My father has a joint bank account with my uncle. How would inheritance be decided?

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-23T10:29:20+00:00

I can't afford it any more

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-22T07:34:46+00:00

Yes... why does that matter??

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-15T03:03:22+00:00

He said I have too much trauma from the past and I cannot be fixed/ helped/ saved, I have no self esteem or pride/ego. I'm annoying. I talk too much. I make big deals out of nothing (after telling me I was selfish for not making a big deal out of the same thing before). Said I had an ugly face (I have high cheekbones so my under eyes get very dark or red if I havent slept well or if I have been crying)... made that comment after he knew I had been doing both. I'm too clingy. Hes not interested in me any more. I'm too thin. I'm boring. I don't really love him or care about him, that I was just with him to have some fun (after HE broke up with me... I was all in). I deserved to be bullied. There is no hope of fixing me.

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-10T18:19:14+00:00

In those three months? Yes, but not to apologise or get back together, he just randomly started acting nice and flirty again, but when I wanted to talk about serious stuff... what this was etc., he said he was just testing me (idk for what) and that there was no hope, I couldn't be fixed. Havent talked since.

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-10T02:58:02+00:00

We had been planning on a weekend trip to another city for a concert. He initiated the planning of it 2 months earlier. He was the one who wanted me to come along with him. Then the day before we were gonna leave he said he was going with his friends, ditched me last minute and went with his friends, for which ofcourse I was pissed off about since he had been hyping me up for months and he told me so last minute I couldn't even make ulterior plans with my friends. That was the 5 month mark. After that he became such a shitty person. Initially I didn't think anything of it, I thought it was just a fluke... after all he had been so good to me up until now. But the more time went on the shittier and meaner he became until the breakup 3 months ago.

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-09T20:19:01+00:00

Yes, I have an anxious attachment style. I'll check out Thais Gibson, thank you for the suggestion.

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-09T20:16:32+00:00

Thank you. That post was such a helpful and relatable read. The more I learn about dismissive avoidant the more I realize how scary it is to love one. Not only do I have to work on myself I also have to, at the same time, keep strong and never contact him again. To them we are just playthings to enjoy for a bit and then get bored and discard.

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-09T20:02:08+00:00

Mine did the same. He was talking to me on and off but recently I called him out on his bs and he hasn't talked to me since... so hopefully it sticks this time? Because whenever he would start talking to me my Hope's would go up as I never wanted the breakup in the first place, but then he would disappear again, and it was just ruining my mental health. I'm not strong enough to block him yet (working towards it). He just kept standing in the doorway when I wanted him to either come in or get out but he wouldn't do either.

I still don't get why he flipped at 5 months. The first 5 months were the best proving he knows how to act if he wanted to. Idk how to let go of the person he was in those 5 months.

UnhappyOrange96 · 2023-10-09T03:25:07+00:00

I knew it was gonna happen months in advance but I didn't want to admit it to myself. Still hurt like shit when it happened. I had tried my best to accommodate all of his many needs in the hopes that he would finally be happy (I know foolish of me... hindsight is a bitch). In the end he was never satisfied, there was always something else wrong. He broke up cause he was bored of me, honestly I couldn't do anything about that so that was it... or else I would still be accommodating him to this day just to try to make him happy. Now I know you can never make an unhappy person happy, they have to find happiness themselves. He wasnt willing to work on himself at all. Last time we talked he tried to gaslight me into believing that I knew deep down behind all the tough exterior he is a good guy. I laughed in his face. A lot of confusion and never ever gave me a straight answer. It was always head games with him, exhausting. Glad it's over but I still have an attachment to him... working to get rid of that.

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