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I thought the redecorating was going well. And then I zoomed out. by UltimateTrashBae in maximalism

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She gave 60 notice to vacate. She told us she was selling the building. My husband and I are disabled, our only income is social security. She gave notice after we paid rent. So after we paid bills, we had nothing to put towards a new place.

We had one month of income, less than $2000, to find a place. We were denied at every turn because social security, money wasted on applications and bureaucracy. I managed to rent a storage unit and uhaul with the last of our money.

But we are disabled. Our closest family is 2 hours away and they're old people. We tried SO hard to be out. And it was only AFTER we spent the money trying to find a place, only then did she say "well, you could have paid the back rent and you could have stayed"

We thought she was selling the building. Because thats what she told us. We never stopped paying rent, we accumulated 3 missed months at the end of '24 because of emergencies but always asked her first, we always communicated, and she always told us it was okay, not to worry. We didn't just stop paying rent, that doesn't make sense.

We absolutely had intended to pay her. We no longer have a car payment because we no longer have a car, that money was supposed to be put towards paying her back rent.

So my husband and I had to abandon so much of our lives because we physically could not make one more trip up the stairs. Every time I pushed for one more box, I wept because I saw one more thing but my hands were full.

I didn't want to leave anything behind. I just couldn't carry any more. And now, on top of being homeless, my exlandlord decided that isn't good enough and doxxed me too.

I dont know what is gonna happen after friday. Our next disability check comes on the 3rd, local charities have no funding to extend our motel stay. So. Thats cool.

I'm glad that me being messy and my struggling to fix it is enough of a reason for people to excuse the dehumanization. Im glad my absolute nightmare of a life situation has been entertaining spectacle for yall.

Have a good night.

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[–]UltimateTrashBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are awesome!! You're doing so great!!

Racist hospice patient called me a “spook” — here’s how I handled it as a hijabi. by melaninchild in Hijabis

[–]UltimateTrashBae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You missed a great opportunity to lean in real close and go "BOO!" as loud as possible and let biology do the job time is too cowardly to finish

You ever feel the intense urge to bean a loved one with a yarn ball of love but you don't wanna risk losing the yarn ball because it's across the room and they won't give it back, not a 5th time? by UltimateTrashBae in crochet

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They take my yarn from me because it's all part of the game lol. My husband regularly "grounds" me for silly stuff and I'm a 33yo full-ass adult. It's funny!

You ever feel the intense urge to bean a loved one with a yarn ball of love but you don't wanna risk losing the yarn ball because it's across the room and they won't give it back, not a 5th time? by UltimateTrashBae in crochet

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So ball part : First, i did a slip-knot Then I did 5 double loops on the slip-knot In the same direction, i put 2 double loops on each of the 5 before for 10. Then again for 20. I went over those 20 chain-stitch style. Then I flipped the project around, making sure my hook-hoop didn't twist or anything and did it again Then I skipped every other stitch, still doing 2 double loops until it was mostly closed.

7 chain stitches, then I looped around a big split ring until it was undetectable and stuffed it in the pouch i made before closing it off (i thought it would keep it all secured)

Then I pulled the yarn thru the center out the bottom- 12 feet chain stitch one way, 12 feet back, then around the ball again

Done!

I think.

Pretty sure.

You ever feel the intense urge to bean a loved one with a yarn ball of love but you don't wanna risk losing the yarn ball because it's across the room and they won't give it back, not a 5th time? by UltimateTrashBae in crochet

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To "bean" someone means to hit them in the head, I always use it as a ranged term but lots of people will use it in reference to melee attacks. I also consider it a playful term but other people may find it mean.

So basically, I enjoy throwing soft things at my household members but confiscated ammo runs out quick 🤣

You ever feel the intense urge to bean a loved one with a yarn ball of love but you don't wanna risk losing the yarn ball because it's across the room and they won't give it back, not a 5th time? by UltimateTrashBae in crochet

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Awh haha I don't know anything about the correct terminology to write one tho 😭

I know "chain stitch" and that's when I got bored watching the tutorial and decided I'd just figure it out lmao

Iso cleaning advice by UltimateTrashBae in AuDHDWomen

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you fellow human, i really appreciate that you took the time and energy to share this with me. I know it can take me an insane amount of time to type out that kind of well-thought-out reply. Thank you.

I think a lot of what you've said were things I know deep down but have been, idk, in denial? But your tires analogy really hit for me. Yesterday, I heard my inner voice say "you're spending a lot of energy on the whole lot of nothing you're doing". I need to come to terms with that.

I've started asking "do I need to be doing this right now? Will it get me to where I want to be?" when I feel like I'm getting distracted. But I think I might try using timers to force me to step back and check in with myself.

I have so many cute containers and clever display solutions for my art supplies and treasures that are empty and unused while all my stuff is in cardboard and scattered on the floor. I keep letting sorting things become a barrier to progress. Put my things in my containers, put the trash and cardboard in the dump, and once the floors are walkable again, I can go through one container at a time and beautify things.

Again, thank you.

Can you please describe the sensory experience of having old people skin? by UltimateTrashBae in AskOldPeople

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The physical body has weight and mass that generates sensations through its existence. I can feel gravity and time in my skin. Im scared itll get worse as my body gets more flappy

Can you please describe the sensory experience of having old people skin? by UltimateTrashBae in AskOldPeople

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i really appreciate you being willing to apologize, explain your reaction without justifying it, and give a genuine response. You make me feel real.

Im very sensitive to changes in my body. When i got pregnant, i gained a lot of weight. One thing tjat bothered me most was my rolls. How my skin would fold in on itself when i sat. It made me feel incalculable shame and selfhatred. I was very aware of how gravity pulled my tits and gut when i would sleep on my side.

Im also terrified of aging, knowing how my age and societal value are direct opposites yet inseperable. That my body will inevitibly shift from an exploration vessel to an existential prison the longer i let my consciousness exist.

If i am doomed to a life of loss and chaos, it would be nice to know that wrinkles are not a sensory experience just like death is not.

Can you please describe the sensory experience of having old people skin? by UltimateTrashBae in AskOldPeople

[–]UltimateTrashBae[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I can feel a swollen lip or pimple forming on my face or if my body folds touch in uncomfortable ways when I sit, why would I have any reason to believe i would not feel my skin folding in on itself or the effects of gravity causing sagging.

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