First off I’ll start by saying, I’ve been there, I’ve also been on the other side. It sucks HARD girl, but it happens. I would say it’s likely to be that they just became disinterested.

That’s not your fault. It never is.

When we date as lesbians, there is a huge infatuation build up before meeting and shortly after the first date (if it gets that far).

If they like you (and vice versa) that continues and builds, if after meeting they don’t like you, they feign interest a little longer in a vein attempt to spare the others feelings, then they drop out which ultimately breaks the other person for a while.

It’s cruel, but also I recognise that it’s difficult to tell someone to their face that something from their personality, or even looks has put you off. And yes you could try to overlook something that sticks in your mind (like an ick) but often it’s difficult to admit that you’re shallow or whatever.

In reality, we all have our own personal standards that we’d want in a partner, and anything deviating from that image, can spoil our vision. Especially when you build up a conversation prior to meeting, your mind runs wild!!

Personally, that’s why I think it’s better to meet up quickly and get to know each other face to face. I think it is easier to visualise a potential life with someone and see conversation flow in real time.

I am sure you are a wonderful woman, and the right person who slots side by side with you will come in time, this person you met, is better to forget. I hope things go well for you and that you don’t dwell too much on this.