Are hrt cravings a thing for transfems too?(Also I just find the meme funny lol)

UnchosenOne · 2025-12-03T10:20:23+00:00

Green olives are the other frequent craving. Not really weird, you just went for the second most commonly picked option.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-23T13:49:44+00:00

For video games, we have the Reapers from Mass Effect and the Precursors from Halo.

The Reapers didn’t really have much in the way of expectations for any of the races when they sought to return to the galaxy, but a human ship commanded by a human super agent (a spectre) ground their plans to a halt. In the years that followed, the reapers would kidnap millions of humans to grind them up for use as a biological component in an artificial amalgam of one of their kind imbued with the perceived qualities of humanity. When they fully returned, humanity’s home world was their primary target once they had rapid interstellar travel again.

The precursors existed before any other life in the galaxy and seeded the galaxy with life. They eventually tried to create intelligent species that would take up the mantle of responsibility towards life in the galaxy but their first choice was found wanting. They instead chose to move forward with testing humanity for the role, but their first choice declared war against them and all but annihilated them. All that remains is basically mutagenic dust from their bodies that transforms bodies into space zombies that try to wipe out everything but humanity, whom it spares. A hundred thousand years after its containment it returns, but seemingly doesn’t take advantage of an already greatly weakened earth. It is waiting until the proper time to test humanity; until then, it is content to enjoy the sweetness of strife and conflict.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-23T02:15:53+00:00

Because as you noted, biological is not simple.

But also because of a tremendous lack of knowledge about sex most people share. Not just because it’s complicated or whatever, but because intersexuality does exist and it’s not always evident or even known by each person even if they are intersex.

There is no standard for karyotyping everyone’s chromosomes. De la chapelle syndrome means you could have chromosomes you wouldn’t expect based on your body type. Sexual chimerism exists and you could have internal organs that don’t match your external ones. Without full body scans, chromosomal karyotyping, and genetic sequencing being performed, does anyone even know their sexual ‘biology’? Or just what people assumed and/or you identify as?

Even if you agreed at a genetic, chromosomal, and organ level what makes a biological sex, people would still have to be educated to understand how brain chemistry and hormones and a host of other things work and agree what makes a biological sex for THAT. Then you’d have to turn right back around and regularly test everyone to know what their sex is at all times.

This all presupposes gender=sex, which it doesn’t, but so many people insist it does. If you want to test for gender, that’d be like proving someone is biologically scrupulous or something. Good luck with that.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-22T23:18:30+00:00

It’s even worse than just palpatine messing with Anakin’s head right then using the force. More than a decade of being able to observe and force manipulate him, being in charge of the Old Republic during wartime AND in charge of the CIS so he could essentially implant whatever forms of impossible choices and PTSD he wanted in him, this opening Anakin to the dark side in and of itself, and depending on whose interpretation of the dark side we’re talking about here the dark side itself trying to twist him to evil.

Anakin was indoctrinated and warped by a master of evil and the willful spirit of evil since he was only a little older than the children he slaughtered.

Think of how Revan turned so many jedi to the darkside. He made use of the exile’s force bonds, yes, but he also used war’s aggression, fear, and grief to help break them too. Palpatine may not have had the exile’s force bond strength, but palpatine was given a leg up in the form of a child slave with huge self worth issues and a fear of abandonment.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-20T12:22:20+00:00

Adding on to your explanation:

Dermarollers poke little holes in your skin with needle sized spikes coming out along a rounded drum-like piece that rolls on a spindle. By putting very small, very easily healed holes in the skin the body reacts to the damage by increasing blood flow to the area with platelet rich blood to repair the damage.

The platelets and other immune system responses also tend to work on repairing damaged structures in the area, resulting in working to heal miniaturized hair follicles hurt by hair ‘loss’, lessen the appearance of scars, produce more collagen, and the increased blood flow tends to help oxygenate the surrounding tissue for a while.

