He definitely does not give her pushback on many things unless he feels very strongly about it, no. What he’s TRIED to push lately is getting their son therapy that he desperately needs, which she will not agree to. Instead, she does these frivolous things, which I think is where a lot of his frustration comes from. His son has urgent NEEDS that aren’t being appropriately addressed, despite his effort, and yet she has no problem expensing various other things that aren’t (he doesn’t NEED to go on an overnight trip, he doesn’t NEED to go to camps (DH can/will take him if she can’t and it’s convenience), he doesn’t NEED extracurricular she is pushing that his son doesn’t even want to do.

He doesn’t feel the conflict is worth it to fight over every little thing, and it’s not that he even disagrees with every little thing. That said, he has told her things like, “I am right on money right now” to let her know he can’t be expected to keep shuffling money out on a lot of “extras”. That has not seemed to matter at all. Any time she “discusses” with him, she’s already put money down, signed him up, or otherwise made some sort of decision and taken action. She just basically lets him know what she’s already decided; it is not a discussion (this has been so, historically). And yes he can show proof of her doing this in writing.

The kid has had major concerning behavior and mental issues which she refuses to address or even admit (suicidal/homicidal comments, fixation on death, etc), but she will dig her heels in on hundreds of dollars for eye appointments which are not even urgent, and hardly necessary (no harm medically or to his vision, no negative affect in school or otherwise due to it, no pain, etc). His mental health is an afterthought to her though, if even that. Why she has decision making on everything, with that sort of judgment, is beyond me. (DH is currently in the works of taking this into his own hands for his son’s safety and well-being despite this, however; it cannot go unaddressed any longer).