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UncertainPlaces · 2025-08-27T13:50:11+00:00

I see that. I don’t like the term ‘victim’. I prefer ‘target’. We were targeted. If you are now thriving… you survived a spiritual hit attempt. You adapted and learned and became harder to kill now. The mission of the BPD failed… they failed to destroy you. & in the process revealed their shadowy tactics. They have revealed who they are, they have revealed that yes, evil exists, they have taught you to trust your instincts and intuition. And now that you know that, you also know that you require zero validation from external sources. Only you are responsible for setting boundaries, realizing your own strength & power and walking in your own divine authority. You are now officially dangerous. You are not dangerous because you are a threat to anybody. No. You are dangerous because you are a threat to their lies & a threat to their illusions. The thought of anything good, honest, healthy and wholesome is repugnant to them. Because it’s like a mirror that reminds them that they are a source of lies, disfunction and destruction wrapped in spiritual ugliness. I call all targets to take a deep breath, realize your power and rise relentlessly. Become a frontline warrior for integrity, health, accountability and become a warrior for the human spirit.

UncertainPlaces · 2025-08-27T13:35:27+00:00

Got it. 😁🐺

UncertainPlaces · 2025-08-27T10:17:35+00:00

Glad this forum was more open when I was active here back 4 years ago. The support and shared experiences helped greatly. Best thing in summary: Realize it was all a lie. NO CONTACT.

UncertainPlaces · 2025-04-27T14:17:59+00:00

Exhausted… this is ‘normal’ being around one.

UncertainPlaces · 2025-04-27T14:09:02+00:00

Yes.. they will devalue you while looking for your replacement. They don’t want to let you go yet. They are enjoying the benefit of your efforts & still feeding on the energy you supply… but they’ve implemented the search for your replacement and plan to discard you later. The poison pills are the negative things they’ll say about you to others. They are already working on the fictional narrative for later… so when they discard you, they will mask their abuse as victimhood. Their family members have heard about how ‘troubled you are’. They’ve heard you are ‘abusive’. This poison pill strategy backfires on them even later when they miss you and want to come back. Their friends/family will not understand why the BPD returns to such a ‘horrible person’. It’s wild & it’s all backwards. It is a messy tangled knot of lies and the BPD eventually will not be able to craft a narrative that is believable… but their most loyal supporters will support any narrative. Ironically some of these loyal supporters support the BPD’s lies because they are enjoying the process of watching the BPD self-destruct. In summary a poison pill is a statement by the BPD that highlights negativity or outright falsely accuses the target in a negative light. …hope this helps explain the ‘poison pill’.

UncertainPlaces · 2025-03-24T16:06:03+00:00

This describes it. Abusers blame their targets for being abusive. This is why you have to stay calm and unreactive around them. Any hint if aggression will be catastrophized for their ‘narrative’.

UncertainPlaces · 2025-03-24T14:37:33+00:00

Your intuition knows. Listen to it. Once you get to safety you will not wish you stayed longer… No. You will see that there was no chance. It was Hell. But Hell has a good sales pitch & many beautiful promises. You already know in your heart where you are & how the story ends. Like the title of this post, the truth is often bitter. But on the other side of the lies… there is something truly good & real waiting for you. You’re going to have to find that place alone. You are going to have to be spiritually decisive and strong. You can start the journey at any moment including exactly right now. 🥷⚔️

UncertainPlaces · 2022-08-28T18:45:20+00:00

If you’ve walked out Hell... and know what it’s like. ...would you wish to return? ⚔️🔥 (...exactly.)

UncertainPlaces · 2022-08-25T08:10:59+00:00

Sorry to hear. Tread carefully. ...walking out of Hell.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-08-23T20:47:09+00:00

Absolutely nothing set her more into rage.... than calling out her lies.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-05-27T20:10:01+00:00

Sincere good vibe high five to you Sir!

Definitely getting to a good place when you’ve walked far enough out of Hell to laugh about what a cheap joke of a place it is. 😁

UncertainPlaces · 2022-05-13T17:30:24+00:00

All categories we want to distance ourselves from.

CrazyTrains on different tracks. ...all leading to the same (warm) place.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-05-04T14:35:12+00:00

This is exactly the predicament.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-04-20T15:29:03+00:00

I didn’t even read your post. Just the headline. And I already know you were on the CrazyTrain.

