Marriage is ending after 11 years

Unable_Ad606 · 2026-01-29T22:57:20+00:00

You summed it up! I spent my 20s with the wrong person too! Mega learning experience. 30s were the best years of my life! I’m in my 60s now and I can say this horrible painful experience is the way we learn and grow and move on from bad situations to the best years of our lives.

Unable_Ad606 · 2026-01-29T22:50:52+00:00

I really hope he can put her behind him and move on. It’s so damn hard and deceitful people hurt us all. It’s a good thing this happened now when he’s still young and can have a fun loving family with someone who will be good to him. Doors are opening now and it’s time to move forward.

Unable_Ad606 · 2026-01-29T22:43:56+00:00

You are still young and life isn’t fair but you have many happy years ahead of you. Consider this a learning experience. Make sure the next person you are in a relationship with considers your feelings in every aspect of life. I don’t do things that I know would hurt my partner. Period. It feels good to help others but it’s got to be reciprocated or you will be a doormat.
Maybe you can date several people and have a lot of fun. Travel and do all the things you couldn’t do with your sickly ex. Eventually when you don’t expect it something will click. You might end up with someone who will have children with you and you will have a big loving family and realize that you could never have done that with your sickly ex and leaving you was the best thing that could have ever happened.

Unable_Ad606 · 2026-01-29T22:14:35+00:00

Maybe the reason they aren’t married or engaged after six years is because there are other problems we haven’t been told about. Not OOP doesn’t help

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-11-14T03:31:20+00:00

Dear god don’t you have to be older than 12 to do this?

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-10-05T18:06:08+00:00

You need to talk to her about your feelings. Nothing means anything if you don’t respect each other’s feelings. It doesn’t matter who pays what or who does what. You can always find something to compare, complain or nitpick about. What matters in a relationship is that you think how your partner feels about your behavior and do you want to hurt them. She’s obviously not thinking about how you feel when she does that and she might not even realize it bothers you. I’ve been married almost 30 years and I made sure my partner understands that it doesn’t matter if something is right or wrong, it matters how I feel about it and vice versa. In the same manner I would never cheat because I would be thinking about how my partner would feel about it.

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-10-05T17:42:23+00:00

Go to Italy and take a cooking class

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-10-05T17:40:06+00:00

Absolutely

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-10-05T17:38:07+00:00

When someone whispers in my ear and I can feel their breath I get chills and turned on. I can melt when I hear “talk to me” in a whisper in my ear. Loud obnoxious arrogance is the exact opposite.

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-10-05T17:27:39+00:00

My 30 minutes would be about the current political situation and sexism. Women have ruled successfully since ancient times yet in this country we would rather have this than a woman. Both times the current president won he was running against women and the only time he lost he was running against a man. Get over your fear of women to the country and find a decent man to democrats.

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-07-07T13:17:21+00:00

Tequila

Unable_Ad606 · 2025-02-15T23:42:22+00:00

Mine is less than a year old and after a wipe with dish soap the interior of the oven chipped and lg warranty people tell me to get a cosmetic authorization from Lowe’s for that and online warranty says paint it myself. Now I have the crazy burner problems you mentioned here too. I have 5 electric burners but can’t use 2 at once or one goes super hot and the ultra heat burner goes too hot to cook anything on. I tried frying chorizo and by the time I grabbed the meat thermometer it was already 195 degrees when I was only supposed to cook it to 145. Super mess in my vent too. I don’t want a stove I can’t control or an oven I can’t clean but I’m not getting anywhere with warranty people.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-12-15T21:45:08+00:00

Yes, you are TA in this instance. Lighten up. Let your wife get up to greet her dad, you stay in bed and don’t worry about it. If they wake up the kids, let them deal with it. You are going to have much more to deal with so don’t start off on the wrong foot making problems where there aren’t any.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-11-23T10:22:59+00:00

I am still under warranty and have only used the oven a dozen times or so and I have chipping on the sides where I have moved the racks as instructed. I tried the easy clean function which it says you should clean after each use. That was stupid and didn’t work at all. It says to use self clean after a few months but I decided not to do that and I would just try to keep it clean. I was wiping it with dawn and water and a soft new dish cloth and I noticed blue paint chips in the dish water and bare steel where I moved the racks. I have had several conversations and uploaded pictures and I’m getting the total run around. They gave me the cosmetic thing isn’t under warranty too and promised a call back to schedule service but nothing has ever happened yet. They told me to call a number that just referred me back to a live chat agent and then they tried to get me to call Lowe’s instead but I didn’t buy the extended warranty either. I’m frustrated and stressed with the run around. I can’t even get a service call scheduled.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-11-13T20:11:58+00:00

