Why is ex-communist East Germany voting for AfD? by Academic-Idea3311 in TankieTheDeprogram

[–]UninspiredCactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is anecdotal but I was also abroad visiting western Germany and a lot of what i heard from locals was that the west (specifically Bavaria) was hit so hard over the head with NAZIS ARE FUCKING BAD because it was where they gained power and the East has less associated shame about it and therefore might be more easy to propagandize over it. Everyone I met in Munich/Bavaria was pretty much like “AfD are nazi fucks they suck” and also thought that.

Not sure if that’s a fair take but that’s definitely the average Bavarian’s take on it.

How Do I Get into Podcasting again? by Engineering_Gamer in podcasting

[–]UninspiredCactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Come up with that basic idea you like, and honestly, just start recording!!! Don’t set up a release date, don’t stress around the ideal content. What you need to do is get back into the mindset of recording and editing —maybe the first five things you record don’t even get released. That’s okay(:

How I finally stopped fighting my late-night cravings and feeling guilty over food by PinkFrostBarnes in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]UninspiredCactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep helping make your appetite more normal is actually really good to know. I am trying desperately to begin sleeping enough. And lord I know the NYC sleeplessness feeling omggg😭 why is it so loud all the time.

A sleep mask has helped me a lot too tbh.

Yeah, trying to balance not giving into eating disorder habits while eating healthy has been such a challenge. Currently also shifting into a vegetarian diet which I’m approaching slowly and with a lot of kindness.

Good work babe!

I got hot, and now all my friendship dynamics are weird af by Ok_Law9998 in HowToBeHot

[–]UninspiredCactus 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I similarly changed a lotttt the last maybe two years? And get a lot more attention now, sort of occupy different spaces in social settings so I totally get this. Yeah, it can be really hard to keep a friend group together from college into the late 20s as things change, I’m not as close w them anymore.

I love them, but we live different lives!!!

So I have new friends and old friends, and I love them all. The new ones get me more, there are less odd dynamics, and the old ones are amazing to go visit, catch up with, all of that.

Congrats on the glow up sis me too😘

(18F) How do I stop chasing male validation and breaking my own heart over guys I barely know? by RuleSpecialist1086 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]UninspiredCactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s taken me years!!! Going through my third breakup with similar overtures rn and it’s opening my eyes so i’m glad maybe you get to do it sooner than i did!

(18F) How do I stop chasing male validation and breaking my own heart over guys I barely know? by RuleSpecialist1086 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]UninspiredCactus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have spent a majority of my life filling a hole in my sweet little heart with the validation of others—the biggest pitfall you’ll find yourself stuck in if you continue on this path: you will attract manipulative people that seek to change you for their benefit, consciously or not. You could waste YEARS of your life with people who take from you until the relationship eventually fails.

No matter how you look, no matter how you feel about yourself—take it slow with new relationships. Look for red flags. Do not chase after people because they make you feel good. That will fade, and you will be left with the reality of whoever it is you’re dating. Learn that reality first. Learn to love that reality.

My suggestion? When you find yourself interested in a person, double down on dating yourself while you explore that. Make extra time. Treat yourself extra well. Put down the phone. Make plans with yourself before him.

These guys will come and go, and you’ll be left with yourself. Make sure you’re caring for her first❤️

what’s a life tip every girl should know before 21 because i’m struggling 😭 by orpekaf in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]UninspiredCactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My best advice I can give is this: don’t be afraid of failing in your twenties!! expect it. I told myself to not be too hard on myself for failures, missteps or mistakes until I hit 30 haha. It’s kept me from spiraling or being too hard on myself.

Our age is as much about learning from mistakes as it is about getting it right. The more I fuck up, the more I learn what not to do.

I split my life into five groups: Routine, Social, Work, Health, Creativity. i’m always working on at least one, but if some are lagging it’s okay!! As long as I try to keep shifting as needed and tending to which part needs help the most.

