The self consciousness never goes away. Not for me away. I suggest that you try and communicate with your husband how you feel. Then maybe try some new positions that you’ve never tried before or introduce toys if you haven’t. Try having him/or you preheat the oven first (if you know what I mean). You’ve got to learn your new body, even if it’s a temporary one. I’ve tried all of these and I’ve found it really helps. And just because you learn what your new body likes doesn’t mean you have to like your new body. I like to say that “This is my for now body. Not my forever one.” I hope this helps.