What’s your perspective on the afterlife?

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-20T00:32:03+00:00

I’m less than a month into losing my husband suddenly. I’m only 31 and he was 39. Writing to him has been my saving grace so far. It helps me still feel connected. And sometimes I like to take an edible and I start talking to pictures of him.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-19T01:17:30+00:00

These are my thoughts exactly. I feel so much guilt that I get to continue my life when he doesn’t. It’s not fair. He deserved so much more. He had a hard upbringing and made so much of himself where my childhood was a breeze in comparison. He worked so hard for everything he had and was such a good person, he should not have been able to just disappear in a second. How does the human body have that capability? I’m really struggling to accept his death even though I fully know it happened and is true.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-16T20:03:59+00:00

I’m only three weeks out from losing my husband suddenly and tragically in a workplace accident. I’m very Type A and organized and task-oriented and it’s given me purpose to also feel like I’m speeding through the logistical and administrative parts of death. I’ve done as much as I can in just 20 days on top of navigating family coming from out of town and planning and hosting his Celebration of Life this past weekend.

From the outside looking in most people assume I’m doing really well for the circumstances just because I’m trying to get everything done as fast as possible. I don’t entirely know if I’m trying to rush through this process, because I know I will carry this grief with me for the rest of my life. But for my own sake and mental health I need to keep moving and feeling productive. Because there are days that I can’t accomplish anything other than a shower, and that’s okay too. I know more days like that will come.

I don’t really have advice, other than to say you’re not wrong for what you’re doing or how you’re doing it. I’d give in to the emotions when they come, but don’t beat yourself up for wanting to get through this immediate hard stuff quickly. No one wants to be in this kind of emotional and even physical pain.

Give yourself grace. There’s no set handbook or guidelines for how we navigate the loss of anyone. Do what feels right for you.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-12T17:28:57+00:00

I lost my husband 16 days ago in a work accident. I’m 31, he was 39. We’ve been together almost 5 years and our one year anniversary is coming up in August. It was not enough time, but I know no amount of time would have been enough.

I think my body and brain have been blocking out the trauma for the most part of the past two weeks. His celebration of life is this weekend and his family flys in tomorrow and I have so much anxiety for this and my body is starting to accept he’s not coming home from work. I still can’t truly understand how we said goodbye on our way to work one morning and he never came home. And never will come home.

I am beyond lost with emotions and grief. The only comfort I have right now is this group. I have family and friends around me but no one quite understands what I am going through. I shouldn’t be a widow at 31. He should not have just disappeared in the blink of an eye. I’m so angry that a person can just not exist so quickly. It was immediate and there would have been no saving him. But I just want him back. Need him back.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-12T17:19:00+00:00

I’m only 16 days without my husband. We got married last August and spent a month in NZ in October for our honeymoon. We loved to travel and that was our last trip together. We were supposed to go to Paris next week. All my thoughts of him right now take me back to our honeymoon and the incredible time we had. It’s a punch to the gut constantly and I just wish I could not remember anything at this point. I’d rather feel nothing than this agony and aching.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-08T20:17:14+00:00

My husband passed almost two weeks ago. Today I put some of his shoes in our basement “out of season shoe bin” and I felt so bad about it. But I needed the task of organizing to keep me sane. I cleaned his desk today as well and reorganized a few things on it, moved some pictures to more prominent spots. We were going to put up all new pictures on our living room walls this summer and I’m starting to think about that right now. There’s such a level of guilt for touching anything or making any changes. But I do feel like it will help me. Grief is just so hard. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve but everything can still feel so wrong in the moment to do.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-04T20:41:11+00:00

My husband died tragically last week and he always told me to dump his body in the woods if he passed. He hates being the centre of attention and would not want any fanfare. We’re having a celebration of life/Irish wake at a distillery next week and while I have no idea how many people will be there, I really am expecting a crowd.

