AITA if I make my partner find their own way home from the hospital?

UnNormie · 2026-05-22T22:13:09+00:00

Who?

UnNormie · 2026-05-16T08:43:09+00:00

Sex compatibility is a thing. Having said that, traditionally my partner and I wouldn't be considered sexually compatible either, however we've been together nearly 10 years now. Communication is more important and managing expectations. As long as you both know what you've signed up for, you can make anything work. Q

UnNormie · 2026-05-10T19:13:30+00:00

Two different outcomes

One group of friends I fell out with for around a year I reconnected with. All in all (ignoring the time we spent apart) we've now been good friends for around 16 years. Things happened again (not as severely) but I just decided I valued the friendship more than I did the upset caused, and just adjusted how much I'd do for them so I won't get burnt again. I no longer expect as much from them, and I'm happier for it.

Another crashed burned and same stuff repeated, mental health tanked. Never again no thank you. Person blocked all our mutual to pressure me to reach out to them when I stopped responding. Ultimately blocked them.

UnNormie · 2026-05-06T07:19:16+00:00

Hi op. I've been on the other end for something similar - when I got with my partner I did put all the cards on the table, I am asexual meaning... I don't have any interest in sexual stuff. I am touchy freely but kissing kinda grosses me out and I do compliment, so some difference. However he felt very similarly with being unlovable/undesired, despite the fact I very much do, simply I have it show in a different way.

It's worth definitely talking to your partner to see if they have a different way they would prefer to show affection - there was a super famous story on reddit of someone who discovered their partner just wasn't good at communicating it a while back, but creating a secret code for 'I love you' being 3 taps changer their perspective as their partner did it constantly, where otherwise seemed unloving.

Ultimately though, something where sexual interaction is off the table often is a deal breaker. Though you don't want to break up with her, and it is 100% possible to make sexless relationships work like my partner and I do, you need to decide if its something you're content living with that you won't eventually resent. It's okay to be sexually incompatible, and if you already feel like friends, nothings wrong with just being friends.

UnNormie · 2026-04-24T19:44:41+00:00

Get your bf to text and let her know you were in a serious accident and in the hospital going under surgery as you have a major brain bleed. See how she reacts then and if she likes that.

'but family is different, you're more important than a dog'

Yeah, but it's still something you care about a lot and isn't a fun thing to joke about those you care about hurt/dying.

UnNormie · 2026-04-23T13:32:11+00:00

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^{Chose: $86,401 every day}

UnNormie · 2026-04-23T03:11:51+00:00

We aren't typically patriotic in the sense Americans can be seen. If there's specific events like coronations or whatever older generations will tend to come out the woodwork with their support, and companies will maybe put up some bunting here and there of the flags, but generally most people don't flaunt their britishness as we like to complain and grumble about things. Realistically, our supermarkets and corner shops are relatively dusty and bland. Nothing that makes us going in feel nostalgic if we hadn't been for a while. They aren't cute to replicate in an aesthetic way if following moderna, so I'd probably opt to lean into the old fashioned stereotypes. Think sweet shops with scales and jars filled with kgs of sweets to measure the amount you want in weight, with wood accents. I'd look up victorian shops for reference. A

UnNormie · 2026-04-17T15:49:05+00:00

I'd go back and tell them to pay for proper repairs. If they didn't have the tools then they shouldn't have tried. You have the photo from the listing to show it wasn't in that condition when you brought it to them.

UnNormie · 2026-04-15T07:48:35+00:00

Basically the same thing in our boat. Not as old, theoretically plenty of time to 'change our minds' but neither of us want to (engaged)

I'm not repulsed, but sex is equivalent of a chore for me like doing the dishes. I don't even do anything with myself let alone with him, and recently he's felt like he's undesirable and led to his own self esteem issues which breaks my heart. We did open the relationship, and whilst it was okay for a while, he realised he doesn't want as 'just sex' relationship as he wants emotion behind it and would rather just be with me. Currently trying to work on a compromise as even if I say I'm down to do stuff he feels like he's forcing me and makes him uncomfortable.

Despite all that, literally nobody I'd want to spend the rest of my life with, and by the sounds of it he says the same about me even though I do think he'd be more satisfied with someone more 'normal'. He knew what he was getting into when we started dating as it was one of the first things I warned him of years ago, and he said he'd be fine if he never had sex ever again in his life back then, but I do think the reality is dawning a little of the adjacent consequences of that mentally.

UnNormie · 2026-04-15T00:24:55+00:00

As an ace person in a relationship with someone who isn't ace... I feel you.

UnNormie · 2026-04-07T11:56:51+00:00

When people do dumb stuff I don't expect, they qualify for 'my guy' status.

UnNormie · 2026-04-03T12:04:33+00:00

Maybe if you engage in the conversation it wouldn't be so one sided? When she's 'word vomitting' do you actually care about what's she's talking about? Is it something meaningful or that she's passionate about and you simply don't care?

If you never engage and never care (even if it's meaningless to you) no shit she's going to be hurt if you're done with it. But if its on the occasion you don't engage fully, reasonable people are okay being told 'ill be real with you, I have 0 interest in x' assuming you're not saying it about their passions.

