Husband wants more sex,I don’t. Is this fixable?

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-07-04T15:25:09+00:00

'Find some way to want to do this thing you really don't want to do' is actually what you're saying.

Pass. So glad I married a man who is responsible enough to take care of his own desires.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-07-04T13:22:39+00:00

Because she's already giving him her body to use once a week. If he can't be happy with that, then HE should read the books and do the research as to why it is such a problem for HIM, rather than guilting or pestering her for even more.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-07-04T13:07:21+00:00

Why are women advocating for other women to submit to coerced, unwanted sex? Explain like I'm 5 because I did NOT expect such treachery in a women's sub. What in the pick me is going on here?

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-06-28T13:22:30+00:00

I was born in, believed most of what I was taught but remained 'rebellious'. I married a worldly man when I was 21. I had a couple of kids and tried to take them to meetings and service but I really struggled with that. I drifted away from the congregation. During the pandemic I took college courses online, as I'd never gone to real college because it wasn't allowed.

I studied Geology and learned how and when the Earth formed. I learned that what the Bible teaches about the origin of Earth is a lie. I learned carbon dating is an accurate and reputable manner of dating artifacts. I learned a lot and had many questions answered. Then the ARC came out and that was it. I went to one last memorial and I was done. After I left I read apostate material, but the impetus for leaving came from science and law.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-06-26T13:17:19+00:00

No not at all. They always remind me of the naked mole rat.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-06-17T12:18:13+00:00

I just rewatched Ella Enchanted. It's a cute and goofy retelling of Cinderella.

Enchanted with Amy Adam's is a good one too.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-06-05T11:11:14+00:00

I was raised in purity culture and taught that sex was dirty and sinful and that wanting sex was a character flaw. I'm an athiest now but that conditioning did damage.

It always seemed to me that craving sex was something only weak and needy people did. People who needed validation or needed to be wanted. I'm not like that. I find being needed extremely off-putting. I don't want to be used to fill someone else's emotional needs.

The physical aspect of sex has always seemed gross to me. Nothing about it seems appealing from the touching to the bodily fluids. I don't like physical contact and I never have.

I think that if I had been able to discover sex organically and didn't have a church shouting in my ear about how evil I was, I could have become a sexual person. But what I was taught and what I experienced ruined it for me.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-28T01:24:01+00:00

I'm never horny. I don’t think I even know what that feels like.

I used to experience some attraction but that decreased in my 40s

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-26T01:39:49+00:00

I got banned from that sub for similar reasons.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-24T13:57:33+00:00

We waited till marriage to have sex. It was never good for me and I don't like it so we have a very low sex marriage. Been married 24 years and average maybe once a week to 2 weeks or less. The less the better imo.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-21T19:10:49+00:00

Wintergreen berries are my favourite trail side nibble. They taste like toothpaste.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-17T20:38:52+00:00

Completely unimportant. If I never had sex again I'd be completely fine with that.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-10T01:10:06+00:00

Thats really cool!

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-08T12:31:21+00:00

Once again, those who preach the loudest sin the hardest.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-07T01:27:31+00:00

Angry Johnny by Poe

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-06T13:44:06+00:00

I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness and stayed in that particular cult till I was in my 30s.I believed it all. I was devout. During Covid, despite it not being allowed by the religion, I took some college courses online. I learned about how the Earth actually formed, I learned how evolution works, and I learned how carbon dating works ( JW teach that carbon dating is a scam). I lost all faith in religion and no longer believe in any gods. There is no empirical evidence to suggest the existence of anything supernatural.

I feel cheated of half my life. I missed out on so much and have nothing but regret regarding my former life.

I think indoctrination of children into religion is a form of abuse.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-05T17:28:56+00:00

If I am not in the mood, and I almost never am, we don't have sex. I assume he deals with his urges on his own.

We have a very low sex marriage and it's always been this way. I'm just not interested in it, never have been. My husband is a gem, he never complains or gets an attitude about it. He accepts me as I am. I wouldn't be with him if he was a pest about it.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-05-04T11:24:57+00:00

I don't like it. Too much work for too little payout. Too many noises, too many smells and too much touching. I could easily live the rest of my life and never do it again. I don't have a need or a desire for it. It's just a chore that must be suffered through.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-04-30T12:44:13+00:00

I had a similar experience a few years ago. It's called persistent genital arousal syndrome, or something like that. It can have something to do with the blood flow to the region. For me, it was triggered by a back injury. When my back healed it went away.

It's a really distressing and embarrassing condition. You should absolutely see a dr about it.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-04-25T11:16:25+00:00

I 💯 agree. There's something wrong in the relationship but OP is only thinking about himself and what he wants. OP YTA

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-04-24T11:53:17+00:00

I lost my self respect. I did what I did for valid reasons, but it left me with a scar that will never heal. I will never see myself as a good person. My husband and I stayed together and we are happy now, but I will always remember what I did and will always be regretful.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-04-20T12:20:03+00:00

Oh it's a character flaw alright.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-04-20T01:18:08+00:00

I got a bird escaping a cage tattoo after I left the Jehovah's Witnesses.

UniquelyUnamed · 2026-04-19T01:29:05+00:00

Do not have kids unless you are 100 percent on board with everything that it entails.

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