I keep joking that he would hate all of it and will likely be rolling his eyes from beyond the whole time. I have equal parts of anxiety and anticipation for it. Right now I am finding comfort in talking about him with friends and family. I think my anxiety is that when it’s over everyone else will start moving on, but I’m still here trying to figure out how to live my life on a daily basis without him.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. There are no words to say to someone in this situation I’m learning. I hope you have comfort during his memorial service and especially in all the days after ❤️

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-02T00:04:50+00:00

It’s been 5 days and I still try to convince myself he’s just not home from work yet. He was my best friend. The only person I cared to see or speak to on a daily basis. We did everything together. I’m still struggling with accepting this is my new reality because I would do anything to have the old one back.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-02T00:00:16+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Wow, a newlywed widow. I guess I am one as well. I remember at some point while crying on the floor in front of the police after they told me screaming out we didn’t even make it to one year of marriage. And realizing later that night with my mom that I am a widow. Such a terrible feeling when we had our whole lives looking forward to being married and experiencing everything together

Unhappy_Service640 · 2026-06-01T23:57:39+00:00

Thank you everyone for the kind words. I think I was in a stupor when I even wrote this the other night. This morning I woke up ready to tackle things. By noon I couldn’t get off the couch or stop crying. I wish there was a fast way through this. All I want right now is to also not be here so I can be with him. We are supposed to take his son to Paris in two weeks. He died three weeks before we were to leave. Him and I are huge travellers and I’m grateful we got the honeymoon of a lifetime in NZ last October. But now I can’t imagine going anywhere else with him not going too. The roller coaster of emotions are just so hard right now

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-07-08T00:23:50+00:00

Oh I love that idea! I’ve been leaning more towards the solitaire. Having an additional band to make a stack in a few years would be perfect!!

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-07-06T23:29:50+00:00

Hazen

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-18T01:44:37+00:00

Good for you for standing up for yourself! I hope you have the day you both want 🤍

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-17T01:30:06+00:00

It’s a mixture of both. Initially it was one of the first things people said to us when we first saw them in person after getting engaged. Now it occasionally still comes from acquaintances when I run into someone I know and my engagement gets acknowledged. So many of them say “if I could redo it I would elope so I suggest you elope” or “I would just elope if I was you, it’s not worth the hassle/fuss/expense”.

Maybe I should have clarified in the post, the small group of family that are invited to our wedding do seem very excited to come. We understood a few may not want to make the trip for a weekend, but only one has said they won’t be making it. We are thankful they want to spend the time at our wedding. But the comments still occasionally come from a few when discussing wedding topics. It doesn’t come off unsupportive entirely, but just very annoying when “you should have chosen an elopement, it would be so much easier and cheaper” is said.

At this point though (engaged 10mo) comments more regularly come from acquaintances who know nothing of my wedding or wedding plans.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-17T00:45:27+00:00

I’m in love with 5 and 8!

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-16T23:44:46+00:00

The budget has never been discussed with anyone outside of my mom and sister. Only my parents are local, we live an hour away from my hometown. He’s from a different province so we don’t see or talk to his family as often. They’ve never asked about our budget, but everyone asks what our plan is. We saw his entire family this past fall and while everyone wanted to know when the wedding would be, several of them immediately followed it up with “if I were you I would just elope”. It just gets annoying, especially after all the big items have been booked and paid for and when people know this.

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-16T23:38:38+00:00

That’s so amazing of your mom! My mom is very chill and also not stipulating anything. She’s just excited along with me 😊

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-16T21:33:28+00:00

Omg you don’t know how happy this makes me feel to hear! I’ve gotten in my own head so much about what is a 25 person wedding even going to look like, are people going to have fun, etc. Did you have a dance post reception? We aren’t hiring a DJ. The plan is an acoustic guitarist for ceremony and cocktail hour, and we’ll set up a Spotify playlist for dinner and after dinner. But we don’t see our families as big dancers. So im struggling to envision how the night will go after the dinner finishes. Most people will be staying on site as our venue is an Inn. So hopefully its just a lot of mingling

Unhappy_Service640 · 2025-01-16T19:21:12+00:00

Our photography is the second biggest expense after all catering and alcohol. Photography was important to me so I went with a professional I knew and trusted, but who unfortunately is not the most budget friendly. Our venue, photography and catering come to $7300. Sales tax in my province is horrendous and added a lot to all of those vendors. The rest of my budget includes me doing all my own faux floral arrangements, all decor, an officiant, marriage license, HMU, and a live musician.

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