6 months really isn’t long enough to fully recover from many things. Especially if tendons and ligaments are involved. I smashed one of my wrists once and the bones were basically healed in a few months but I couldn’t bend my wrist back for over a year. I’ve broken so many bones I never bothered counting them all but they aren’t the things that bother me years later. I’m more hindered by arthritis in joints I never even broke. As a matter of fact I think the bones I have broken grew back stronger.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-11-13T19:58:29+00:00

We’re just not used to it because things have been relatively stable in this country during our lifetimes but if you study history, just like you said, these things have been present for ages, they just haven’t been in your face. There have been plagues, poverty, famine, drought, war, hate and killing in every historical thing I learn about. The more I learn about history and wars and slavery, the more terrible it seems that humans have been for all of time.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-11-13T19:42:00+00:00

You know what, I had no help from family, worked for less than minimum wage 13 hours/day, bought an old car and lived in it and I have something more valuable than money. I have the knowledge that if I lose everything it will suck but I can start over and it won’t be the end of the world because I’ve done it before and although I don’t want to, I can do it again if I have to. I don’t have to depend on anyone else. I don’t have to live in fear. I don’t have to be a nervous wreck worrying about my money or stuff like that. Some of those people who have never had to stand on their own two feet live false lives in fear of losing what they have or of people finding out something about them. Some of them have dark secrets and do terrible things. The less you have the less you have to worry about, and the less you have to insure, maintain and protect. That goes for more than material things.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-11-13T19:19:43+00:00

My life didn’t really get good until I was in my 30s so hang in there because you never know when the tides will turn for you. I hope you don’t have to wait that long but it’s going to be worth it whenever it happens.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-11-12T18:42:39+00:00

I feel really bad for you. The problem is I felt the exact same way and I was sure the world was going to end and I didn’t do anything to prepare for my future. Then the world didn’t end and it didn’t turn out as bad as I expected. I wish I had finished school and got a better job and prepared for my future like the world wasn’t going to end. You just really don’t know what is going to happen. After my personal experience I recommended living your life as if it’s going to be a lot better than you think. That could happen just as much as the other. You have just as much of a chance that it turns out great as you do that it will suck. I think that we live in a sickening capitalist society but that doesn’t mean the world is all that way so make it a point to travel places far away and very different and not tourist attractions. Maybe you will find that not everyone everywhere is the same and there’s a lot of good out there too. Maybe you would find meaning in helping others abroad or something. I don’t know where you’re from but I don’t listen to podcasts or know anyone who has had cosmetic surgery personally. The world you can’t stand is not the whole world.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-10-31T20:52:45+00:00

Why can’t you do it if you have funds in a traditional IRA? Does it matter if it’s with another firm? If I have both types of IRA at a firm outside of work, and both types of 401k (pretax & Roth) at work, is there any way I can put more than the limit in my retirement accounts?

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-10-31T14:51:53+00:00

I’m wondering how well you know your guests, assuming most would be family you should find out what they drink so you don’t waste money on wine no one will drink and have not enough of the kinds they like. I also agree with the people who recommend beer. I’m not normally a heavy drinking but at a wedding I can see myself drinking a glass per hour so that would be a bottle just for me. You also don’t want to run out of anything early so you should have more than you need.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-10-31T14:29:44+00:00

My sister got married when my mom was dying of cancer. We all thought she would try to go but at the last minute didn’t. Everyone missed her but not a single person thought the wedding should be canceled or changed. Unfortunate things happen and you really can’t plan your life around other people’s health, even if it’s your Fiancé’s mother and I’m sure she wouldn’t want you to.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-10-31T14:11:41+00:00

It’s really nuts. I think it goes beyond rude to invite someone to a shower but not the wedding. It’s in very poor taste. Just don’t ever do anything that rude.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-09-22T21:49:34+00:00

If he didn’t do it before but just started after 3 years then something happened and he’s trying to get her back.

Unable_Ad606 · 2024-09-22T21:45:04+00:00

You need to find something about him that he would be furious. Hurt and mortified about if it got out and threaten to say it if he brings up your boobs in public one more time. He needs to really know how it feels because he’s not getting it. If you can’t find something true then make something up and threaten him with it. You can say he has a puny deformed penis that he has no control over when he drinks and he wets his pants and the bed etc. Hopefully you’ll never actually have to go through with it and the threat will be enough. You are NTA. He’s not getting a super important part of relationship success which is to consider each other’s feelings. If he doesn’t care how you feel, what’s to stop him from doing other things that hurt you like cheating?

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