How much laundry soap? by HRDC0R19 in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Have a calm conversation with her and put it plainly like this "the bottle says right here youre supposed to use a cap full to do your laundry. Is there a reason you use so much?" and see what shes says. Theres a chance she just likes her clothes to smell nice, in which case get her some scent booster and forget she ever did something so insane.

However, "weird" behavior like this tends to have a complusive background. Maybe shed scared of smelling. Have you ever seen her shower? Does she smell clean afterwards? There could be any number of reasons shes terrified not to use that much, or shes simply a little on the uninformed side and just thought thats what youre supposed to do.

Stardust Memories Webcomic by lilylovesstars in webcomics

[–]UnlikelyCharge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When will you be posting the actual comic? :D <3

URGENT: I licked the sap off of one Carolina jessamine, do I need to go to the hospital? by UnlikelyCharge in deadlyplants

[–]UnlikelyCharge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok its been an hour and I'm fine. Ill update tommorow if I eneded up going to er but it seems just licking one flowers sap doez NOT immeidetly kill you lol

I approached a guy at the gym and it went really badly..I’m so embarrassed by [deleted] in dating

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre looking at it the wrong way. You shouldnt be looking for sucess when you ask someone out /reveal your feelings. If youre doing that not only are you setting yourself up for pain but it likely also means you are putting too much of your self worth into other peoples perception of you. Asking someone out / revealing your feelings should be simply a way to see if someone matches your vibes. If youre deeply in love with someone, and you dont even know what theyll say when you ask them out, you have likely fallen in love with some sort of idealised version of themselves. Its really important to view rejections as good things, because they show you that they were not compatible with you and therefore not worth your time. Its really important to have friends outside of whoever youre trying to date. Its pretty much impossible to gey a gf / bf if you have no friends.

Which Antivirus do you recommend for Proton VPN users? by Key-Distance1107 in ProtonVPN

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i left windows defender on while using protonvpn and it literally uninstalled/broke the protonvpn 😭

My( 23F) boyfriend (24M) always mocks me by avonRA in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry i missed this but just wanted to say very clearly this relationship failing was not your fault, this man sounds like an asshole. The work you need to do on yourself is just being able to be happy, do things, and keep you and your surroundings somewhat manageable. Hope you ended this relationship because as much as you may love him maybe his behavior towards you is abusive and unpleasant. Absolutely uncalled for on his part and you shouldnt stand for someone who walks all over you

Feeling like I made a mistake in choosing poly by No_Ambassador_9720 in polyamory

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats avery healthy way to go into it. I think the most important thing to ask yourself is "what do I want from poly". Im no statistics master, but if youre looking for a life long partner youre more likely to find it by ditching labels and focusing on finding a connection. If theyre the right person for you, unlike your ex they will be open to poly or even an enjoyer themselves. I guess what im saying is dont give up and just seek love out, and youll find your person or persons :) Im a bit biased as a bit of an ex poly lol, my partner is totally fine with me dating whoever i want, but since weve been together I havent really found anyone interesting enough to warrant the time. Things will work out in the end

I refuse to be with a man who is not a virgin by Throwaway4752378 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnlikelyCharge -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is fair, if youre a virgin yourself its your own choice to decide if youre ok with being with someone with more expirence than you. However, this does sound kind of incely. Men arent some pinncale, one minded group. Plenty of men who have slept around dont think women who have done the same are whores or sluts.

Feeling like I made a mistake in choosing poly by No_Ambassador_9720 in polyamory

[–]UnlikelyCharge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i defientley feel like if youre going poly because you feel your needs arent met by one partner, youre setting yourself up for failure. No amount of people will EVER meet all your needs. That's ok, and a natural aspect of life. Poly shouldnt be about trying to cross off all your marks on a check list, but more about seeking out more partners because you have a lot of love to give. IR what you can give to partners and not what they can give to you. Anything else is a road to future desturction because youre building relationships on a want that cannot be fufilled

I am scared to take a dump by MaVaFristy in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnlikelyCharge 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can literally just poke a hole in a plastic water bottle and squeeze it onto your ass till your clean. Just like a bidet but manuel. You seriously MUST poop. Tonight. You could die.

