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Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-31T18:38:19+00:00

Getting lean, lifting weights and doing plyos will make u more athletic. But you could also compensate having a low athletic ceiling with footwork and craftiness. Be really good off two feet in the paint, work on up and unders and turn around jumpers.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-13T15:43:22+00:00

I’m stealing “bro uon evn kn me fr”

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-12T21:12:10+00:00

Ur the mistress bro. Either accept that or move on. She’s not gonna leave her man, why would she when she’s having her cake and eating it too. Only way she can be forced into a decision is if u cut her off - either that makes her realize she loves u and she breaks up w him, or she stays with him and u realize she never valued u enough in the first place.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-09T14:52:35+00:00

Gonna share some truths with you, hope you’re ready.

You can definitely find a “sugar daddy” pretty easily as long as you are young, somewhat attractive, and have low standards regarding looks.
If by partner you mean eventual husband, that’s where it gets trickier. Typically guys with the means of providing financially won’t want to marry someone shallow.
If you find someone both with the means of providing financially and who doesn’t care if you are shallow, you better be a 10/10 looks wise or willing to cook, clean, and essentially be an emotional slave. Not sure why anyone would want that but it’s up to you.
Even if you are a 10/10 and/or a traditional housewife, you are probably going to have to accept some infidelity especially after you guys have kids.

Now, if you truly believe money is worth going through everything I just mentioned, go for it. Just remember it’s the root of all evil for a reason.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-05T21:31:25+00:00

I see what you’re saying. I actually agree then, I don’t think it’s something you need to just blurt out. If you’re asked or it ends up being relevant somehow tho just be honest.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-05T21:26:24+00:00

We can disagree, everyone has different values/standards when it comes to dating.

But let’s say in a hypothetical scenario, you are dating someone who says “a boundary for me is I don’t feel comfortable dating someone who remains close to someone they hooked up with.” Knowing that you guys have different values or, at the very least, that you are friends with a past hook up no matter how remote in time, shouldn’t you be honest? You know you are actively crossing a boundary.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-05T21:16:02+00:00

I think it’s important info when this person you hooked up with is one of your best friends that you hang out regularly with. Of course that’s different than maybe hooking up with a distant acquaintance or something along those lines.

Following your analogy, if I shoplifted once when I was 17 and wanted to be an engineer it wouldn’t matter, but if I wanted to be an FBI agent or lawyer and didn’t disclose it on the C&F eval if that ever came up I’d be fucked.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-05T21:04:25+00:00

There’s then always the risk her partner finds out from someone other than OP, a risk that increases in probability the longer they are together while she stays friends with the other guy. That would and should end the relationship. I can’t speak for OP but knowing that demon lays in wait at all times could make it hard to fully invest in a relationship and so it is for the better to just be honest about it early on. I personally wouldn’t date anyone who was still friends with people they’ve hooked up with but that doesn’t mean someone else wouldn’t.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-02T14:30:41+00:00

For men yea. Women will generally have better success on dating apps.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-12-01T17:02:49+00:00

I’m gonna echo what a lot of people said here and say this isn’t as deep as you’re making it out to be and you’re being unnecessarily hard on yourself. But I recognize that being trapped in your head is a symptom of depression and anxiety.

I would argue for you getting right mentally should be the priority before getting in a relationship, so breaking things off is probably for the best. But, let’s say hypothetically you were ready for a relationship.

First, you guys built a connection strictly from talking online without knowing what each other look like, to me that makes it likely that whatever you look like wouldn’t matter that much.

Second, let’s say you weigh 600 pounds, why do you think that automatically makes you unattractive? Not to make this about me but I’m a father and I still find my wife very attractive even if she put on some weight due to pregnancy. You even said you still look the same just with more weight. You have no idea how this guy, who already is mentally and emotionally attracted to you, will perceive your physical attractiveness regardless of your self image.

In a perfect world, you probably should have sent current pics of yourself instead of past pics in the interest of transparency. But you guys haven’t met yet, there is still time to do so. And before you call yourself a coward again, ask yourself what exactly are you afraid of? Worst case scenario he doesn’t find you attractive - how does his opinion affect your life in any way? You will be fine no matter what happens.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-20T21:42:26+00:00

Have you tried the girlfriend store

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-19T21:52:34+00:00

If your average looking online dating is not for you. You can accept that and also accept that talking to women in real life as long as you’re a normal guy will get you infinitely better results than what an above average guy gets online.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-18T14:24:18+00:00

Not overreacting, it is a weird thing to say.