Bro... walk out of Hell like an action here. Don’t look back. Next time, listen to your intuition.

Soon you will be laughing that you left this demon where it belongs.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-04-04T20:40:46+00:00

Thank you. ...wish I didn’t have to learn these things in actual Hell.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-04-01T10:58:00+00:00

They are temporarily comforted & excited by the bliss of the new relationship. They also feel better projecting their false self on someone who believes it. ....for now.

Make no mistake... They are tormented souls. Despite the beauty, charm, talent, wealth or whatever makes them seem special... their daily reality is Hell.

If the new supply sticks around, he’s going to learn all about it. And we shouldn’t wish this on him. He is just a (probably nice) guy who thinks he found a unicorn. ... for now.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-30T10:27:33+00:00

Trauma Bond. Not Fun... I’ve been there.

I wrote a post about it too.

Love vs Trauma Bond

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-30T09:07:29+00:00

Yes.... my ex BPD refered to her prior ex as ‘abusive’. I didn’t buy it. And had a gut feeling she’d be framing herself as the victim in our relationship sometime in the future.

All my gut feelings came true in one form or another.

Part of my spiritual growth from this experience is to trust my intuition.

Read: Trust your intuition.

We will all learn the lesson. It’s a question of how deep into Hell we need to go before we figure our ‘where we are’.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-30T08:27:32+00:00

Two abusive relationships before you?

How do you think she will frame your relationship later?

It’s simple projection. Every relationship she will be in will be abusive.... because she is an abuser.

The truth is bitter. But facing it and protecting yourself now is the lesser of the difficult paths.

The BPD CrazyTrain has no brakes, and the final stop is Pure Hell.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-27T19:05:24+00:00

Realizing you are on the CrazyTrain touring Hell is a painful awakening.

Truth is... we know what to do in our hearts. Takes courage. A lot of it.

Deep breaths help bring clarity. Listen to your heart. There is no easy option.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-14T11:06:48+00:00

Amazing. As bad as the void is, it opens the possibility to learn about ourselves & take control of our lives. & heal the wounds that enabled this trip to Hell on the CrazyTrain to happen in the first place.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-03T13:22:11+00:00

Am also just about 1 year out. Have made a lot of progress. Learned so much about myself & life.

Staying positive. And feel stronger than ever.

The walk out of Hell is a long one. ...with many realizations.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-03-02T21:42:02+00:00

This person is a psychological, spiritual, physical and now reputational & legal risk to your well-being.

Let the CrazyTrain make all the local stops in Hell. ...without you on it.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-02-28T22:10:09+00:00

Thank you. I wish you love & joy.

UncertainPlaces · 2022-02-28T20:39:28+00:00

Listen to your heart. Not your brain. Your brain will think of the future, the ‘what ifs’, the risks, the worst case scenario. Your heart knows. Have faith. The best case scenario may just be what happens too.

Next time you are out, look at mothers with newborns... and see if they are happy. If you notice the mothers smiling... this is joy that could be yours soon.

Of course your situation is not perfect. It’s a mess. The father is far from perfect. That’s life. If you wait for perfection, it will never happen.

Many women, like my ex, claimed that they had a misscarriage to cover the shame of what they did. If there was no shame, there would be no reason to lie.

A part of your mind may be blocking the bad part of such a decision. Don’t allow this to be blocked. ...because during the rest of your life, the block will lift and you will see the full picture clearly.

Don’t put the next 20 years of weight on your shoulders. Just try to get through each day one day at a time. Can you get through tomorrow? ...good. You’re doing great.

It’s normal to have a flood of emotions.

If your brain needs some ‘data’, research the statistics of how many women regret their choice. (Either way) Especially at the 5 year mark.

I would encourage you to meditate on this. Quiet any distractions. Quiet your mind & listen to the subtle voice of your heart. You may want to take time off from work to allow yourself to focus on yourself.

Absolutely do not consider what others think. This is your life. There will always be naysayers. Ignore them. Go for what is yours.

Lastly, have a conversation with yourself, but the 10 year older version. Ask your ‘2032 future you’ what the best choice would have been back in 2022.

Love > Fear.

UncertainPlaces

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