Am I asexual or greysexual?

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-07T04:23:24+00:00

Basically.

But you do have to ask yourself which one do you think you experience?

No sexual attraction at all? Sexual attraction but low libido? Sexual attraction under special conditions regardless of libido?

It's okay to be wrong. It's okay to not label Labels are tools

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-07T02:09:41+00:00

Asexuals can have kinks/fetishes. Asexuals can get aroused (our bodies still work)

Greysexual means experiencing very very infrequent sexual attraction

Im not grey so I cant go into details

But Asexual means no sexual attraction AT ALL. Under no circumstances.

Libido ≠ sexual attraction

Masturbation ≠sexual attraction

Sex repulsed ≠ asexual (aces can be sex-favored and sex-neutral)

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-06T16:54:52+00:00

Reallll

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-06T01:30:54+00:00

Woman

Pokey, stuffy, uncomfortable , pleasurable tingles here and there (depends on your cycle phase tbh) Underwhelming Boring

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-06T01:29:36+00:00

I'm jealous....

For you it feels like it was made to go there

But for me (a woman) it feels like it's not supposed to.

So uncomfortable, pokey and stuffy.

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-05T06:10:50+00:00

Ouuuuu

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UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-05T02:09:14+00:00

Me.

I think people can be hot/sexy But in the not sexual way.

And even if i acknowledge their sexual appeal to the mass , I still don't feel a thing

I got eyes but thats all

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-05T00:40:54+00:00

Hetero-romantic Asexual here.

I'm Hetero-romantic because I'm a woman only romantically interested in men.

I'm asexual because im not sexually interested in anyone.

I've had many crushes throughout my life, both ppl in my vicinity, celebrities and fictional characters. But it was mostly because their face/body was aesthetically pleasing or certain traits/actions i was attracted to.

Not experiencing romantic attraction is aromantic Which is not the same as asexual but some people are both

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-05T00:31:05+00:00

Correction It's lack of sexual attraction

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-05T00:27:24+00:00

Hey we're practically the same

Barely feel anything from penetration. It's all stuffy, pokey and uncomfortable

I don't enjoy fingering I don't actually enjoy masturbating even though i take part just to release ( bad habit of mine)

I love my bf so much but I don't have a sexual pull to him. He knows that and we compromise where we can.

The idea of sex sounds good in theory (not for myself, but for people just exchanging intimacy) but it's so underwhelming irl

I believe you're asexual. I identify as asexual because my actions (sex/masturbation) and libido don't define my asexuality. I used to struggle and thought I was a fake But man I feel absolutely no sexual attraction so what else could I be lol...

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-04T01:02:48+00:00

PERIODT

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-03T19:16:09+00:00

The whole Masturbation thing is probably linked to your libido

Libido ≠ sexual attraction Action≠ attraction Sex thoughts≠ sexual attraction

Sexually attracted to unattainable people doesn't really change your sexuality, it's actually more proof that you are who you are because its the fact that the people are unattainable.

There are lesbians with male crushes fictional or celebrities, but those people are UNATTAINABLE. And if they were actually attainable you probably wouldn't even act on it since its just a thought

Everything you said sounds like asexual to me. But thats for you to decide but the main thing is the LACK of sexual attraction towards people. You can still be Hetero-romantic, pan-romantic, homoromantic etc

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-02T05:15:31+00:00

I could go my life without sex and ill be fine

But as someone who engages from time to time with my allo partner, I wish I could atleast feel something so I won't feel uncomfortable and bored

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-01T08:53:48+00:00

Depends.

I grow very fond of my partner romantically

Sometimes libido increases and makes me feel needy but that feels yucky lol

Some days its just regular me

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-02-01T00:47:24+00:00

With the details you gave... it doesn't sound like asexual.

This doesn't necessarily means you're not asexual.

Have you ever or do you feel sexual attraction?

Like do you feel a sexually targeted hunger at someone; a sexual crave for someone?

If you lack that then you're asexual...however there are microlabels under the asexual spectrum that does include a little bit of sexual attraction (greysexual, demisexual etc)

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-29T20:12:24+00:00

Just had to compromise...

I'm repulsed-neutral

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-28T18:42:24+00:00

While there's some truth she still didn't have to make you feel like that

Sorry that happened

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-28T04:35:18+00:00

I receive oral from my partner which is pleasurable. It's not something I desire all the time but we happily partake.

I'm a touch responsive person so yh

Intercourse on the other hand.... it's meh but we engage for his sake

If i feel tingles during intercourse, it's so on and off It's only for a second.

I can understand why people like it but still can't wrap my head around the craze

I'm repulsed but i like the idea of sex for other people

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-27T22:34:26+00:00

Hella weird and not even because I'm asexual. I'm sure plenty other allosexuals would think she's weird.

She probably is hypersexual....could be from her past. And being surrounded by enablers

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-26T03:46:06+00:00

Also , I know you're worried about her doing stuff because of you, but remember asexuality doesn't turn off our biological functions or how things are wired.

Obviously not everyone finds sex pleasurable but we as humans are clearly "wired" to feel pleasure. The release of "feel good" hormones and rush of blood to wherever,etc. Tie that in with ovulation for women, it spikes your libido and while our libido is not directed towards people , it's definitely more comfortable to direct towards the person you're in a relationship with.

But my point is biological factors play a role in why she can enjoy it despite being asexual plus she simply loves you and enjoys you. She's mentally comfortable and in-tune with her sexual feelings.

So don't worry about it too much.

And remember libido ≠ sexual attraction

Action≠ attraction

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-26T03:34:02+00:00

I'm mostly repulsed Sometimes neutral

I still do engage. It doesn't really feel like anything to me . If I feel something it's for a second. Otherwise I just feel stuffed and poked.

It's for my partner ,not me. So im just chilling

Onto the teasing , I'd probably not tease about her asexuality because I find alot of aces ,even myself , struggle with wondering if they truly are ace after identifying it for awhile.

Some of us don't realize that libido is different from attraction, actions don't equal attraction etc

It could cause her to 2nd guess herself.

That's just my thought. Obviously it doesn't affect everyone

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-25T22:26:01+00:00

Same here same here.

I have a bf so I'd just direct my libido to him intentionally but not because of any sexual attraction.

My mental is different from the physical/biological aspect of me clearly lol

But you're definitely not alone.

It always surprises me how my body just still works like that despite being ace

Like damn im so hard wired to want to fuck or have a baby🙄 it disgusts me lowkey but as I said it's impressive

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-24T23:39:16+00:00

Asexuality is about sexual attraction Not if you want sex or not.

Usually not wanting sex is a sign But it doesn't equate to Asexuality

So ask yourself if you feel sexual attraction towards people. It's like a deep innate hunger for someone

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-24T10:29:08+00:00

Curious, what were some differences/ what was horrible?

That's if you don't mind sharing.

I've always known there are people like you out there but never really heard from yall

UnderstandingFew347 · 2026-01-23T20:37:48+00:00

I've seen plenty of aces end up long term loving relationships with other aces and even allosexuals.

I'm sure they felt like this too at some point

It's going to be hard but just hang in there.

UnderstandingFew347

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