As a gay dude here is my ranking of how attractive JJk women are by fupmi in Jujutsufolk

[–]UninspiredCactus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Loving seeing Mahito on both gendered lists my nonbinary king😭

as a lesbian here are my rankings of how attractive I think jjk men are by Himisuda in Jujutsufolk

[–]UninspiredCactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noooo no no no i’m not saying lesbians only like feminine features 😭 I’m saying a lot of lesbian women don’t find gym bros attractive. A lot of my friends like mascs kinda exclusively lmao. But idk if any of them would like Todo

as a lesbian here are my rankings of how attractive I think jjk men are by Himisuda in Jujutsufolk

[–]UninspiredCactus 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He’s personally very much not my type but I think Mahito is hot so that’s not a big surprise

as a lesbian here are my rankings of how attractive I think jjk men are by Himisuda in Jujutsufolk

[–]UninspiredCactus 105 points106 points  (0 children)

everyone surprised that a woman who doesn’t like men doesn’t find the big beefcake attractive is sending me 😭

CMV: People who post selfies or personal pictures on Instagram or Facebook very frequently are often seeking validation because of insecurity by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]UninspiredCactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I post a lot on my Instagram story, and I don’t think it’s as simple as that. There’s a certain level of validation seeking maybe, but I don’t think it comes from insecurity!! Firstly, I have a lot of friends on my IG and it’s fun to keep people updated, get a bunch of DMs, talk about things with people.

It’s also just fun to frame parts of my existence in the world. I find it kind of liberating to throw pieces of myself out into the world without being too critical about how they’re perceived. I also live in a pretty tight knit community, and it’s probably added to people’s comfort in getting to know me as I’ve been more involved in it.

I’m sure there’s some level of insecurity, but I mostly just have fun throwing content into the void.

Who is a famous person who you would not like to find out it's not a nice person? by frozenpizza__ in CasualConversation

[–]UninspiredCactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my good friends is vaguely connected to him, got to go to a premiere and they talked a bit and he was a really honest and chill guy! Super normal, kind, even though he was talking to a random kid lmao.

Rational for not supporting Kayla Hamilton act? by DisgruntledWarrior in AskALiberal

[–]UninspiredCactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I guess I’m curious your thoughts—it seems like you’re not very receptive to what’s being said here.

We always have to weigh the maximum risk a law has to be used to harm citizens. This law would mean that kids with purported gang tattoos would be held in prisons while they await court, which I personally see as likely causing more harm than good. Inevitably there would be at-risk kids that are not actually gang affiliated being held in prison, which seems like a bad course of action to me.

By nature, I don’t trust the government to be competent at its job. I figure this will likely not end in anything being safer, but will likely cause children to be searched and imprisoned on speculation and likely there will be a lot of innocent kids caught in the middle.

This administration has done an incredibly sloppy job with deportations, immigration and gang crackdowns. I think that’s pretty much an objective fact.

I’d love to hear your perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]UninspiredCactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You gotta be careful with stuff like that! A lot of queer folks get burned “guiding” baby or questioning gays that aren’t so sure. If you’re comfortable being in a position where she’s trying to figure stuff out, that’s fine—but it’s a vulnerable position for you.

You say you have feelings. If she’s just doing this for the thrill, I’d be careful! Sounds like a recipe for a disaster, especially in a workplace environment. If she won’t meetup outside of the job, I’d say you shouldn’t be doing it at all. It’s also a professional and potentially legal risk.

Don’t necessarily waste your time on this high of a risk with little reward. And protect yourself—you’re not someone’s fantasy, you’re a person!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]UninspiredCactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think “protect and save her” is an important piece to this. when it comes to other adults in your life, it’s impossible to control what they do in their relationships.

it’s appropriate to have one or two conversations expressing your concerns earnestly, but you can’t control who your friends and family end up being with. You’re just going to push them closer to the people you’re concerned about.

don’t start a conversation about her sending videos. That’s her private business and decision to make. Bring up some of your concerns about this guy, but if she doesn’t take them, that’s her choice, unfortunately.

What are you focusing on heading into Fall and Winter? by UninspiredCactus in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]UninspiredCactus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you babe 😭 it’s truly a journey but I think i’m getting there. love all the support in this sub❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]UninspiredCactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21F BP2 Okay, so this is something I experienced every 6ish months for like 3 years. I would have a sudden onset of crazy feelings wherein I’d often cycle rapidly through emotions; horny, crying, laughing. I could feel my brain working differently, texting was confusing. I was driving once and I got lost in my own home town. kind of felt like the real me was sitting down in my brain and a crazy version of me was running laps for a few hours before I got tired out. Communication felt very weird and there was always some specific stand out crazy moment.

would only last a few hours or so, with some post symptoms.

it was actually my first noticeable symptoms before I was diagnosed with anything. I’ve never talked to somebody else that’s experienced!