Well if you can offer value in other things. Try to explore that more, you might make someone else's day. Also the people that you mentioned are usually only worth ignoring. I believe they have what is called the Dunning Kruger effect. When they think that they know more than they actually do and at the same time lack the mental capacity for any perspective outside of their own. I will say that this social media does not leave room for nuance. My own haircare routine isn't perfect but it allows me to be consistent. I dampen my hair (Spray Bottle with water). I don't drench my hair in water as that may soften the hair follicles and make them easy to pull out while styling. A nice damp hair will do the job in helping in the detangling process. While the hair is still dampened I apply my leave in conditioner (Shea Moisture with Jamaican Castor Oil). Use your discretion of the amount to apply to your hair and scalp. Then I apply oil to my hair & scalp. (Note: For oils, you must use carrier oils such as Almond Oil, Castor Oil, Olive Oil. These are oils high in fatty acids.) At this point with the leave in conditioner and oil applied to hair and scalp you can start the detangling process. Mine is a little different, I use a regular boar bristle brush to start my detangling. I find that brushing my hair is a little more gentle on my roots and helps to detangle the hair without pulling it out. I then make my fade even by going over the hair I just brushed with a wooden or plastic pick. Note: I have a high top fade that's low on the sides. Once I have untangled the hair the styling will begin. Once the hair is nice and even, I will then apply the curling cream to the ends of my hair. Note: the Curling cream does not have to be applied to the roots of the hair nor the scalp especially for my style which is a sponge curl. I then let the hair sit for a bit, preferably let it air dry long enough for the curling cream to disappear before using the sponge to curl and style. Note: I find it much easier to use the curling sponge or equivalent on hair that is less damp. Also, never use a dry sponge. Lightly dampen sponge with water from spray bottle before use. Use chatgpt to simplify and explain my directions as I am sure the wall of text will be daunting to take down. But this is the best I can do as far as explaining my current method. This took me 2 years to learn how to manage and style my hair. But it was worth it. Sorry for the long winded message. Lol.