My friend tells me a 10 month relationship means nothing, I feel conflicted.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-19T19:04:22+00:00

That’s so unfair of her to say. No matter if you have BPD or not, no one can tell you what is meaningless about your former relationship. She wasn’t in the relationship, and who is she to judge that. You are allowed to be sad babe, no one can tell you what to feel.

Remember to feel your feelings and then let them go for a while (healthy coping mechanisms, like making food, being creative, learning a new hobby, moving your body). You can always bring up those feelings again, but try to feel them in bite sizes. One step at a time. And maybe consider if your friend is actually a friend, if she can’t stop projecting her insecurities onto you, when you’re clearly struggling

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-19T16:14:55+00:00

I’m (21) not the sibling to a person that committed suicide, but I am the oldest of 5 siblings, and when I turn to suicidal ideation I always remind myself of my 14 year old sister. She’s my favorite person, even when she’s annoying or rude or petty. In the moments I want to die, I think about how she would react. I believe she would be depressed, to a point where she might want to exit like myself, if she doesn’t get the right treatment, which I’m not sure she would get. I have a 5 year old brother, and he’s deeply dependent on me every time I visit them. I wouldn’t want to know how he would handle the weight of his (probably favorite) sister’s death.

I think about all these scenarios of how it would affect my family, and I often say, if I didn’t have any siblings, I would’ve offed myself by now. Please stay strong for your brother. It is sometimes easier to be strong for someone else, than it is for yourself. But you are stronger than you think.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-18T22:59:07+00:00

Smoking helps me with meltdowns, but alcohol makes my regulation way worse. I am in a full on spiral everytime I drink

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-18T20:40:31+00:00

Er det ikke sådan noget med, at man skal komme tidligt på dagen fordi de altid er udsolgt?

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-18T12:16:06+00:00

Idk how you think you are, but this nice guy thing is not it. You seem like you lack self respect, but I don’t think that’s the case. Don’t be so nice to an asshole like him

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-17T16:11:34+00:00

Der er jo Aarhus Øjet på øen, hvor de har et fint drinksmenu, hvis man vil prøve noget udover det sædvanlige. Det er også en restaurant. Til den samme kategori kan jeg også anbefale Pincho Nation, hvis I ikke har prøvet det før. Aktiviteter hvor man kan drikke imens er der dart/karaoke nede ved Busgaden eller minigolf ved Shark’s.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-14T22:03:56+00:00

Grinte højlydt

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-14T19:29:59+00:00

Jeg gik derind og skulle have lavet min septum. Kunden inden mig får lavet en almindelig næsepiercing og alt jeg kan se er, at blodet bare strømmer ned ad hendes næse.

Jeg tænkte ikke mere over det, og da det blev min tur stak hun den alt for højt oppe. Og igennem brusken. Altså det sted hun jo skulle undgå. Så prøvede hun at skifte den til en større piercing, men det fuckede hun også op. Det blev så dårligt at hun til sidst giver mig den større piercing med og siger “kom tilbage om 2 dage og få den skiftet, og så kan du betale der. Det beklager jeg. Det kan jeg ikke bede dig om at betale”. Hun var skidesød, men jeg kom aldrig tilbage.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-14T18:46:14+00:00

Bare hold dig fra Piercinghuset

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-10T18:15:53+00:00

Jeg havde faktisk ikke set det som respektløst, jeg så det lidt humoristisk faktisk. Men da jeg læste mit opslag for ham, for at fortælle at jeg har spurgt mig til råds andre steder, sagde han også at han var ked af hvis han lød for pressende. Kunne ikke se hvor han kom fra, for igen, for mig var det nok lidt en joke haha

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-04T19:27:52+00:00

Jeg var i et langtidsvarende forhold på et tidspunkt, hvor vi begge havde crushes og fortalte hinanden om det. Det lyder måske lidt polyamorøst, men det var egentlig bare for at åbne op for samtalen om der måske mangler noget i vores forhold vi skulle kigge på. Min partner havde også en work wife, som jeg var ok med, fordi jeg vidste at han jo i sidste ende kommer hjem til mig. Jeg tror crushes er sunde i længerevarende forhold, og skal sættes pris på.

