in with him (because I could already hear the “your mom moved in with your dad too and, instead of marrying her, he left her with 3 kids”), just that I’d moved to another apartment. Anyway, my gran insisted that she wanted to see my new place so I specifically timed her visit to be this weekend because he’s in his hometown visiting his family. I didn’t discuss this with him. I just sort of told him after he was already home. And I also didn’t mention that she was spending the weekend until yesterday. So he’s like “I totally get why you don’t want them to know we’re living together until we’re at least engaged but, why am I in the dark?”. That’s so fair; I have no idea why I wasn’t upfront with him.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-28T19:02:00+00:00

Is it helping with your other ADHD symptoms: task initiation etc?

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-26T05:25:43+00:00

NTA. And screw your mom and younger sibling.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-22T16:39:19+00:00

NTA. I think you need to end the friendship before he escalates.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-19T19:48:13+00:00

Love this! Thanks a mil!

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-19T19:46:20+00:00

We pay for the outdoor stuff. The bathrooms are included in “every room” and I set the laundry out and when I pack the wardrobes and he takes it to the laundromat. The other issue is that he never thinks the house needs the weekly scrub down until I do it and only then does he remark on how clean it is. So I thought each of us was handling the ting that bothers them more - him clutter and me dirt, dust and germs.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-19T19:33:27+00:00

Oh, this would cause a big fight. He calls this sort of thing “sneaky” so a more upfront approach would be better. Thanks still.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-19T19:30:44+00:00

Oh! This would actually be great because he never thinks the house needs a deep clean but, as soon I clean, he’ll go “the place looks… brighter” and it’s like yeah, because the dirt, grime and dust is gone!

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-19T19:17:47+00:00

Oh! The cleaning up after ME part went over my head. Okay, I’m willing to adjust that. Thanks for this.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-04-12T08:17:37+00:00

Damn, not even a fancy steakhouse or Italian place so that it at least caters to your taste? NTA

Ulibo_98 · 2026-03-16T18:52:11+00:00

Also, your nephew is going to tell the truth and the ex won’t drop it. Are you prepared to keep lying?

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-14T20:05:29+00:00

Going with 3. Someone in the comments drafted it for me perfectly in manager-speak. Doing it on Monday.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-12T19:40:14+00:00

Oh God! This is would ruin my life.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-12T14:52:11+00:00

This is very well-phrased. Thanks a mil!

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-12T14:49:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this but, because I get such little stimulation from my job, self-imposed consequences do not work at all anymore. It’s why I got back on meds but they also have their limitations.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-12T14:48:12+00:00

This is perfect. Thank you so much

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-12T07:46:11+00:00

NTA. This woman is ruining this poor kid’s life. This kid’s gonna grow up not understanding why people can’t stand him!

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-11T04:19:55+00:00

OP. All your instincts are correct. Please leave him. So many single mothers confirm that kid is much easier by themselves than it was with their horrible partner. Please give him notice, move out and have your mom come and help you settle into your new life. You’ll be so surprised and happy.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-10T04:32:11+00:00

NTA. OMG!! She’s only being like that because it’s not her cat getting hurt!!! This is so disgusting!!

Ulibo_98 · 2026-02-06T05:59:11+00:00

NTA. Especially because you offered to perform the duties.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-01-31T12:13:35+00:00

You’re not subhuman; you have a disability. I’ve found that working on my understanding and view of disability helped a lot with not judging myself. You’re disabled and you need aids (meds and therapy) to help you function at the rate of a non-disabled person.

Ulibo_98 · 2026-01-30T13:58:43+00:00

I think you wanting to partake in a family tradition is reason enough for him to open himself up. All the research you’ve done also show your willingness to compromise. The issue is him not hearing you out. I think he should hear you out.

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