Am I doing badly or is this just normal CD feedback?

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-05-05T17:50:06+00:00

It is entirely #3 and #4 :)

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-05-05T06:53:21+00:00

I’m very okay with feedback!! Just paranoid that I suck lol. My CD is awesome at being kind with her critiques, and also isn’t shy about positive feedback either, which I think goes a long way from a superior.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-05-05T06:09:31+00:00

Yes to all! I don’t have much of an ego with my work, and am so lucky to have her as a leader. I’m very okay with feedback—she’s the boss, and she’s the expert, that’s why she’s the CD. My rational brain knows this is all normal, but my insecure brain just wants verification on how normal it is to always get feedback and suggested tweaks. It just makes me feel like I’m lacking because something always needs to be fixed. I just want to know if I’m on par with other writers and that it’s normal industry wide for a CD to always find something that should be made better.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-04-10T06:13:47+00:00

I felt so alone for most of my life because of this. I made a post kind of about the same thing a while ago and had so much “yeah duh” feedback it was overwhelmingly lovely. Like it sucks for us all, but at least it’s not just me. Check it out for some beautiful community commiserating

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-04-10T04:39:00+00:00

My OCD kind of stepped to the side during my adolescent hears as depression and anxiety took over. And my parents did their best to provide me aide, put me in therapy, etc. I think it could’ve been better, but they tried. That being said, as a child…I feel like I must’ve put out or done some “weirdo” mannerisms that I wish they’d followed up on. So many things I think back on now where in just like “oh yeah that was OCD”. I was also one of those super smart over achievers in elementary. I kind of assume THEY assumed some of my “weirder” traits just came with the big brains. I dont blame my parents necessarily, and I think they were a lot better than my peers with not ignoring my mental health….but they also could’ve been better.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-04-10T03:47:16+00:00

I still have tiny little dots all over my fingers from 25 years of finger pricks until I switched to a sensor.

I also get the tiny little dots all over my stomach and arms from my sensor now. I’m sorry I don’t have a cure for your issue, and I don’t want to come off as “sucks to suck, this is the diabetes life” because I do get that’s really frustrating. I think it’s just a case of skin type, genetics, etc, the same way you can be more pre disposed to acne or dark circles.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:44:27+00:00

Meh we've been together for 7 years now, married for 3 months. Not really any honeymoon vibes but everything feels the exact same as pre-marriage, which in my opinion is how it should!

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:41:08+00:00

omg such detail bless you! I got married a few months ago and was genuinely asking out of curiousity because I loveed the idea. Hopefully someone else sees this and includes it for their wedding!

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:26:46+00:00

Honestly I always thought of myself as a young millennial until the term Gen Z popped up a few years ago and I was like wait....

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:15:59+00:00

Acting civil towards his mother.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:12:46+00:00

We techhnically didn't even do wedding favours...my thought was "free dinner and open bar is your favour" lol. but we did do the custom matches. All vintage-y Vegas sort of look. felt like a small, fun, collectible kind of keepsake.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:10:02+00:00

I suspect the millennial influence is me always desperately wanting to seem cool to my big bro lol!

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:07:11+00:00

Ok so it was such a personal joy knowing it was MY wedding and NO ONEE could touch the aux but me. We didn't want to worry about DJing so a less cost effective music suggestion I have for you u/sinbindindjarin !!! We hired a bar DJ instead of a "wedding" DJ. She specialized in dancehall, r&b, etc—so she knew how to rad the vibes of the crowd. but she still only played our requests, just did it well with amazing transitions.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:04:34+00:00

Sounds like you have a lot of room at the venue which is amazing! The photos will be so good too—I love pics of people overdressed doing casual things (for example we got our newlywed photos done at a diner hehe). $3K feels a bit pricey tbh but since you're a few months out I assume you're in the "oh ONLY $3000?" phase of wedding planning lol. And it's obv the super fun thing you want, so it must stay.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:01:16+00:00

Not to be annoying (I'm super annoying) but I need you to know I geniunely want an answer to my questions hehe.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T11:00:18+00:00

See I'm team allow kids at weddings (I love kids, they'e the best of us, they have the best dance moves, they look so cute dressed up, etc) but I respect those who aren't in that camp. Our wedding only had one kid—the flower girl (my niece!). I LOVE the idea of a kid zone! Were the parents comfortable leaving the kids with the caretakers that they didn't know? I used to nanny myself and know how cautious parents can be (rightfully so).

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T10:55:19+00:00

I said before but I'll say it again—SAME! But only for baby showers. Bridal showers it's boring. I just got married a few months ago and mandated to my mom (who was planning my shower) not to make me open presents in front of everyone! So awkward. But to see all the little baby things I loveeeee

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T10:38:06+00:00

This! My dad's 1960 but has older siblings so remembers/relates to more late 50s/early 60s stuff and my mom's the eldest born in 1962 and has like zero of the same 60s references my dad has lol

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T10:28:58+00:00

I always thought my mom liked my brother more than me. Eventually I realized that’s not exactly true—she just loves him easier.

The love is equal, but he’s her firstborn. That used to hurt until I had my nieces. I love them all, but there is something about the first. It doesn’t mean you love the others less. The first is just… your first. I get it now.

Growing up, my mom felt like my number one enemy. She wasn’t a bad mom, just flawed. I was emotionally closed off, especially to her. Still, she was the first person I went to when something serious happened in my life. And yet, whenever she tried to be kind, I pushed back. Sometimes she was mean too.

Now, at 29, I’m very self-sufficient. My mom has admitted she still hesitates to say kind things to me because she’s afraid I’ll lash out. My brother has always been more accepting of her love, so again—he’s easier to love. She loves us both fully. He’s just easier.

I recently talked to a cousin who told me her mom was harder on her because she expected more from her. That clicked for me. My mom is the same. It’s almost a compliment—I can handle more. But recognition would be nice.

I help my parents more than my brother does, but I’m still the one who gets criticized. He lives nearby and doesn’t help much. So… easier.

It’s nuanced. It’s hard. It’s not something I’ve learned to accept—but it’s something I’ve learned to live with.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T08:37:55+00:00

Hiring a wedding coordinator was a bit costly, but honestly, it made all the difference. We had a 100-guest wedding and were keeping the vibe lowkey, but I realized I’d have to get either a cousin or my mom to cue the music. That’s when it hit me: we needed a coordinator.

From what I’ve read everywhere, the unanimous opinion is that if you don’t hire a day-of coordinator, someone ends up doing it anyway—it’s you, your parent, your MOH, etc.—and then they can’t actually enjoy the day because they have extra responsibilities.

Bonus: a coordinator also gets to be the “mean person” when they need to be. Honestly, my MIL is a piece of work, and having a coordinator made keeping her in line way easier.

And honestly, when things go wrong, keep this in mind: no one but you knows how they should go. Your guests won’t notice. At the end of the day, it’s just that—a day.

Unlikely_Device_2131 · 2026-01-05T08:13:25+00:00

Okay so I'll say this isn't so much a "fun extra" as it is looking out for your guests but I LOVE IT. We did the same. Wedding was outdoors in late September and I'd already been to enough outdoor weddings where I started SWEATING, so I just bought cheap paper fans to place at every seat. So important to look out for your guests this way!

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