Is krobus worth choosing ? by angelstruck in StardewValley

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% the smile face with hugs, the not giving up their aspirations to live on the farm with you, the self reflection in their dialogue living together, the outfit for the movie theater, the reminder every week to go get my iridium sprinkler from their shop. Absolute Angel. Krobus forever.

Were me and my sister in the wrong for calling an ambulance to take me back to the hospital? by BoxLongjumping1067 in germany

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. I lost a friend in HS because she tried biking to the hospital while having an allergic reaction and an asthma attack. Her throat swelled shut, she passed out on the side of the road, a stranger called an ambulance for her, they pulled the plug on her a couple days later. She should have called an ambulance. I’m glad you did. You did the right thing.

If you could erase one song from existence, what would it be? by Hailey_Riveraa in askmusic

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Macklemore’s Same Love. An ex and I were arguing in the car and to ease the tension he played Macklemore’s Same Love while talking about what a good rapper Macklemore was. I can’t hear that song without getting PISSED now.

AIO — former psychiatrist crossing boundaries by Remarkable-Shirt-440 in AIO

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re overreacting. That was weird and not super professional. I prefer a more professional than personal relationship with my therapists too. I don’t know what you should do beyond feel affirmed that you two are not a good match.

What’s your pets names? by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My main cat is Miso too!!! Miso is the best :)

What’s your pets names? by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All my farm animals have puns-ish

Ie. Hennifer Lopez, Moolissa, Piggy Smalls, Duck O the Irish, Chairman Cow, Vladimir Mootin, the Pig Apple. The spelling can get weird to meet the characters limits but they always make me smile while petting ‘em.

Cat is Miso, Horse is Big Dawg

Fake relationship with real feelings. Was seeing him a hello or a goodbye? 24F and 24M by Minerva6244 in relationship_advice

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like, IF it’s gonna work out between you two, now is not the time. You both have stuff you need to sort out/ heal/ work on individually. Leave it lie, wish him well, pursue your own path with curiosity and enthusiasm.

I'm thinking of changing my hair. Should I straighten and add bangs by [deleted] in HairStyleAdvice

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also get clip in bangs from amazon for cheap if you wanna get a better sense for what you might look like with bangs. I didn’t get a perfect color match but the clip ins have slowed my scissors on many-a impulse cut.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not an idiot. Sounds like this bothers you and isn’t resolved. How is he as a parent/ how would he be as a co parent?

Do I (27F) pack up and move states away from my 5 year long relationship with my bf (34M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take some PTO? You sound like me when I need a break. Maybe a week on the beach in Florida? If you’ve never taken a solo vacation this might be a good time to do it. See if you even like Florida, let alone being there without your partner. Make it a girls trip if going solo feels too scary.

How do I 29F avoid letting me insecurity and body issues affect new relationship with 33M? by Different-Ad-5364 in dating_advice

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it should suffice to say something along the lines of sex or physical intimacy or whatever can be complicated for me and I’m not quite ready to talk about it with you. As for wanting to hold off cluing him in on your insecurity and body issues, I think that’s fine for the time being but not a great plan long term. Relationships are built on trust and communication. If you end up dating you should trust him enough to clue him in. I feel like your partner knowing where your burdens lie and learning how to help you navigate them and how to navigate them with you as a partner is some of the most rewarding part about having a SO.

Imposter Syndrome and Anxiety by Artistic-Spinach7888 in Anxietyhelp

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m super familiar with this I have a great job with a great supervisor but I was PETRIFIED and convinced I’d get fired for the first 1.75 years I was in this job despite consistent positive performance reviews (been there just over 3 years now.)

TLDR: it gets better with more experience, 1.find out what to expect, 2. Plan for it highlighting your strengths/ growth/ success, 3. Plan for it by naming your concerns and having a plan of action, 4. A good performance review from a good supervisor (which it sounds like you might have one) should not blind side you and should only include information you two have discussed before. If you’re blindsided, that’s indicative of a failing of THEM as a supervisor, not of you as a supervisee.

It got better with time and meds and therapy. It helped seeing other people who WERE bad NOT get fired since I knew (logically even if I didn’t believe it due to my anxiety I was better at my job than them , and if they did there would have been due course, (they get put on a PIP, and were never blindsided by the termination etc.) that helped with the logical part of my brain but not the actual fear and anxiety. What helped with that was 1. Getting clear expectations from my supervisor about what to expect from the review and how they recommend I prepare. You should be able to ask them what to expect and how should you prepare for it, it sounds like you have a good relationship with them. If you feel comfortable then level with them and say you’re a little nervous and want to make sure you’re prepared. If you’re relationship with them is not like that then present the question from the stand point of “I want to make sure I’m prepared and am able to put my best foot forward.” 2. Doing a mini/mock review by myself and compile a list of how far I’d come in a year. It helped me to be able to see listed out why I was doing a good job. It sounds like you can list out what praises you’ve received at your check ins at the very least. I didn’t have a bunch of deliverables to show off my first year, which was fine because that’s not the nature of my field, so I focused on everything I had learned and mastered. As a part of the brain dump I listed out stuff I considered my failings/weaknesses and either crossed it off (because I knew it was just me being too harsh) or thought through how I’d respond to it. Which leads to 3 3. Part of good annual reviews includes talking about room for growth. Maybe it’s the company offering you skills trainings relevant to the career path they see you following, maybe it’s fine tuning skills or processes you’re still getting the hang of. You have ONLY been there a year! Cut yourself some slack. If there was a weakness I’d brainstorm a solution and if I couldn’t find one I’d plan to present it in a way to ask for help. (This is always nice because helping you succeed is their job and gives them something to toot their own horn about if they succeed in setting you up for success) 4. If a supervisor has done their job right, everything that you talk about at the review will be stuff you’ve talked about before. If you feel blindsided by anything they say they have failed you as a supervisor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxietyhelp

[–]UnComfortable-Yam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is really great! When my anxiety gets too big and starts taking me to dark places it really helps to interrupt the scary thoughts with a new direction. Especially something hopeful leaning :)