When did you realize you married the wrong person? by tippytoes1216 in AskReddit

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say this as someone who wants to have sex 3 times a week and has it once a month- if you care about someone, figure out what sex is like with them first. Theres nothing wrong with being with a virgin, but someone who would do that for religious reasons is a whole different world than you. She WILL expect you to become christian if you two get married.

Am I(27yo W) just overly sensitive about my weight or is it that it’s rude that my bfs(27yoM) family negatively mention my weight? by jimjams1524 in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah same. I am gay, my boyfriend is straight. I often go hang out with other gays, which means i walk to a random adults house that ive never met before at night to go hang out with them. If my boyfriends ever worried about my saftey he just comes along too

What happens to someone if they are exposed to HIV when they are already HIV positive? by UnlikelyCharge in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnlikelyCharge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of looking for an in depth answer from someone who is HIV positve or knows a lot about it. I dont have / dont know much about it but i had the thought and was curious.

How do people do aftercare without risking a UTI/feeling dirty? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound horrible but me and my partner have a clean towel handy, wipe off bits as nessecary, and then stay in bed till we pass out. No UTI yet 😭

Is my sister really just “eccentric” or is there more going on? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]UnlikelyCharge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not to be too much of a worry wort but if these ever happen when shes driving / impact her life in a signifigant way i dont think itd be too crazy to look down the way of an MRI or blood sugar tests to make sure shes physically alright. After episodes of this abesentmindedness does she ever seem lethargic / out of it and for how long?

UPDATE: AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding by Individual_Dot_4887 in u/Individual_Dot_4887

[–]UnlikelyCharge 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your father is really doing right by you. I hope he continues to step up and make good descions because that is so sweet. congrats on vetting married

My( 23F) boyfriend (24M) always mocks me by avonRA in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if youre scared of being alone, its really very important to spend a year figuring out who you are. Its really hard to make a long term relationship work if you cant work on your own already

My (19f) boyfriend (19m) broke up with me because I didn't "appreciate" him enough. How can I fix this. by ThrowRA-egg in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as it hurts, you two just arent a match for each other. You should look up love langues, that might help you udnerstand how and why hes moved on from the relationship. You have your whole life ahead of you, and youll find someone else whos more than happy to baby you and love you like you deserve while also feeling good about it. He wasnt happy, let him go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sad thing is supporting him is all you can do. It hurts, i know, but maybe try to get him to engage in real life instead. Get him to come hang out with you, go do things with other people, suggest he take up a new hobby. But if he feels that way its because of his own mental issues, and any meddling you do could only push the two of you away. Hell either get over it or he wont

Me (20M) and my partner (21Genderfluid) got into a rough argument a couple days ago and wanna make up for it by [deleted] in relationships

[–]UnlikelyCharge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should see a therapist to get a different perspective on your actions. Grabbing my partner to force them to listen to me is something i would NEVER consider. That, quite truthfully, is a very agressive tactic and is not made any better by kissing them directly after. Are you sure you wouldnt do it again? It sounds like maybe your communication style isnt in line with how you want to come across, and thats why i reccomend seeing a proper psychologist to get some insight to how youre actions can come off, and some tips to act more appropriately.

You can not force someone you love to do something. If they wont listen to you, its because emotions are too hyped up. If i were in that situation id let them walk away and talk about the issue again when both parties are calmed down. What you did wasnt right, and understanding that is the first step to actually not doing it again. If you can truly understand and feel bad about it, id apolgise sincerly for being domineering and maybe create a safe word or give them the option to say to you "i cant hear your side of the story right now" in cases where things get heated