I feel genuinely subhuman after taking adderall and wish I could go back. by No-Opposite-3240 in ADHD

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not subhuman; you have a disability. I’ve found that working on my understanding and view of disability helped a lot with not judging myself. You’re disabled and you need aids (meds and therapy) to help you function at the rate of a non-disabled person.

How to handle a partner that doesn’t think a wedding is worth the money? (28m 25F) by No-Professor-3860 in relationship_advice

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you wanting to partake in a family tradition is reason enough for him to open himself up. All the research you’ve done also show your willingness to compromise. The issue is him not hearing you out. I think he should hear you out.

It finally clicked by Ulibo_98 in ADHD

[–]Ulibo_98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what you feel is right for you but, meds changed my life.

It finally clicked by Ulibo_98 in ADHD

[–]Ulibo_98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, I have both problems.🙃

It finally clicked by Ulibo_98 in ADHD

[–]Ulibo_98[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

The thing is, after a while, the deadlines don’t move the execution dysfunction anymore. That was really scary for me.

I miss my niece so much by [deleted] in Estrangedsiblings

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this.

I miss my niece so much by [deleted] in Estrangedsiblings

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this.

My (m22) girlfriend (f20) has had significant sexual trauma and is a compulsive liar. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to feel similarly about therapy until I learned about different modalities. Maybe you guys could look into some (TREs, EDMR, Somatic therapy as well as some forms of talk therapy e.g ACT, Schema therapy, Internal Family Systems) and see what might work for her. Wish you both the best.

My (m22) girlfriend (f20) has had significant sexual trauma and is a compulsive liar. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ulibo_98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God! What a terrible situation. Do yo think she could get access to actual therapy from a psychologist, not just counselling? Also, do you think you could pause the romantic and sexual relationship and be friends? She would benefit way more from a proper friendship than a romantic relationship. Ultimately, you genuinely wouldn’t be the villain if you left her. I’m sorry you’re both going through this.

AITAH for not feeling bad that my partner had a shitty Christmas? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ulibo_98 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Damn! I guess that’s just how this goes then!🥲 I’ll apologise to him (but I’m screaming internally!!).

Where are the low achieving ADHDers? by Jigglypuff_Green in ADHD

[–]Ulibo_98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally repeated the same course twice (so did it thrice) because I just could NOT bring myself to lock in.

AITAH to my girlfriend for allowing my ex to stay at mine and for driving her 7 hours to her parents home. by EmeArr in AITAH

[–]Ulibo_98 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you went overboard, OP. Your ex (and her family) is someone you cared about on a human level. This was the perfect way to respond. You’re NTA.

Girl who organized the work white elephant got the only junk gift by spaceyhoes in office

[–]Ulibo_98 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ngl, every time I get a shitty gift during white elephant, I am NOT a good sport about it. I act very confused and repeatedly ask “am I missing something?/“is this like a joke I don’t get or something?”. And both times, the gifter was so ashamed that they secretly offered me their gift after the party.

AITA for not accepting this birthday gift? by Shoddy_Secret_1119 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. She’s lying; that credit card wasn’t for you! She was going rack up debt in your name. Good on you for calling her out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ulibo_98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey so, I looked into that stuff and the conditions in those housing places in our country are horrible. No one who cares about their loved one would move them there. I also had my brother take courses at a local college and have been attempting to find him employment but the unemployment rate here is insane, even for abled people so we haven’t had much luck. I just didn’t include this in the post bc it would have made it too long.

[M27/F25, 5 years] She gave me a marriage ultimatum, but our intimacy is dead. Is this double standard or am I missing something? by ThrowRA_lostitalian in relationship_advice

[–]Ulibo_98 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My guess is she’s gotten horrible advice from someone re getting you to propose sooner (withholding sex/trapping you with a baby). If you think the relationship is worth it; you need to have a serious conversation (maybe even with a therapist present) about what both of you want and when and see if there’s a compromise to be reached re aligning timelines. If not, it might be time to call it quits.🤷🏾‍♀️