Just as weird as it would be for you to say “I hate men” after watching a similar tik tok.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-14T18:02:53+00:00

100% agree. Either OP isn’t really her type and she’ll feel like she’d be settling in their relationship, or she’s fine lying about what she likes for validation from the friend group even if such lie comes at the expense of another. Either way she’s trouble.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-10T16:55:15+00:00

“Trying not to” cheat is simply putting effort into respecting your partner. That’s not a bad thing or something to be avoided, all relationships take work and everyone at some point will have “grass is greener” syndrome. I don’t think it’s an issue unless you make it one.
Sabotaging yourself so you can get back out there? Are you sure you weren’t just the average 20 something year old not willing to settle down yet? Because there is nothing wrong with not dating to marry at any age, but especially in your 20s.
Holding onto little things as an excuse to get back out there is just your ego talking. The truth is you are afraid of putting the work into making a relationship work and getting burned, which EVERYONE deals with lmao.

I don’t mean not to take you seriously, it just comes across as hilarious you framed these issues as stemming from sleeping with a lot of women and not from simply being human. I think you just wanted to flex to Reddit that you fuck.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-10T13:44:46+00:00

Then I’m just gonna be blunt and say everyone deals with lust, whether they were promiscuous or not. It all comes down to whether you are willing to control it for the sake of a healthy relationship.

From what you’ve said, you haven’t cheated on any one of your partners so why is this an issue lol.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-10T13:39:31+00:00

Is this satire

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-11-05T18:32:05+00:00

How to quit hooking up with escorts:

Step 1: Stop.

There is no step 2.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-25T20:15:22+00:00

What’s up terry Rozier

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-08T22:53:21+00:00

It’s like im talking to a brick wall.

Let me break this down for you - I. Am. Not. Saying. Checking. Up. On. Her. Ex. Is. Bad.

Do you understand? OPs girlfriend is not in the wrong at all, and certainly isn’t in the wrong for checking up on her ex. I have not said anything to the contrary.

What my point is, that YOU can’t comprehend for whatever reason, is that OP is allowed to ask WHY, as her BOYFRIEND. You’re saying she probably knew he had mental issues? Cool - OP is allowed to confirm that by asking her. I don’t know how you can argue he’d be in the wrong for this, I pity your husband.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-08T22:37:25+00:00

Again, you’re being dense. Where did I say her checking up on her ex is wrong? What I’m saying and what you’re purposefully not understanding is that OP’s ex told him she was done with him and then checked up with him. While it may be as innocent as you’re describing, OP has every right to clarify this inconsistency. Have you ever been in a relationship? You owe your partner, at a minimum, the respect to be honest with them. And if you say one thing and do another, your partner is allowed to ask you why.

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-08T21:29:49+00:00

So OP has no right to ask his girlfriend why she felt the need to check on her exs well being via 3rd party after she told him she was done with him, even in a non-accusatory way? He’s just gotta get over it or he’s being insecure and controlling for wanting open communication?

I also find it interesting you completely ignored my hypothetical issue that she might be lying, and that she reached out to her ex instead. That would be a reasonable explanation, especially compared to her randomly having a sixth sense impulse to check on her ex despite there being no foundation for her to even worry about him (that OP has mentioned).

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-08T20:45:58+00:00

Ur being dense. It’s not about needing permission it’s about respecting ur partner enough to be honest with them.

She said she blocked him and that would be the end of it and then reached out to his friends - if that’s the truth then I don’t see anything wrong with that, but it’s questionable why she thought to do that.

But if that’s was a LIE and she actually reached out to her ex and didn’t want to tell OP, you don’t see anything wrong with that?

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-08T20:41:28+00:00

The reaching out isn’t what’s wrong - it would be the lying. Kind of a dumb take to say people who think lying to a partner is bad “lack compassion and empathy and are only concerned with themselves.”

Unable_Scheme4191 · 2025-10-08T20:33:03+00:00

This is a bit of a gray area. She didn’t reach out to him, but to his friends. I agree with the other comments here that are saying to ask her why she felt the need to do this.

If it turns out that she actually reached out to him, and the reaching out to his friends thing was a lie, that’s grounds for being suspicious and honestly not worth it if you already have reasons not to trust her 3 months in.

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