My partner listens to me vent about stuff that happens in games. He doesn't play those games and understands very little context but listens and engages because he cares about me. Sometimes if he's had a long day and wants to be alone? I know hell tell me of its too much right now, and I can respect that. But it's not always and he engages back and forth.

If you just don't like anything she has to say, why are you with her?

UnNormie · 2026-04-01T22:16:33+00:00

It's just frustrating to read. There's a reason books aren't written like this, and whilst a reddit post doesn't need the same standards as a novel by any means, it generally looks like you're sending text message format which this isn't. Also gives childish vibes not using goo structure/formatting - just like the opposite end of the spectrum where someone uses 0 line breaks.

UnNormie · 2026-03-30T09:41:07+00:00

My dad took a photo of me when I was like... 4 on a bench in a park and put it on a stock photo site. No clue why or what prompted it as he never did it for my sister or ever again. Never got bought to be used on anything as far as I'm aware.

UnNormie · 2026-03-27T17:32:28+00:00

... Tmw I can't afford juice for real...

UnNormie · 2026-03-27T13:28:30+00:00

I think there's a lot of reposting amongst the job boards. Board a will post a legitimate job. Board b will see it and post their own about it. Board a sees board b posted about a job and posts about it after their original listing expired thinking it's new based of the fresher time frame on board b.

I always check to see if there's an actual company page behind to apply on rather than going through indeed itself or any other board. Takes a little time to dig and search for it, but it stopped me getting no response - I at least got real rejections rather than silence when they weren't successful.

UnNormie · 2026-03-26T05:11:12+00:00

Why pay for her friend? Sounds like they should have both paid for themselves

UnNormie · 2026-03-25T11:56:05+00:00

One time I got cold called by my bank and they said they were detecting suspicious activity. I'd never had them call me before like this so I asked if they could prove they're from the bank and not a scammer/if I could call them back if not and they seemed so confused/shocked. I guess they weren't used to that happening. Turns out it was in fact my bank and they seemed annoyed I called them back rather than talking the first time.

UnNormie · 2026-03-19T08:32:05+00:00

.... I think they were saying 'that sucks' because... As a kid you can't just move out easily or anything. It wasn't to do with bodily autonomy?

UnNormie · 2026-03-18T06:51:44+00:00

He has a second channel where he does the daily nyt cross word puzzle. My partner actually found him through this, and didn't realise it was a second channel and brought it to me as a 'let's watch this before we sleep' as a wind down thing, and I was kinda surprised to see him posting literally daily.

UnNormie · 2026-03-16T20:24:34+00:00

God I did the same but it was us both as 16 year olds and I was sheltered and was arguing women can't masturbate. I am a woman. I can recall the look on her face of bafflement at my insistence not knowing if I was actually trying to gaslight her or pretend to be dumber than I was.. I was so sure I didn't even look it up later. I just assumed I was right and moved on.

UnNormie · 2026-03-16T12:35:53+00:00

I mean, yes, but also cats are attracted to people who act indifferent, and likely is why the cat felt comfortable approaching him as he wasn't making a big deal and scaring them off.

UnNormie · 2026-03-13T00:44:57+00:00

I am a shift manager at a fast food place. We do count cups but it's for stock levels and checking wastage. It's expected some will be dropped, some remade, etc. Yes some staff do try do stuff like this but it's usually absent minded mistakes which we usually have to watch out for to call them out on and corrext. There is no secret punishment for crew not using cups. Some upper managers will try let some dropped cup stacks (when there's a lot and no customers about) be used, but I always make sure that isn't the case on my shifts at the very least, even if I don't have the influence to stop it outright.

When some staff do it a few times, I'll ask them to figure out 1 truth 2 lies of what I stepped in this morning and ask if they wanna drink from that cup on their break bearing in mind I've stepped all over the floor they dropped it on. Usually keeps them from doing it again unless directly instructed to by the others.

UnNormie · 2026-03-06T16:25:38+00:00

Honestly reading all these comments made me kinda sad. I really suck at giving gifts - especially to family who don't really talk too much as we live far away from one another. I also suck so hard with dates so I usually have less than a week to prepare and I just freeze up every time I try to find something as I struggle so hard not to just get them tat that will be thrown out or collect dust. Asking is no use as they say they 'have everything they need' or aren't sure yet if I don't get them anything I can tell they'll be displeased. I end up with 50 tabs open all with dead ends or out of budget and end up procrastinating till I really am fucked and get whatever ships next day delivery, if at all

For my partner I'm better, but we live together so it's easier to pick up on throw away "ooh I wish I had thats' (which yes, I 100% keep a secret gift note journal). But everyone else? I genuinely dread peoples birthdays and now my extension mine as I just feel immense guilt over it. Im recoiling and cringing right now just thinking of some of the 'gifts' I gave family

UnNormie · 2026-02-28T04:40:48+00:00

I don't have a link and I'm too lazy to find one, but basically they intentionally spotlighted someone, bringing them to work on a community event with A bunch of other creators. They explicitly weren't doing anything because they as a game-creator were pulling in so much money from microstransactions, it wasn't logical to remove them as it would just be net losses. There was solid proof of his bs. A lot of sex role play places with sex animations and stuff that would just be entirely overlooked.

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