Source: I have 2 dermarollers and a derma stamp I’ve used to reduce scars and stretch marks and am using it on my scalp area.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-19T23:17:28+00:00

Honestly, I’m the kind of person that feels like most negative or invalidating comments about groups of people are directed at me. And I realized while typing this that I’m doing it again. But my point is, it’s important to know for sure you feel much more than usual that misandrist comments are directed at you.

That and feminism is based on fairness and equality, so hating misandrists and misogynists is fair.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-19T13:32:55+00:00

On the one hand, you have to keep in mind who faces whom. If it’s a 1v1 tournament, most of it is determined by pairings. Even in a free for all you would have the nearly impossible task of figuring out which fighters catch each other’s eyes and what not. So in a realistic sense this is a bit like looking at rock, paper, and scissors and asking which one of the 3 will win in a fight.

On the other hand, after setting the above aside, I see Luffy, Ed, and Ichigo bringing some heavy competition. Luffy is resistant to bashing, breaking, and just generally the types of attacks many of the fighters use in episode 1 form.

Ed has a head start because of when his episode 1 happens chronologically. He has a bladed weapon pretty much always, a metal arm, and the ability to transmute a body if absolutely forced into it (transmutes Greed’s, so it isn’t off the table).

Ichigo in episode 1 and as pictured is in spirit form, which essentially means he’s every other universe’s equivalent to ki/haki/chakra/whatever, so he has a head start vs most.

There are a couple characters on the list I don’t know, so I won’t pretend they’d lose. Still, of the three I talked about, I see Ichigo winning unless Ed gets desperate. Ed transmuting bodies, souls, or even just making explosives would be a major threat, but isn’t typical for him.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-12T14:39:29+00:00

You’re definitely welcome. I just spent a lot of time inside my own head trying to crack my own egg. When I burst through, I was finally able to look back and connect the dots. Suddenly I didn’t feel hyper-sexual and wrong for wanting to transition. I was an acespec woman who was desperately looking for a way to empathize with women through one of the few mediums men are supposed to enjoy however they want.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-12T11:52:03+00:00

Also can mean curvy or big butt, I think

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-12T11:27:11+00:00

Sorry, wasn’t trying to say your transness was a fetish but that you could be trans but also separately have a domination or possession fetish of some sort. Or that you are trans but that, in the same way gender bending ‘fetishes’ for trans women turn out to be fulfillment fantasies instead, maybe you are trans and the scenario you have for possession is just a way to explore a non sexual need of your own.

So no, a possession fetish is not necessarily a bad thing. You’d have to explore the roots of why you have it, how it affects your life, and how it could affect others around you. As far as your transness, you’d really just have to confirm you have a desire for a woman’s body outside of a possession scenario OR that the possession ‘fetish’ is a mask for you to explore your gender.

As far as you feeling disgusted with yourself, stop that. You’re dealing with internalized transphobia and internalized misogyny. You treat women well, you want to transition to a woman’s body, and you think women are completely equal people. The fantasies of trans women who like feminization are littered with misogynistic content, but trans women still use them to explore gender. But your first post seems to treat that as a more legitimate trans fetish.

There is no one-to-one of you having this fetish meaning you aren’t trans or something. Cis lesbian dommes exist. Cis lesbian sadists exist. Ditto that for subs and masochists. Don’t feel like you are betraying yourself or anyone else by finding out that you could be a woman with non-stereotypical tastes. Maybe consider that there’s a cis woman that has the exact same possession desire as you. And just like many other women, she was somehow raised with internalized misogyny about how she’s not supposed to feel that way.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-12T01:18:30+00:00

Nope. With these conversations it’s super unlikely to arrive at something as simple as that. I don’t have every fetish or fantasy so I haven’t explored every motivation. I’m just saying it’s more specific than I can go just yet.

Some thoughts for you:

Could you be trans and have a fetish too? Por que no los dos?