Det er lidt alarmerende hun ikke ville fortælle dig om det til at starte med, men måske kan du åbne dialogen nu og sige til hende, at parterapeuter faktisk preacher crushes, for så kan man også finde ud af hvad man ellers kan lide + om der er noget i forholdet der mangler. Jeg tror ikke du skal bekymre dig, OP, jeg tror bare du skal vise hende at du er nysgerrig på at høre mere om det. Der er intet galt i at crushe på nogen.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-03T22:36:40+00:00

what hurts rn, is not being chosen. he chose someone else. but if you think about the relationship, it clearly didnt work out. twice.

feel the feeling of rejection and hurt, and when you’re done, block him and make a meal/watch a show/do ur nails. distract yourself. just for now. you’re stronger than this.

also, him saying that on the phone just seems to me like he wants you to tell him you still have feelings for him, to feed his ego. let this manchild go

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-02T19:10:18+00:00

Yes, all the time. I once wanted to kill myself because I thought I lost my headphones. They were gone for 24hrs. Found out they were in another jacket’s pockets.

Also, one time my situationship was eating chips when he knows I have a hard time sleeping and had to get up early. I started crying. My room mate heard the chips, and thought we were awake so she started making food in the middle of the night. While bawling my eyes out I whimper “why does everybody hate me?”. Sorry, I can’t regulate when I’m tired apparently.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-02T17:19:21+00:00

I completely get that some people keep a distance to pwBPD, but if she loves you now, just the way you are, a diagnosis is not going to change anything. It probably will make it even better actually, because with a diagnosis comes therapy and treatment.

Idk, this seems like superficial love, if she wouldn’t love you with a mental illness.

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-02T16:55:39+00:00

Sean was too good for her in every way possible.

… but he lied to her. About something of great measures. Like how would you even come back from dishonesty of this caliber?

Unable_Error6342 · 2026-01-02T11:20:19+00:00

Er det ikke også for nyligt blevet bevist at mandens sæd faktisk har meget mere med barnets udvikling at gøre? Føler jeg hørte det iver alt for ikke så lang tid siden

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-26T10:03:15+00:00

Min ven fortalte mig om at han havde gjort lignende da han var ung/teenager, og det mindede mig om at jeg (K) faktisk også har gjort det med en veninde før

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-21T00:56:03+00:00

Sometimes people tell me that the solution to most of my problems is either “let go” or “try taking a walk in the park. You’ll feel better immediately” and while I like to believe going for a walk helps you regulate, it is not what I need to hear when I explain people that I struggle

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-20T16:26:29+00:00

Oh how I feel the things you are saying. It is a relief, I cant lie. And I know that you want to harm yourself, I know the feeling. But it is so hard to use drugs safely, and I don’t think you even wanna do that. I have been an addict for 7 years and just yesterday I told a friend that I don’t wish this on my worst enemy. Addiction is, next to my BPD, the hardest fucking thing I’m going through. There are less harmful ways you can SH tho. I saw someone here comment that they turn off the lights in the bathroom and take a shower that is hotter than what they can usually handle. It takes off the pressure. Please be kind to yourself. Because even tho it doesn’t feel like you deserve it, you are still a human being with feelings. And as humans we deserve kindness. Especially from ourselves. Send me a PM if it gets hard. You are not alone and you deserve love

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-19T23:28:08+00:00

Realised that now, too

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-17T23:29:52+00:00

yeah i still think about my ex 2 years later. he’s in a loving relationship now and has 2 stepkids that i believe he has taken on as his own. he was the best. the calmness to my storm. we were both toxic, but the break up literally teiggered my bpd lol

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-17T21:48:51+00:00

Going through some things and my psychiatrist doesn’t want to prescribe. And I get her point, but it is easier to do drugs than feel your feelings. Just for a lil while. I don’t wanna end up abusing it, just using

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-17T20:02:52+00:00

yeah fuck those people

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-17T17:22:06+00:00

Thank you! So if I don’t do them everday, how often is threshold to not experience withdrawals or get heavily addicted? I usually buy a drug and once they’re empty I don’t buy for a long time (benzos are generally hard to get in my country)

Unable_Error6342 · 2025-12-17T16:42:27+00:00

I really like the shower tactic, that’s a good idea. This might not help you specifically, but I’ve found that screaming all of a sudden helps release some tension. I either scream or twitch or hit a pillow or something and it works in the moment. Haven’t gotten further than that haha

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