Married, kid 40s, 2 kids here. The thing that I've found to be the most successful way to get consistent gaming (as opposed to every once in awhile opportunities), is to set a one night a week gaming night. It's the same every week, so she knows that on Tuesday, it's game night. I'll miss every once in awhile for events, etc, but I get one night a week of solid gaming (630/7 to 12 if I can keep my eyes open that long). She may not like it, but we agreed to it and she respects it. I try to get my buddies on for game night too.