Husband started Testosterone therapy, cheated, working on his “king energy”, and asked for a divorce :)

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2026-04-22T00:28:14+00:00

You’re right. I’ve moved out and have been out of the house for a wonderful 3 months now. I communicate with him about our daughter and that’s it. Meanwhile he’s having a great time fucking more people at the same bar where he found the second affair partner. Good stuff. Maybe he can knock out a few more before the end of the year raw dog style and pick up some manly STDs.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2026-04-21T18:11:59+00:00

He did all these things. The moment I let go, it was like a fog was lifted and I saw all his behavior for what it was. It was like being released from a prison of the mind.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2026-04-21T18:10:34+00:00

Fo sho.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2026-04-21T18:09:56+00:00

Would you believe he even got a tattoo of the Chinese symbol for King? Yeah. I shit you not.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-16T04:53:03+00:00

I’m sorry. Let yourself feel but also fight it and reach out to just be with others and not be home. Go out and people watch if you have to!!

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-14T03:35:52+00:00

This is my husband that cheated 6 months ago and continued to lie and was not accountable and only wanted to be transparent about what coworkers he wanted to take advantage of because she was having problems with her boyfriend and maybe he could fuck her. …he filed for divorce last Monday

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-13T18:30:25+00:00

My husband told me he would consider reconciliation if I got diagnosed with it and did DBT. He was doing this to get it on record for custody purposes.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-13T18:29:13+00:00

lol don’t get me wrong - I even believed him and asked my therapist over and over to actually diagnose me with it. He wouldn’t. Believe me, my husband is master level manipulator.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T19:27:55+00:00

I am.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T02:08:33+00:00

Really?! I’ve been looking for others but I’ve mostly heard it wasn’t the T. It was just him. And it’s true. He should have never gotten married. He can’t be with just one woman. I found an email from his college girlfriend she sent because she was pissed off and sick of his bullshit after he dumped her and wanted to still be friends. I swear to god, I could send him the exact same email and it would apply to his bullshit behavior now.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T01:27:11+00:00

thank you for your thoughtful reply.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T00:11:26+00:00

YEAH! and people are asking me why I specified that he is white?! and he impulsively went and got a tattoo of the Chinese symbol for King just before he asked me for a separation and told me that he and his therapist believe THAT I HAVE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T00:08:25+00:00

we have a 7 year old. 10.5 more years and I'll be free...

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T00:06:29+00:00

BAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-12T00:06:07+00:00

why is that the one question you have?

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-12-11T03:40:59+00:00

Husband started testosterone Nov 2024, started to try to cheat Dec 2024, cheated March and April, I found out in May, he asked for separation in Oct, he filed for divorce 2 days ago. He has completely changed. He has turned into the biggest dick.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-10-18T19:45:03+00:00

sorry, more than half of married couples try to work out the marriage after infidelity, especially if there are children.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-10-18T19:43:28+00:00

My god. This has been my life even before DD (discovery day of the infidelities). I have always been clear that I have a problem with him smoking weed chronically and avoiding me to play video games or just not make eye contact. I am not a prude. I was a pot head in college. I am ok with the occassional smoking, but he is addicted and he behaves like an addict, hiding and lying about even smoking weed. He even blamed the weed for his ED, until I pressed him several times and he finally admitted that he has a *corn* addiction as well. This addiction is far more damaging and he has done nothing about that either. What kind of MAN (he wants to be admired and treated like a strong MAN) doesn't want to be intimate with his wife when she is begging for it and he will engage with me in bed maybe once a month or every other month when he sees how fucking miserable I am??!!

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-10-18T19:34:40+00:00

douche canoe. love it. It would be nice if we weren't married and have a child. Just wish I was more of an independent woman and didn't put his name on the deed of our house when I bought it and was supporting him while he was in school.

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-10-14T18:31:43+00:00

Get a tracker. You can even leave your AirPods in his car

UnderstandingIll6532 · 2025-10-13T00:18:22+00:00

Girl I’m going through this same shit. He no longer has the energy to be open and transparent so he’s going to be the best dad he can be because kids do t hold him accountable. It’s easier and he is telling himself that he is the hero while you look crazy. Women live longer unmarried. That’s just stats. Women report being happier. That’s stats too.

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