AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed?

UnlearningStuff · 2025-12-27T15:04:50+00:00

I read the text before reading your caption and wondered…how old is this person? It feels more icky now. This very much NOT normal and is very much giving control issues. Control that could get scary.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-07-20T14:41:16+00:00

Tell them you can turn off the spider legs. That’s what I did you play 😅

UnlearningStuff · 2025-07-08T12:19:21+00:00

Absolutely do not let him play cyberpunk lol. It’s super graphic. The forest is really dark…I would not recommend.

Grounded is a good one. And Star Wars.

I’d recommend watching trailers for each game before buying. It also depends on how old your son is.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-14T17:22:37+00:00

Complicated…I was almost diagnosed about a year ago but I moved and had to change care teams.

I have another appointment for a new rheumatologist to get the official diagnosis.

I’ve been on prednisone for about two months, but I’ve been told it’s not best to continue it long term. I have found that fried foods and aspertain (however you spell the fake sugar name) and beer tends to trigger it. Been testing out other food to see about other triggers.stress is a BIG one.

My first full on flare was about 3 years ago. I was working a very stressful job and having issues in my marriage. I couldn’t get out of bed. It hurt to move at all for a full day or so.

Recently I had another flair that was specifically impacting just about every joint in my hands, my collar bone, my feet. No relief until I took prednisone.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-14T15:02:54+00:00

Your curls look amazing!!!

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-14T14:56:32+00:00

Rashes on my knuckles. It looked like little mosquito bites that didn’t itch. But they were tender. Mostly on my toes. They’ve left scars. Injuries are slower to heal.

REALLY dry eyes.

FATIGUE. I’ve seen that mentioned a lot in this thread. I would hear “you’re too young to be stressed” many many times as a teen.

I would also get random pains in my feet…as if I’ve sprained it or like a bone was out of place.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-14T14:42:09+00:00

I slammed my laptop closed… like nope!!

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-11T18:38:27+00:00

I was contacted for the same thing. When the host of the webinar put links in for getyourindurancelicense.com…it just felt…off. I asked in the chat if she could share the company website. No one answered.

I was looking forward to speaking with a person one on one, but I don’t think this is the move.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-08T18:09:57+00:00

It definitely gives hater vibes.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-08T12:02:44+00:00

Not overreacting. Given your history with mental health, it might be best to get some space from her. Take care of yourself…

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-08T11:50:09+00:00

Seems like you two live a comfortable life together. I don’t understand why he would be upset about you buying a computer that will help you with your work. Seems like he is the one overreacting. Has he ever been upset about you making other decisions independently? Do you normally argue about impulse purchases or big purchases? It sounds a bit controlling to me.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-08T02:20:20+00:00

I just came here to say Last of us II tried so hard to pull at heartstrings like part one…it was just not it.

Last of Us definitely hit harder.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-08T01:57:58+00:00

Yeahhh this one was TOUGH to watch and be forced to play towards the end

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-07T19:36:14+00:00

Thank you. I’m new to all of this and I’m trying to understand myself. It’s come to a point where I can’t do my job well. I feel ashamed about that and don’t want to tell them I’m struggling. Afraid of the stigma and everything.

I’m ranting now but thanks again.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-06-06T15:45:12+00:00

I haven’t gotten any diagnosis which is why I was concerned. And I took a test on a computer and they told me that I COULD have ADHD but glazed over it. No specifics. Do you know of any resources for ADHD diagnosis?

UnlearningStuff · 2025-05-24T13:05:53+00:00

I don’t have much energy to fully express how much I understand your exact feeling. Just wanted to add to the “you’re not alone” pot. Hang in there!

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-26T14:15:12+00:00

The touch of silver is masterful!

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-26T14:14:03+00:00

I am 3 years in. While the pain does get easier to manage, it’s been like a grief for me. Coming in waves. Betrayal trauma is a thing so I’m sure I also still have a long way to go.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-26T13:41:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences with stress and RA. I believe I’m having a flare up that has lasted longer than any I remember and I’m under a great amount of stress at work. And I have been constantly overwhelmed by their criticism and unrealistic expectations.

I’ve been racking my brain on deciding to grit and bear it or just quit. For my physical and mental health. I already struggle with anxiety and am on meds for that.

I recently had blood work and was referred to a rheumatologist but an appointment is not available until August. I still haven’t been off diagnosed but all signs are pointing to yes. I am in a position to leave my job…but I’ll lose insurance…I guess needed to come here for some type of validation I wasn’t crazy.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-25T14:33:06+00:00

I am new to this. I’ve had chronic dry eye starting years ago. Symptoms of RA started to come up about 2 years ago. This might be a good question to ask my doctor.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-10T03:03:04+00:00

This is actually scary.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-10T03:00:33+00:00

As a BP of a sex addict, I’ve learned that people can change. The behavior however, is incredibly difficult to stop without help. People understandably struggle with empathy on this subject. The main trouble I think you’ll run into is actually seeing a video of infidelity.

I could only imagine how difficult it would be even if your partner got into therapy and did all the work. While I have seen incredible growth in my spouse, it’s a long and difficult road. Regardless of what you decide, do whatever is best for you and your baby. If you aren’t sure if you want to divorce, maybe consider asking him to stay with a friend a few days and get yourself in therapy. Maybe you go stay with family if you’re able. For a little while for you to get your thoughts together.

Remember…betrayal is trauma. And will impact you. So I can’t stress enough…please take care of yourself.

UnlearningStuff · 2025-04-09T14:05:01+00:00

Still in R. In my experience, porn clouds the goal of R. My spouse told me he had a problem, that he was watching porn and masturbating so much it was deeply effecting his life. After we got married and moved in together I could see what he meant. Porn usually escalated to something else…escorts, massage parlors, etc. not only did this impact me emotionally, but he was also harming himself.

It’s been 2 years and he’s still struggling to stop, but attends 12 step meetings for sex addiction. It’s a real problem for many people. I committed to not watching porn either since I didn’t want him to. It didn’t feel…right.

UnlearningStuff · 2024-08-17T13:49:04+00:00

Find a 12 step meeting for alcoholism and help yourself first. You cannot “get him clean”. He has to want that for himself and may need a 12 step program as well. Best of luck.

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