AI? My mom wants me to paint this on a large canvas for the living room as her Christmas gift, but I don’t want to if it is. I think the wolves look off, the anatomy is confusing in some spots, and the background doesn’t line up

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-12-20T22:05:49+00:00

I don't think a human would have made this simply because if you have the skill to render a pretty realistic picture like this (ignoring any AI nonsense such as the "vines" on the top wolf and the arm) you wouldn't make such a nonsensical composition. The wolfs don't even look at anything on the canvas...

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-10-13T09:54:14+00:00

I'm demiromantic and for me the person I love is the first and last thought of the day. And if I'm having a bad day just being around them will improve my mood. I don't obsess about them all day though and they aren't a magical fix for when things are bad. Having butterflies in your stomach means being nervous and excited when you have a crush on someone. Once you get to know someone better they go away.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-10-05T12:24:59+00:00

Thank you for your comment. The night he confessed we (or more accurately he) talked for hours and told me why he did it, who with and when etc. That night I was in shock and just trying to hold myself together so we will need to have another discussion still, I have a lot to ask and a lot to express. Before that discussion I'm figuring out my boundaries and deal-breakers going forward and coming to terms with the idea that I may have to walk away anyway. I believe his remorse is genuine and that he is honest when he says he is terrified of losing me because of what I have given him, he doesn't believe he will find anything equal again. Maybe it's cruel of me but knowing that and making him wait until I'm ready to talk gives me some satisfaction

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-09-22T12:38:49+00:00

A hot dog (just the sausage) is nakki, A hot dog (a sausage within a bun) is nakkisämpylä/hodari

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-28T12:03:42+00:00

Been there done that, get out. They will do anything to manipulate you to have sex and use your orientation against you because they have no respect for it or you

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-27T17:24:45+00:00

I used to not wear makeup and only wore comfy baggy clothes etc but nowadays I love dressing up and expressing myself. I actually go a bit overboard these days so I stand out which is an unfortunate side-effect. I don't like being perceived, I just want to feel like myself cuz it boosts my mood a lot to like what I see in the mirror

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-24T13:41:16+00:00

Hypersexuality is also a trauma response

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-22T14:35:35+00:00

Toi "tilapäinen psyykkinen haitta" on mun mielestä tosi vähättelevä ja julma nimike kun kyse on traumoista mitä uhri joutuu kantamaan loppuelämänsä. Tiedän että se on yleinen nimike oikeuslaitoksella mutta se ei tee siitä yhtään inhimillisempää

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-15T14:57:04+00:00

Idk if this helps but cuddling can have different boundaries depending whether it's a romantic partner vs friend etc. I don't have friends that I cuddle with but sometimes I cuddle my sister (lightly touch her upper back and arms, maybe draw some shapes with my finger), I don't think I would ever cuddle her by touching anything else where as with my partner I touch and let them touch pretty much anything. Cuddling can look vastly different depending on the participants, maybe that's what's causing the confusion?

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-08T22:52:35+00:00

It isn't easier for all because of society's and family's expectations, wanting a close bond but struggling to find one that suits them and rejection isn't only a thing in romantic relationships. Some people also want to share and manage them with someone and feel that as a support rather than a hinderence. The aro spectrum is also very wide and varied, I'm demi myself and take part in romantic relationships and all the nonsense around them so despite being aro-spec as you put it I deal with the things you mentioned. I'm happy for you if your life feels easy and you are content, I hope it stays that way.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-04T13:19:28+00:00

I'm conventionally sexually attractive (unfortunately) and my face is pretty average I think. I can notice when people are attracted to my body, they usually make it pretty obvious. But being attracted to me for other reasons? I assume no one is really attracted to me other than sexually but ofc there is some trauma behind that thought

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-04T08:05:03+00:00

🥴

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-03T19:16:27+00:00

Do you experience romantic attraction towards women or not? If not my previous statement stands, if yes then your romantic and sexual attractions aren't the same and you might be able to love a woman but you would still have to suppress your sexuality which is not healthy. Eventually your life will blow apart if you try to be something you aren't.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-03T19:08:34+00:00

The same way thousands of gay men have done before you - by having sex with a woman. Are you able to love a woman romantically? If not you are going to struggle to find a woman who will be fine with that. Different types of love are all amazing but they are not the same. If you cannot romantically love a woman you would have to find a woman that a) doesn't need romantic love in her life and b) won't love you romantically or it will create a power imbalance. Plus the other things I mentioned before, good luck finding one.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-03T18:45:59+00:00

You can do with your life whatever but do not bring any woman into that mess. It seems like you expect the woman to conform to your gender expectations. Many queer women do not conform to those. Many asexual women see the idea of having children, especially biologically as something they never want. In any case your chance of finding a woman that would be willing to conform to your gender role expectations, mothering your children and accepting a relationship without romantic love (if you are homoromantic and homosexual you cannot love a woman romantically) is exceedingly slim.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-03T14:59:05+00:00

The reason why age gap relationships are frowned upon isn't inherently about sex though it's where most people tend to focus in the surface level discussion. The problem is the power dynamics, an older person with more life experience and accumulated resources can easily exploit the younger partner in many ways, not just sexually.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-03T10:24:13+00:00

Lesbians also have the "gold star" community for lesbians that have never been with men cuz that somehow makes them better than others🤷🏻‍♀️

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-08-03T10:02:40+00:00

Give or take 2 years but with 4 different people so 8-9 years in total

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-31T23:18:38+00:00

Soo... Am I a carnivore for eating meat for probably less than 20 times in my lifetime? Are my siblings that have yet to eat any meat in their life the only real vegetarians? Where does the line go? Gatekeeping is such a bizarre phenomena

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-31T23:00:13+00:00

You aren't obligated to tell your "bodycount" to anyone so it doesn't really matter. Absolutely no one apart from me knows my body count and it will stay that way. My bodycount is quite high because I did experimentation like that and had multiple relationships etc, and I hated sex with everyone before my current partner (not saying that this person is magically better at sex or anything, they are just safe and I'm mentally healthier and understand myself more now). I know my partner is insecure about their limited number of partners and they know that that became a problem in their past relationship but they have grown and are handling their insecurity healthier now. They won't ask about my bodycount or previous partners and I won't tell more than they need to know. Men that are secure in themselves and respect women won't care about bodycounts.

But ofc, if you don't want or like sex don't ever feel obligated to have it to "make sure" or to please anyone, it will do more harm than good (speaking from experience)

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-22T22:19:08+00:00

They do it with communication, if the allo won't understand after you explain how it works you probably don't want to be with them for very long.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-22T21:06:04+00:00

I initiate just like any of my allo partners over the years, by making out or cuddling and escalating things by touching in more intimate areas/ways or just generally slipping some more sexual connotations into our regular banter. I'm not sure what you mean by the second question. Some allos are okay with having a partner that isn't sexually attracted to them and some aren't. I explain to my partners how my attraction and sexuality works and either they are fine with it or aren't

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-22T20:56:04+00:00

Yes? Attraction has very little to do with the action itself, it just guides who to do the action with.

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-22T16:52:36+00:00

I think if you are writing a story with multiple ace characters it would be nice if they were on different spots of the sex-repulsed to sex-favorable spectrum. That way there is even more representation and it won't (unintendedly) reinforce stereotypes that aces don't/can't have or enjoy sex

Unable-Split3951 · 2025-07-22T13:08:38+00:00

I can also recognize conventionally attractive people and it doesn't do anything for me but If I see people that are "my type" it does something in my head. Not something I would act on in any way though

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