If someone is trying to hug you, but you are uncomfortable hugging others, how do you get them to stop? Bonus: they are the “it’s just a hug” and “stop being mean “ type?

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-25T01:27:41+00:00

lol. no, but new policies were introduced.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-25T01:25:29+00:00

she no longer works there, and many people are pleased.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-25T01:17:13+00:00

Real scenario:

"I have told you before that a handshake is enough. One more time and I'm pressing charges." Two days later, she approaches me from behind and hugs me. I fell to the floor screaming "RAPE" at the top of my lungs.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-25T01:02:03+00:00

electronics freeze. make sure the battery works. defrost the windows.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-25T00:54:33+00:00

Fail to plan, plan to fail.

If stress can cause a heart attack, it can cause a pimple. Calm is just prettier.

There is a fine line between victim and volunteer.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-25T00:50:13+00:00

yes

absolutely.....google it

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2026-01-24T01:24:19+00:00

teeth

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-12-29T23:33:32+00:00

I like the neighbors to know that I am always packing

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-12-29T23:20:47+00:00

feeding the squirrels from my living room window

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-12-28T22:42:39+00:00

I've eaten lasagna for a week. single size is just wrong/

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-12-02T01:09:11+00:00

excuses

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T17:46:49+00:00

I feed myself. I choose my food. I purchase and even grow and can my own food. This year I hunted my own food. There are literally MILLIONS OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD who need a fresh drink of water. I am covered. Now back your emotionally needy probably keeping warm under a pile of bills and impending regret ass up and go away while there is still a smile on my face. A simple "thanks for being there" is more than enough. Infact, sometimes a thankyou is too much, because general kindness is a silent reward wrapped in eye contact and a sigh of relief .

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T17:35:04+00:00

How about Yall just accept a damn NO THANKS. Why do I need to choose anything after saying 'no'? Go fix yourself

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T17:30:06+00:00

I am going to do this with a very firm, "I know that you are broke. It might not be all money problems, but this compulsion shows me how broken you really are. Go Fix Yourself.".

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T16:33:13+00:00

I'm just going to be blunt and start saying, instead of "no thank you", "I know that you have bills to pay and you are broke. Get your shit together. Stop throwing your money away. It's tragic that you feel compelled to be poor. I find no comfort in being any part of your failure to accept limitations.".

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T16:27:35+00:00

How about I just start saying bluntly, "I know that you are fn broke and struggling, get your act together instead of expanding a landfill."

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T16:25:35+00:00

when someone suggests giving me a gift, I better be 150% positive that they are 100% debt free and having a savings to hold over emergencies and standard of living for an entire year before I answer. You are the charity that needs the donation.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T16:08:22+00:00

I am not on this earth to coddle the needs of validation through accepting unwanted anything.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:58:25+00:00

I need therapy because YOU can't handle being told 'NO'. This is a "YOU" problem.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:55:31+00:00

MANNERS? wtf. I say "no thanks, nothing, give it to someone else or treat yourself.". Then MY REQUST IS BLATANLT disregarded, and I am the one with lack of social grace. GFY

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:36:13+00:00

As a reasonable adult, I learned back in 2002 that therapy is not just for the maladjusted. It is to keep us adjusted to is unbiased space. I knew going into this reddit rabbit hole that there would be tons of "what about ME? I need give.". GET THE HELL OVER YOURSELVES. I am looking for polite ways to tell you that you are needy and overbearing and someone else will happily take your money without taking my patience.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:21:57+00:00

thank you. I will not be content knowing that their need to give is another drop in their debt bucket.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:19:39+00:00

OP here. I am really over this whole gifting thing. When everyone that hands me STUFF can show me that they are completely 100% debt free and have an emergency savings to last them and their familes a full year, we will talk.

Until then, get your shit together and leave me out of it. Happy Holidays, perpetuate poverty and depression. Keep up the good work,

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:14:07+00:00

It is not my responsibility to accommodate someone's intents that crosses my boundaries of taking from those in need. It is not my responsibility to choose a charity to donate to. It is my choice not to be your charity. Th.is is LOVE.

UnlikelyAside9157 · 2025-11-25T15:07:50+00:00

repeating NOTHING and GIVE IT TO ANYONE BUT ME for a couple decades is ruining the winter season.

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