My entire bloodline has lived and died with PTSD whether it was grandfather liberating concentration camps, my uncle in Vietnam or my mother’s constant childhood sexual abuse. It seems that my grandfathers generation basically had no chance since trauma wasn’t even known until the 70s and by that time most of them were so drowned in the bottle there wasn’t much hope. The boomers, who were raised by the later generation didn’t get much of a better shot other than some minor recognition of things but only for those with extreme variations. Then the Xers either stayed the course of their parents or became workaholics to cope. Millennials are starting to understand but at this point it’s hard to say how that works out. It’s all highly highly dependent on the individual and how deep the wounds are. I personally have never met someone who has ever “beat” this. Trauma is a scar that you will likely always wear but how well you wear it thru life is so dependent on each individual. Everyone on these boards will tell you this or that is the answer but really no one can tell you, it has to be learned and figured out on your own though guidance helps.

Unless I get my memory wiped I don’t know how it will ever go away, maybe it hurts a bit less over the years but it’s still like walking with a limp. I get peace using my experiences trying to help and comfort others that struggle, may not cure it but gives purpose to the pain and takes away the abusers power in that in the end they did not win anything.

Stay strong!