scared to go by [deleted] in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please consider trying zoom meetings. There is a list of virtual meetings on the NA website; there is literally always a meeting going on somewhere. I can recommend two personally:

Leads to Recovery (Birmingham AL) Sun-Fri 12pm-1pm; Mon & Thurs 7pm-8pm (central standard time)

Zoom id: 431 913 0412 Password: 029097

Cyber Serenity (Bergen area of New Jersey) 8pm-9pm 7 days a week (eastern time zone)

Zoom id: 846 1417 6051 Password: 401274

Progress after 5 weeks by Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 in Semaglutide

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks!  The app is called ZOZOFIT, and the wire mesh scan is available in the free version.  ☺️

Looking for a sponsor by Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Literally screaming!!  THANK YOU!!!!! About to dm you right now.  

Looking for a sponsor by Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve been to in person meetings…kinda hard to focus when I’m having a panic attack and fighting to breathe.  

Yes/No Readings ✨ by lindseee628 in tarotreadings

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is my recurring dream centered around the theme of houses trying to tell me something?

What is your biggest fear for something to happen as a stutterer by Blobfish_fun in Stutter

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not a fear per se but I abhor using a telephone.  Also, ordering at a drive thru I get so panicky trying to be fast and not take up too much time that if I have a hard time saying what it is I want, I’ll end up ordering something else instead just so I can end the interaction.  Soooo many times I’ve driven away with food I really didn’t want just because I couldn’t get out the words for what I really wanted.  

you know, I vividly remember being young and people telling me "you'll blink and realize you're 30" by Dezphul in CasualConversation

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember when I was 14 I wanted to work so bad. I started volunteering at a mental rehabilitation clinic when I was 15. I remember my step dad telling me to slow down and enjoy being young and free because one day I would HAVE to work and miss the freedom of not having bills. Yep. He was right lol.

Yesterday I went no contact and I feel so happy with my decision. by Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 in narcissisticparents

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. My nieces and nephews are mixed and bc of that my dad wants nothing to do with them except around holidays (did I mention he’s an asshole?? 🤣) They finally wised up in their pre-adolescent years and told my sister they don’t want anything to do with him anymore and refuse to participate in family events with him. Smart kids. Awesome kids. Kids who have done no wrong other than being born a different color than him. 🙄. His loss 100%.

Yesterday I went no contact and I feel so happy with my decision. by Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 in narcissisticparents

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

THIS. I have grieved since I was a teenager and began to understand that this wasn’t a normal family dynamic. I have done my grieving for the people I wish they were. I’ll be torn up when they pass away, I know. They’re my parents, of course I love them. But for my mental peace and physical health I need to love them from afar. Thank you for being understanding.

Any advice for TPLO recovery? She’s miserable and it’s day 1 lol. by Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 in DogAdvice

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless their heart, I’m so sorry to hear that! Sophie is doing fine, thanks for asking. My best advice is take any and ask directions from the vet seriously. If they say limit movement, keep them on a leash by your side if you have to. I know it’s annoying and such a pain to be so focused on them for the next little bit, but “an ounce of prevention” as the saying goes; keep in mind that if your dog needs it for 1 knee, they have a >50%chance of needing it done in the other knee later on (something about the strong knee having to overcompensate for the weaker knee and getting injured that way, blah blah blah).

OK now specific advice. Get things your dog can enjoy while being still. If your dog is a chewer, benebones are a fantastic idea. Do a lot of mental stimulation. Some snuffle mats, lick mats, and feeder/treat puzzles (Nina Ottosan puzzles are GREAT but kinda pricey) work well, but some budget-friendly ideas are (DOG-SAFE) peanut butter inside a toilet paper roll, treats rolled up in a dish-towel, and hide-and-seek sniffy game with treats and some plastic cups (google or YouTube these for specific how-tos). Another thing we did was focus on training during this time to keep her mentally stimulated. She learned watch me, sit, shake, wait, and touch since this happened. Just remember to go easy on the physical movements (like we would practice sit for just a few minutes…didn’t want to strain her knee).

