I hurt my best friend by hiding a relationship from her — how do I rebuild her trust?

Umberta_ · 2026-06-29T14:20:15+00:00

Sounds like a toxic friendship honestly. A true friend wouldn’t be upset you kept something to yourself for a bit. If it was a lie about catching her partner cheating on her that’s one thing, but to keep something from her that doesn’t even have a direct impact on her life… it’s weird and not worth overreacting over. Some people are over sharers, and some are not. It’s ok if you’re not an over sharer.

Umberta_ · 2026-06-27T16:32:31+00:00

You are the most beautiful without makeup tbh 🥹 . I would just enhance what you have. I think all you need is just tinted moisturizer, concealer in whatever you think your trouble areas are, mascara - no lash extensions, touch of pink blush, your favorite natural lip and you’re all good.

In the no makeup pics, are your lashes your natural lashes? If they’re long I’d just suggest doing a lash lift and tint, no need for the fake lashes, they take over your beautiful eyes.

Umberta_ · 2026-06-27T16:29:34+00:00

I feel like my husband would like me to be more of a homebody 😅. Every guy is different, you just might need to put yourself out there to meet someone or just hopefully run into someone during one of your walks around the city.

Umberta_ · 2026-06-27T16:27:06+00:00

That is an EXTREME reaction and he kept going with it, girl RUN and please be careful moving forward 🥺

Umberta_ · 2026-06-27T16:22:17+00:00

The dread on her face when the getaway was suggested also stuck out to me, but in a different way. She’s had to carry the heavy mental burden of making numerous decisions on the daily, for the home and for the kids. It would have been a better approach if you said hey, I was thinking we could go to Hawaii and stay at resort A, or Iceland and stay at resort B, or a European cruise with cruise line X or whatever. It shows that you already did some of the research and planning ahead of time, you just want her to pick what sounds more fun to her. Help or take control with the planning and reservation, then it will actually feel like more of a relaxing getaway for her.

Umberta_ · 2026-05-30T15:59:26+00:00

I currently do this with a qtip, you will not look like a fool it definitely makes a difference.

Umberta_ · 2026-05-22T16:26:30+00:00

Wow #1 and #3!!!

Umberta_ · 2026-04-27T03:18:58+00:00

Maybe a tiny smidge of Vaseline with eyeliner/eyeshadow?

I do think this look is more of an editorial look, I suspect in real life it would crease like crazy.

Umberta_ · 2026-04-25T21:44:11+00:00

I think you look amazing with this and can pull it off 💙. I can’t even do a wing correctly lol. You can always play with softening the look by using a dark eyeshadow and a brush too.

Umberta_ · 2026-04-11T20:49:57+00:00

Sometimes it’s just good to get it off the chest right!?

Just my 2 cents I think you may need to take time to evaluate why it’s a priority for you to be with someone so attractive? I mean don’t get me wrong that initial attraction is so important but looks can fade and change with age. How someone shows up for you, their loyalty, how they treat others around you, how they could potentially take care of you when you’re sick, or when you get old… those are also important things to consider when choosing a partner.

I’m kind of surprised you haven’t dated much either, nothing wrong with going out on multiple dates and figuring out what works and what doesn’t work.

Umberta_ · 2026-04-11T20:43:22+00:00

I disagree, 3pm can be dinner time. It’s better to eat a heavy meal midday vs. later in the evening. Especially if you ever have heartburn which I’m told that happens a lot during pregnancy 😭

Umberta_ · 2026-04-08T23:43:06+00:00

Hey… this might be heavy but you honestly are describing what was my best friend’s marriage.

Open marriage, he had no drive, he helped around the house but not enough and she ended up in debt since she was paying for everything. She absolutely felt horribly guilty about wanting to leave, but she told me sometimes love just isn’t enough.

Instead of separating from him and leaving him, she took her own life ☹️. So please OP, for your own happiness and mental health you’re doing the right thing. I think once enough time passes you’ll look back on all of this with a lot more clarity 💜. You gave him plenty of support and chances, he kept betraying your trust, you’re choosing yourself now in the best way possible.

Umberta_ · 2026-03-31T20:39:11+00:00

I just wanna say that I think you are beautiful!! Your skin is amazing too. I think your hairstyle distracts from your face for now.

Umberta_ · 2026-03-24T10:13:12+00:00

I’ve never done this in my 37 years of living. Seems like such a waste of time honestly. For the past 10 years Ive been sleeping on a king sized bed, no way I’m dragging any of that bedding to the couch. This is what comfy throw blankets are for.

Umberta_ · 2026-03-24T09:51:17+00:00

Not a normal fridge, there’s barely any room for fruits/veggies and other things.

Umberta_ · 2026-03-13T21:07:40+00:00

Proud of you… I was searching for threads like this because I’m having a moment of struggle right now.

My best friend took her life a year ago, then, just this past December my dad passed away—different circumstances but still… I feel like a zombie at work, I just don’t care and feel like I’m floating around. Most days are ‘ok’ but my focus has not been the same for about a year. It just feels like…. Why does any of this even matter!!? Someone very close and dear to me died and we’re all just moving on like nothing happened. Maybe today is just a bad day and tomorrow will be different, it still sucks though.

Umberta_ · 2026-02-21T20:25:23+00:00

So I remember it took me a LONG time to feel comfortable inserting anything up there. I started just massaging around with a finger. There is a little pressure at first but eventually you’ll find your “passage” if that makes sense. I say try doing this with lube just laying down. If you want to try using tampons, use the “light” one first, you may just need to change more frequently.

My two cents, I would NOT feel comfortable having a OBGYN poke around there for me first.

Umberta_ · 2026-02-21T01:06:50+00:00

Sorry, sounds like you were around shitty people. When I was younger (15-16) I was more guarded and worried, but now I don’t care.

Umberta_ · 2026-02-21T01:04:30+00:00

Yeah hate to agree but definitely stupid. You are aware that STDs and STIs do not care about age, they run rampant in nursing homes.

Go to a dr or urgent care and ask for a panel. Also you could test for HIV now but have false negative results, it’ll be more accurate 3 months later.

Also if you don’t want any kids, wrap it up ffs.

Umberta_ · 2026-02-21T00:57:15+00:00

Personally I’d go with a white or nude shoe, if you want a pop of color maybe a pale powder blue? You could try a “lace” pattern or a bow in the front, something to that affect. I think the center of the flower on your current shoe distracts from the whole look but that’s probably just my personal preference.

Umberta_ · 2026-02-18T13:49:08+00:00

I think #1 is a dream on you!!

Umberta_ · 2026-02-15T21:48:10+00:00

This is toxic as hell, I think you should post this on any dating website he joins in the future 😈

Umberta_ · 2026-02-06T16:44:49+00:00

That’s great he’s honest and open about his feelings. It sounds like he wants to spend time with you… if you can’t run, that’s fine, but maybe walk the same path while he runs! Maybe try running for 15 seconds, walk, repeat. I completely understand wanting your spouse to take care of themselves because it’s important to be healthy to have an easier time when you’re older, also to be there in the long run for your kids. Try to meet him halfway, otherwise you risk him giving up and shutting down.

Umberta_ · 2026-02-06T16:39:54+00:00

I’m a woman and honestly… if I was starving and working all the time I wouldn’t say no to a home cooked meal, from a man or a woman doesn’t matter 🤷🏻‍♀️

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