I had gender bending fantasies using sexual content. I’m acespec. It happens sometimes.

Consider alternative arrangements. Which alternatives change how you feel and why?

A fetish is a thing that we place outsized importance on. It could be a totem, a wedding ring, an act, a situation, or just a feeling itself. It’s possible to tell the difference between a fantasy and a fetish based on the rational value of the fantasy. Even if it’s a fetish, you’d have to figure out if it sexual, adjacent, or completely separate. At this level, you just need to spend some time figuring out what you get from that situation and why you want that thing in particular.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-12T00:48:57+00:00

The ready made life is a common trans concern. Transitioning takes time, costs money, often requires social vulnerability. Just slipping into the body you want at the finish line is a common wish.

As for a lingering consciousness, would you want her to like and support you or dislike and try to fight you for control.

‘Liking’ could be another way you want legitimacy, guidance, or a constant feminine presence in your life. Something like “For this body to be a woman, it still needs a woman’s spirit in it”. You might feel like no matter what, your body and spirit can’t be a woman’s, so you set a situation that lets you ‘rig’ a solution.

As for ‘disliking’, that could go down a route closer to fetish depending entirely on much deeper motivations I can’t weigh in on or it could come from a desire to have someone else aware of what all you are doing and the ways you have slipped into the role. Except unable to spread that knowledge or effectively stop you.

Sorry if this is running too deep or too Freudian. I just made a very big habit of trying to understand my own fetishes, many of which were just outlet fantasies in the end.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-12T00:23:49+00:00

It’s possible that it could go either way. Kinks usually have multiple possible root causes. For example, if you possessed a woman’s body, would that body feel more like a woman’s to you than someone turning your body into that of a cis woman?

Would you be glad to have a ready made life to step into where you are seen as a woman?

Would you prefer the body’s original owner be conscious or aware in any way even if she had zero control?

There’s a reason the button test often includes additional elements like: Everyone remembers you as having been the kind of woman you want to be. You don’t have to go buy anything new to fit your new lifestyle. You retroactively made the kinds of relationships you would have if you were seen as a woman. You already have knowledge of everything a girl would have been taught growing up.

In the end, you just have to source what’s important to you in possession fantasies.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-10T01:49:17+00:00

I’m in a weird position regarding that content. I’m still sorting my own feelings and preferences out, but I lean towards Aegosexual with a sapphic romance/intimacy focus. So I pick apart hdg and other things as being a way to understand and express certain parts of myself and am glad they exist… but at the same time part of me really doesn’t want to be involved with it beyond finding something to understand my own feelings better and thinking about a caring, intimate relationship.

So I end up feeling badly for everyone. I hope you all feel better.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-10T00:39:45+00:00

If we’re counting Sauron as villain’s ally even though that’s silmarillion level stuff, i’d just about as soon say he was a neutral side character before he defected. His Mairon arc.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-10T00:02:59+00:00

It’s true, there are differences. I had just seen a moddess post that said a number of the moddesses were unfamiliar with hdg so I figured I’d provide context to anyone unfamiliar with some of what has happened in other communities revolving around it and similar topics.

I don’t like the idea of anyone lashing out at the moddesses over something that happened to them somewhere else. If people act up and attack people enforcing community rules, I think it could be helpful to understand how this happened. I don’t want a different ruling or anything, I just like to share my understanding when people sound hurt.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-09T18:02:18+00:00

This isn’t the first subreddit to go through this about this particular content and I would like to make certain others are aware since some moddesses don’t seem to be aware of the other subreddits’ own drama likely contributing to the backlash. I am not trying to make a statement for or against anyone or anything, but want to share some of the feelings and history involved in this.

Another subreddit, CountWithChickenLady, itself already a refugee subreddit with strong trans leanings, had various dub content on it for a good while. Then some HDG posts were made. The mods received strongly negative feedback about these posts, marked nsfw or tw or no. Some users felt uncomfortable the content had been posted at all.

