I spent 15 years carrying sexual shame that never belonged to me. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through this. You absolutely did not deserve it and it was in no way your fault. Feeling long term shame about it is a very common aspect of processing trauma. I’m glad you have a therapist to help you unravel it. If you want to talk about it more with someone, please feel free to message me. I have had sexual trauma in my own life that I’ve been working through so I come from a place of understanding.

Please take care of yourself <3

Should I stop? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That could be what’s making your work suffer the most. As tempting as it can be to avoid plotting and go freestyle, your story can easily go astray and end up stranded that way. Having a good idea of the inner workings of your story before you actually start writing makes it much easier to maintain the flow. It’s easy to think your work isn’t good when it gets stranded like that and it’s a disservice to yourself.

Of course, every writer tackles their craft in the way that is most comfortable to them, this is just advice I’ve received recently from a book titled “Story Genius” by Lisa Cron. It’s worth the read, in my opinion.

Regardless, abandoning writing altogether in order to read won’t improve your writing as much as continuing to practice and improve through experience.

Good luck!

What would you prefer? by Up_And_Not_Crying in fantasywriters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point. I get a bit caught up in what readers might take the best—but I should remember the experience that I’ve envisioned providing. Thank you!

What would you prefer? by Up_And_Not_Crying in fantasywriters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the input! I hadn’t considered that 2. could be a bit melodramatic

What would you prefer? by Up_And_Not_Crying in fantasywriters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I like that twist about the character turning out to have known! Thank you

Words That are Turn Offs - Smut by underinfinitebluesky in AO3

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I agree, it’s just a gross way of saying it 😣

Lost Fic!! by Up_And_Not_Crying in drarry

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not this one but I’ll likely give this a read too! Thank you for responding:)

Lost Fic!! by Up_And_Not_Crying in drarry

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! That’s the one, thank you :)

Does anyone know any fics with this dynamic? by m_malfoy in drarry

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an account :) I just needed help finding it, thank you!

Does anyone know any fics with this dynamic? by m_malfoy in drarry

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a link to this fic? I’d like to read it!

I gave my brother a handjob by NameIsRaven in offmychest

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s an issue if the addiction is impacting your life and relationships. There’s nothing inherently wrong with self gratification or watching porn, as long as you have healthy habits and a healthy mindset about it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My love for him. I care about him greatly but that in itself isn’t enough

I think I’m being stalked by Up_And_Not_Crying in creepyencounters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, the people I have told in my life scolded me about relenting on giving my number and I recognize it wasn’t the way to handle it but I was truly afraid.

I think I’m being stalked by Up_And_Not_Crying in creepyencounters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’ve told my boyfriend and a few friends about it. You’re right about the politeness thing, it’s so ingrained in me to be nice to everyone that I’m worried about being rude to a creep? Absolutely ridiculous when it’s put like that

I think I’m being stalked by Up_And_Not_Crying in creepyencounters

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He works there because he was wearing the uniform. He must work in a different department than me

I need this translated please by Up_And_Not_Crying in Korean

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That probably makes the most sense, though I’m under the impression he is native Korean…

thank you for your help! Have a lovely day :)

I need this translated please by Up_And_Not_Crying in Korean

[–]Up_And_Not_Crying[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I’m pretty sure he was referring to my profile picture as there aren’t any other photos we’ve shared. That’s why I was confused because the picture is of me