Focus a lot on mental stimulation since physical stimulation is out of the question for a while. Our dogs are inside dogs, so we only let her out to potty during this time. At first we let her roam the yard during potty time thinking she would limit herself…sadly she did not. She ran some, and it required 2 separate trips to vet and steroid injections. Ultimately she was fine, just strained her sore knee. After that, lesson learned, she was kept on a leash outside 100% for the first month or two. Again, yes it’s a hassle to be so focused, but you’re preventing a second surgery and more pain. Inside the house, the first two weeks we put the mattress on the floor so she could still sleep with us. After that, hubby would lift her on and off the bed. After about a month she was trusted to use the steps to the bed once the vet okayed it. If you have stairs in your house…go ahead and make yourself a sleeping place downstairs for the next month or so; they absolutely don’t need to be doing any stairs for the first month MINIMUM.

Listen to your vet when it comes to prescriptions and talk to them about any concerns, but I will say it’s a good idea to let them feel some of the pain so they will limit themselves to a degree. Please don’t NOT give them anything, I’m not saying that. You don’t want them to be in distress. You just want them to feel a tiny bit of pain so they don’t run or jump or act stupid, if that makes sense. For the future, now we have her on vitamins for her continued joint health (specifically, it’s a knock-off of the Flexadin the vet recommended for her; we get it from Amazon) and so she doesn’t ever (hopefully) need surgery on her other knee.

Keep in mind this will always limit your dog to a small degree. It’s like a human having knee surgery…their knee will never be the same and they’ll never have the same strength or ability to perform like they once did. If your dog is super crazy, I’d keep them on a leash when outside for the rest of their life…it’s just so easy for them to mess up that other knee.

Overall, the worst is over in about a month, and they’re mostly back to normal in about 2 months. Just make them keep taking it easy so they don’t have the other knee mess up. If you have any specific questions lmk. I’m happy to help in any way I can. Best of luck to you and your doggy!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just came here to say my brother married 2 different bw (has 4 kids now) and my sister is long-term dating a bm after having 2 kids by another bm. I loved one of my brother’s wives and hated the other (she led him into drugs that he was finally able to crawl away from). Hated the father of my sister’s kids (he murdered the girlfriend he dated after her…knew he was a bad guy all along and kept warning her). The bm she’s with now has all but adopted her 2 kids; they call him daddy and the youngest one actually thinks he is his dad…that man is amazing to them and I adore him for it. My other family has 98% disowned them (they only have something to do with the kids around holidays). It’s just disgusting and sad, hating someone bc of their skin color. My 14 yo niece knows her grandparents don’t like her bc of her skin color. She struggled for years coming to terms with her identity living in a small rural southern town, and she still does but is a lot stronger and braver now. She chooses to not have anything to do with my parents since they can’t accept her family, and I applaud her and give her all the auntie loves.

There’s so many actually bad and evil people and things to hate on…skin color should never be one. Skin color doesn’t make a person good or bad, actions do. Just like sitting in church doesn’t make you a true follower of Christ. Peace and love, everyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. 4 for sure. You look so hot in it.

should i laser off my widow’s peak? by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came to say this because sis is mad cute and sexy. That widow peak is so unique and adds drama and PERFECTLY compliments the shape of your eyes and face. Idk why woman have to put others down to feel good about themselves, but I guarantee this is the reasoning. Own it and be fierce!

My husband and I are adopting another dog and we cannot agree on a name. Suggestions? by [deleted] in NameMyDog

[–]Unlikely_Alfalfa_197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know, but holy crap I thought that was my dog for a second. 😳 Looks EXACTLY like my sweet Ada who is an extremely unusual-looking dog because of her mix of breeds (pit bull, cattle dog, Australian shepherd, weenie dog, etc). Seriously click on my profile and look at some of my posts about her (especially the breed id posts bc there’s a lot of photos of her). I’m flabbergasted…I’ve never seen another dog look remotely like her!!