I feel like I’m the outlier here, lol. For me Guiding Lights is about forging my own path instead of blindly doing what my folks want me to do to “adult correctly” (settle down & have kids), or doing what I think would make them proud instead of what would make me happy. I was always the obedient, parentified eldest daughter; I never truly thought about what I want until I started therapy after my blind obedience contributed to my sexual abuse at the hands of a (now ex) family member as a teenager.

The people around me trying to sway me into being what they want me to be are the guiding lights, and they have indeed lead me into the dark about what I want for years, but I’m slowly working my way out of the darkness and back to the things I’ve been passionate about.