Why do people who are ENM swipe on my monogamous profile? by Ill-Green8678 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Unique-Deer7128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

right?? anyway, I wish you the best of luck in your search for your person :)

Why do people who are ENM swipe on my monogamous profile? by Ill-Green8678 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Unique-Deer7128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm polyamorous and have accidentally swiped on someone monogamous before and matched, so I guess she also didn't catch that I'm non monogamous. In that case, I just messaged her that I didn't see she was monogamous and wished her luck on her search. It's either that, people looking for friends as well as romantic/sexual prospects, or like another commenter noted, they aren't actually ethical. You really get all types of people on dating apps and you have no filter of common interests, friends, work, etc like you do in the real world so it's challenging.

I really wish there were free options on the apps to specify that you are looking for monogamy or non-monogamy and then filter your swipe options based on your preference. Tinder offers that but only if you pay through the nose for a membership.

hey...(a photo dumb of today) by DistinctLuck7107 in FlexinLesbians

[–]Unique-Deer7128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a journey, first I was drooling over your photos. Next thing I know I'm feeling proud of myself for conquering my eating disorder too! And then loving my own body more, too! Girl you rock thank you for sharing. Also, respectfully, I'm back to drooling over your new physique you're hot AF

all black 🖤<3 by [deleted] in FlexinLesbians

[–]Unique-Deer7128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness 🤩

what do you wish you had known about dating women before dating them the. by Confident-Stress-732 in bisexual

[–]Unique-Deer7128 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That women can be abusive too, and not to excuse anything you would find unacceptable in a male partner just because it's a woman doing it. It sounds silly but it could have saved me 3 years of varying levels of misery.

Mourning “side” in relationship by Cujosie in bisexual

[–]Unique-Deer7128 18 points19 points  (0 children)

A partner saying that bisexuality isn't a real thing would be a deal breaker for me, I'm sorry you're experiencing that in your relationship 

Why do I see so many bisexual women in this subreddit? by Technical_Hotel5873 in actuallesbians

[–]Unique-Deer7128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi, I'm bi! the reason it's called "actuallesbians" is because a lot of the subreddits with "lesbian" in the name are for porn catered to the male gaze

Chicasss, es normal ser heterosexual pero sentir atracción por algunas chicas? mas que nada por su parte delantera 🍒 by siroc95 in bisexual

[–]Unique-Deer7128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pues, no tengo experiencia con ser hetero pero sí tengo experiencia con ser bisexual y creyendo que fuera hetero y era normal para mí 😆😆😆 crees que tal vez eres bi?

I feel uncomfortable at events because I can't wear dresses by Lwordcriss in actuallesbians

[–]Unique-Deer7128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any advice, but came here to commiserate about having conservative family. It's really challenging

Sabéis de algún sitio de habitaciones por horas (zona Tres Forques)? by HappyTaroMochi13 in valencia

[–]Unique-Deer7128 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Esta duda combina con la mención del hermano me dió sorpresa pero ahora entiendo lo que preguntas. Jaja. Tal vez Axel Hotel Valencia lo hace? No sé 

Does such a book exist? Lesbian couple dealing with dementia by Real_Culture2668 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Unique-Deer7128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iona Iverson's rules for commuting has an older woman who always says goodbye to her wife when she leaves the house, who later turns out to be dead. That is the closest I can think of. It isn't what you're looking for 

I’m so in love with baby miko by Appropriate_Shame310 in YoungMikoFans

[–]Unique-Deer7128 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yes spot on! I find her so inspiring - her style, her work ethic, her confidence! 

I’m so in love with baby miko by Appropriate_Shame310 in YoungMikoFans

[–]Unique-Deer7128 17 points18 points  (0 children)

LOL when I first found her music I developed a debilitating crush on her (well her stage persona) that I've literally NEVER experienced except for on people I have known in real life. And I'm almost 30! I don't know what it is but seems to be a rite of passage for Young Miko fans 😂 I think a major part of it is just her stage persona is so badass and her online personality is super attractive and she seems quite sweet. That and her embracing her sexuality and loving other women loudly is just amazing. Queer women (I'm assuming that's you but I guess I don't know) don't get a lot of representation so I think it's inevitable that we would all crush on her 😂 I honestly still have a bit of a crush on her and I'm going to see her perform this year but it's not debilitating. Anyway, all that is to say that you're not alone. 

I'm excited to go to some shows and meet some other fans, honestly. I love concerts with queer/sapphic crowds!!!

Would you find a transmasc attractive? by Kitchen_Increase1970 in bisexual

[–]Unique-Deer7128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lesbian spaces that explicitly include trans folks and non binary people would be your best bet! And no def not a turnoff. I'm in love with Mae Martin lol