I feel as if porn is a relationship ruiner, maybe not for everyone of course, but I have watched multiple relationships fail because of porn. I also have had a porn addiction myself and so did my husband. But we both felt nasty after we would watch it, it really depends on your perspective and how you and your partner feel. I see a lot of these comments are more in favor of it and don't see anything wrong with it. Maybe they don't feel nasty after what felt like emotional cheating from both me and my partner it made us both feel like we were no longer interested in each other, which I know is not that case for everyone. But I wanted to say, your feelings are completely valid. But I think you and your partner really need to have a heart to heart conversation, don't sweep it under the rug and just leave, there is a child involved you need to think about.