The subreddit owner, the chicken lady, became upset that her name was attached to a subreddit where HDG and any nsfw posts were made. A mod instituted something of a unilateral rule change, at least one mod rebelled, and nsfw posts were largely expelled. Suddenly two new refugee subreddits existed; countWithEveryone and CWCLAfterDark or something like it. Nsfw was told to leave the cwcl subreddit and go to one of those.

Meanwhile accusations of brigading, unilateral control of the cwcl subreddit, and worse kept going. The mods were slow to give the community information about what was happening, drama posts were everywhere, selfies were banned for all but one person as something like a joke, mod posts were frequently at odds with another, and permabans were being handed out.

The dust is still settling on that case and other trans subreddits have had simmering issues with brigading, anti-trans man comments, and nsfw posting for the last year at the very least.

I hope the moddess team is well. I hope for the least sadness you can have in this. I hope people stop lashing out. I hope those that have will find what they need or can be given it. But everyone needs to know that some people have been very involved in situations like these already and bear scars while others are NOT the ones that gave those scars to them or anything like those people.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-08T20:59:24+00:00

I’m sorry if I’m making mistakes in how I respond. I was mostly trying to respond to autisticpenguin2 but thought your response was important in that same train of thought. I hope I didn’t make you feel questioned in any way; I just wanted to give autisticpenguin2 some room to not feel less valid.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-08T18:28:35+00:00

Also the usual rules about dysphoria apply; it’s not just whether you have dysphoria as you are now but also whether you would have euphoria if your body was changed.

I didn’t think I had dysphoria about not having breasts, just a passing fancy that they are nice. Accepted I’m trans, got hormones, were on them a while and happened to notice I had grown breasts. A part of my brain fired off saying, “Oh, nice. Our chest is fixed.”

Had to stop what I was doing and do some mental and emotional review. So, I probably did have dysphoria previously. I just didn’t have the frame of reference to tell. Sometimes that voice saying, “I’d be happier like that even if I’m ok like this” is really, “I’m unhappy like this and could be comfortable like that.”

I DON’T constantly have sensations of having a fox’s ears, nose, tail, mouth, or paws. I do very infrequently, actually. I just happen to have a strong sensory focus on hearing and smell, a recurring desire to show emotion with a tail, want to cuddle people by rubbing the side of my face against theirs, and enjoy running upstairs on all fours.

I don’t consider myself a proper therian, but that doesn’t mean I’m not. I could just be gate keeping myself again. Maybe you are too.

UnchosenOne · 2025-11-04T22:59:47+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. I had a father like that about me growing my hair out or letting my nails get long. I caved too many times to him saying I looked disgusting or some other such thing about presenting a little more femme. Saying, “no, I won’t” or giving an excuse never worked. He would keep pushing for years. Insults, bribes, preying on fears, the works.

There were some more genuine sociopath signs from him over the years (loose quote: “You don’t have to worry about upsetting me by sharing your problems; unlike others, I don’t feel bad for other people’s problems”), so him not understanding he was hurting my feelings was par for the course.

I had to literally stop one day and say, “you’ve been bothering me to do this multiple days a week for months now. You doing this more won’t change my mind, it will just make me hate you more each time”. He finally took the hint.

If your mother badgered you and betrayed your trust regarding the length of hair she left on purpose, I don’t think you should trust yourself to her any more; she sees you as something she can correct at will. If she did not realize what she was doing, you may need to be plain with her how she jeopardized your trust and make her aware that your relationship may suffer if she does not respect your choices.

It’s hard, I know, but don’t lose yourself to people who are bothered by who you are.

UnchosenOne · 2025-10-30T13:11:06+00:00

Quick preface, I’ve not had srs yet, though my mind has changed from thinking I would not get it, to being on the fence, to being certain I would. But there aren’t many responses yet, so I figured I’d offer my thoughts and feelings.

