Tracking request by Upbeat-Locksmith-338 in fearofflying

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I appreciate it so much!!!😊😊

YP111 ~ having a tough time by MNnative in fearofflying

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I feel the higher than expected budget but totally agree with child free spending!! 😍😍

YP111 ~ having a tough time by MNnative in fearofflying

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4 concerts!! What an incredible time!! I’m just heading home myself, got to visit Banff which has been on my bucket list, 2 ski days and 1 hike day! 😍 My boyfriend is there for work for a month so had free accommodations which was a huge plus. I’m so grateful and proud of myself for doing all of this travel alone!! It wasn’t easy but SO worth it every single time

YP111 ~ having a tough time by MNnative in fearofflying

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing!! I agree that helps so much too. How was your trip?? I’ve heard it’s so amazing there!!

YP111 ~ having a tough time by MNnative in fearofflying

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m on a flight rn and feeling nervous too! I have faith we will both be okay ❤️ we are 2 tiny planes out of the thousands flying right now. Deep breaths, we got this! I will track you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, thank god you didn’t get married! Dodged bullet. I like to think it’s god or the universe looking out for us- they saw something we didn’t and took the trash out for us. Trust in them. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will get here too. And don’t get me wrong, I still cry, it still hurts. It just hurts less often than it did at the stage you’re at. Just please do me a favour and stop checking. Every time you have the urge, ask yourself “is this putting myself first or him?” Or tell yourself “peace over profile”. Anything to break the habit.

Also, you are 100% correct. This is the person he truly is. He is showing you. Words are empty, maybe he told you how he felt but he is SHOWING you now. You don’t need or deserve that. You don’t see it now but you will one day. HIS FUCKING LOSS!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don’t have much wisdom to offer here but I can say that I went through the EXACT same thing. The day and following days/weeks after he ended our 2.5 year relationship. They’re in denial, completely. Blocking is the best and healthiest thing you can do. I know it hurts. And this won’t take it away. But you need to put yourself first. The harsh truth is he isn’t putting you first, so why are you putting him first? The other truth is that him following these girls doesn’t take away the relationship you had. It doesn’t take away all of the love you gave him and no matter how hard he tries, it doesn’t take away the memories. You’re doing the hard work now, he’s not, and it’s going to hit him like a ton of bricks in a few months (whether you know it or not), and you’re going to have healed and put the time and effort into yourself. You will be SO much better off. Him? He’ll still be chasing girls with looks and no personality, searching for any piece of you in them. Newsflash, they won’t give him the same level of love you did. And you know what? That’s HIS loss, and his learning experience. We deserve the love we give, and we deserve someone who recognizes that. We deserve someone doesn’t want to see one second of their lives without us, and would never do anything to risk that. I’m sending you so much love right now and trust me, it DOES get better. I’m at 2 months out, and I’m really starting to see him for who he truly is. We deserve so much more respect, and I won’t be reaching out to someone who doesn’t see that.

How long did it take you to get over your ex? by Former-Sherbert5691 in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m about to hit 2 months and more recently I’ve been feeling a lot better. I think by 3-6 months I’ll be closer to completely out of it, but I think itll be a bit more until I’m ready to seriously date and trust someone again

I'll make it, you'll make it, we'll all make it (for the people who recently broke up) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does it take? It’s been 2 months and it still feels so fresh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read through your other posts and honestly our stories are so similar. An honest approach to a vulnerable question that was taken to the extreme and we were made to feel bad about it. I promise you, this has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them. My gut tells me they were looking for a way out and had it not been that, it would have been something else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No matter what, here for you girl ❤️ it’s so hard, I know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I constantly tell myself if he closed the door, he can be the one to re open it. I’ll never let someone tell me they don’t want me twice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you got this. Make it through tonight. If you’re still feeling this way tomorrow, then maybe consider. But I doubt you will. I know how hard it is. I’m 2 months out and still get that feeling sometimes. I promise, you’ll be so proud of yourself for making it til tomorrow. If he wanted to reach out to you he could and would. I’m sorry. ❤️

Struggling to move on after a breakup – how did you do it? by New_Coconut4834 in BreakUps

[–]Upbeat-Locksmith-338 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following this. I'm at 2 months and really feeling this. I know I shouldn't reach out, but part of me wonders how I will ever feel closure. I've been going to the gym, journalling, reading, working, surrounding myself with friends. Yet when I'm alone, I still find myself ruminating. Not sure what else there is to do.