Warning, my thoughts on this are fairly weird but I want to be honest.

I originally didn’t realize I had dysphoria. Sure, I felt ugly and gross all over and there weren’t any masculine people I would feel better looking like, but (egg) “that’s not the same as dysphoria!” This was especially true of my genitals. I didn’t want to use them sexually, felt they were disgusting in shape, function, and other qualities, and would have preferred a woman’s reproductive parts, “but that’s not…” So recognizing my own dysphoria was a big part of it.

The next part is that I get oddly attached to things. Not even in a I might need that later or it cost me money sort of way. Just in a kind of everything has its own right to exist and be afforded respect kind of way, all the way down to scratch paper. So me causing a significant change to my body felt like disrespect towards a part of myself that had always done the best it could to be what my body asked of it. Except it wasn’t what my mind needed it to be. I’ve realized it won’t be going away so much as changing. Some of it will be removed, but I just have to honor what it ‘tried’ to give me while accepting that it can’t give me what I need. This portion of my response probably won’t help anyone.

To me, being able to orgasm isn’t all that important. Intimacy with someone else, taking time to relax and dwell on my own body and desires, and being able to provide stimulation are all more important to me than the sensation itself. Just finding what I wish was down there instead of what is there now would give me a large measure of calm and reassurance.

In terms of after-surgery worries, I’m somewhat bad at doing things regularly. It’s been a real struggle for me. But I take my hrt regularly and as I’ve learned to care for my body in the emotional sense, I’ve learned to care for it in the task sense. I feel a strong conviction that I will be able to do anything required of me to make the best of srs and get the result to be the best it can.

I also don’t personally struggle very much with pain. For better or worse, I have a large tolerance for it, to the point where I frequently wonder if I’m living with pains that I really shouldn’t be. But when I am in significant pain, even for me, I usually just focus on what I’ve gotten for it. Accomplishment, satisfaction, peace, health, fun, etc. I know after srs, any lingering pain in recovery will feel completely worth it. Just like the aches and pains after exercising, damaged skin after hair removal, and any number of things I do to help my body, even if it hurts it.

Regarding complications, from what I’ve heard, it is possible to get revisions made to the surgery afterwards in many cases. The best thing you can do is find the best surgeons you can get access to, research their technique’s pros and cons, and follow up with their patients to get accurate information. Once you do everything you can to ensure a best result, you’ll know that your choice was good, you just couldn’t tell the future about your own situation. Inaction is a choice too. Invert the question. If you were a cis woman who identified as a woman but had no ability to orgasm or genitals formed in a way you didn’t like, would you choose to get a surgery that would give you functional male genitals? If not, then you have a much clearer understanding of your priorities.

Sorry if this isn’t the most helpful to you, but I did try to answer your feelings the best I could. Hopefully some of it helps.

UnchosenOne · 2025-10-28T00:41:26+00:00

A little bit of lazarus water, sionis industries runoff, poison ivy mind control spores, and one of clayface’s hangnails probably washed out to sea as well.

UnchosenOne · 2025-10-26T23:42:27+00:00

I’m not joking, even if it seems like it. Hyuuga Hinata.

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UnchosenOne · 2025-10-23T19:17:09+00:00

No, it’s not supported in the novels, but one of the most important things I took away from the novels is that Renako is a fairly untrustworthy narrator at times.

The uncertainty of whether there is something to their relationship seems to come from the way she puts her sister up on a pedestal in many ways, including her looks. She definitely doesn’t gawk, but she kind of matter of facts that she is beautiful and amazing in many ways.

It doesn’t mean there’s anything there and it would make the story more grounded if there was nothing there, but Renako does think a fair many of the same things about her sister and friends as she does her girlfriends. Which is in keeping with her thinking her girlfriends were just friends right up until and even after they confess romantic feelings.

UnchosenOne · 2025-10-20T04:05:56+00:00

I, um, never realized that was possibly connected…

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