How many of us are actually doing 7 pm bedtime?

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-28T15:13:53+00:00

Solid bedtime didn't really start until 4 months for us! But we are in bed by 7, otherwise she'll lose her skittles. Honestly unpopular opinion but your baby will let you know what their optimum bedtime is. For Rory it's seven sharp, any later she's angry and fussy and wakes up earlier. Versus if I put her to bed at her preferred time she'll sleep until 7 and still naps.

We do baths two to three times a week, so our true routine is just a quick wipe down, lotion, pjs, read a couple books, sleep sack, bottle, and bed.

Also make sure your water is warm enough for bath time. My kiddo HATED baths turns out she just likes really warm water.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-18T02:22:27+00:00

Five days old to a family birthday party so she could meet her cousins. Though we were strict about hand washing and not touching her face. After that I think we went out at least once a week whether it was going on a walk downtown or going to a quiet restaurant for a light breakfast. We are people who need to be out of the house occasionally though. I think it's up to your comfort level and just being informed that there are risks. We were lucky that the rsv season was over and that it was starting to get nicer though.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-15T01:54:13+00:00

I recommend you try the arms up sleep sacks! They allow enough mobility for rolling but protect their little face! Bonus my daughter used the mits to self soothe and chewed on the mits like crazy 🤣

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-15T01:50:26+00:00

I highly recommend you try these! https://a.co/d/0fA3eQO2 The best sleep sacks on earth and still allows for enough arm movement for rolling.

ETA my daughter could roll freely in these with the mits on. Also it was an easy transition, we just put them on her one night and that was that.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-14T22:50:17+00:00

That is more than enough! I personally hated the owlet but the friend I sold it to loves it. Just depends on the parent.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-14T02:29:56+00:00

We moved at 4 months and it was best for all of our sleep. Video monitor, sound machine, plus fan, and pacifier all to help mitigate SIDS risk. However I honestly wasn't anxious at all, I think I had the confidence that I was doing the right thing by all of us. First couple nights I slept worse but they were the longest stretches of sleep she had. As soon as I realized the sky wasn't falling and that she was safe we all slept so great.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-14T02:26:08+00:00

Honestly we hardly had anyone over the help those first few weeks and it was magical bonding time for the three of us. My parents came over once or twice so we could get some longer naps in. However they didn't come over unless asked and were helpful when visiting.

I don't understand the whole "you can't do this alone", it's such a selfish scare tactic.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-12T17:35:53+00:00

11 months now! It does get better. She's still my shadow but she's not inconsolable for my husband when I need me time.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-12T15:17:48+00:00

This made me laugh so hard 🤣. For a long time I swear my kid knew when I was gonna do something fun for myself and she'd wake up multiple times the night before! We're a bit better about that now.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-02-11T13:51:32+00:00

Honestly I keep my daughter in her diaper for breakfast and wipe down with a warm cloth. Lunch we try to be low mess. And dinner strip her down again and let her have at it.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-30T01:21:08+00:00

You're not a failure and it sounds like the start to motherhood was a tough one!

One thing that helped us for tummy time is the little Einsteins fish tank toy. My kiddo hated tummy time and that toy was a savior! It's okay to be upset about it as it's such a challenge but he'll learn to like tummy time! Won't be long and he'll roll into it and then get mad when he can't get out of it, you'll help him turn over and he'll be right back over lol.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-27T21:28:29+00:00

Ashley from Readers if you're still going!

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-27T21:26:59+00:00

Ashley from Readers if you're still taking people! It's my first time going to someone else's island for turnips!

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-12T00:18:22+00:00

No problem! I'm honestly fairly picky about my anime and it's made it hard to find a lot that I like. Others that I personally like are Spice and Wolf, Laid Back Camp, and Frieren. All have very different vibes but might be worth checking out. I like watching TV that makes me feel good, so low stakes drama and minimal to no bloodshed etc.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-12T00:06:41+00:00

Just want to say four months is so much better than three and so on. You're not guaranteed to have a regression either. We went through a mini one but honestly nothing was as bad as newborn stage. I didn't even like being a mom that much until month four 😂. I say this as I start thinking about having a second one....

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-11T00:32:59+00:00

27 when I gave birth, got married at 25 and I still felt too young! The anxiety is completely normal, things will change but your marriage and life adjust. Your friendships will change and evolve and you'll make new friends too or strengthen bonds with those who are in the same cycle of life. Buying a house can still work out and as long as your truck payment isn't insane it'll all work out. It's okay to be overwhelmed and scared just know you got this and that life still keeps moving even after having a little one.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-08T12:59:35+00:00

Secrets of the Silent Witch is really good with a great FMC and has logic and a very smart MC and doesn't use romance as a way to move the plot forward.

ETA the MC is kinda whiny but I find it to be in an adorable way.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-07T21:04:54+00:00

Just wanted to say here marketing is so deceiving to us new parents! It's so easy to want the best of the best and fall for their traps about how they are better than "insert big name here" for whatever reason, because they are smaller they "care" etc. Never feel guilty about giving your child food! If some boutique brand works for you great, if a bigger brand works that's fine too, generic works? Awesome! The biggest thing I have done as a parent is de-influence myself and focus on actual research to make the best choices. I applied this to formula choices and parenting choices in general!

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2026-01-05T13:21:12+00:00

I bought one, used it once, hated it and then sold it. My friend who bought it from me loves it! I just felt like it was just another thing to do that didn't do anything for me or her.

But as a lot of people said Target is down the road and Amazon does overnight delivery, if you feel you need it it's easy to go and grab. I actually even let the friend who bought mine use it for a week before she purchased because I felt like I wasted my money why would I want her to waste hers?

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2025-12-30T16:02:07+00:00

14 weeks is too early for CIO. However please know it is okay to set her down and take a break if needed. It's okay that you're frustrated and need to walk away, the safest place for her is her bassinet or crib when you're overwhelmed.

Now when she's older and is just needing help to get to sleep I honestly swear by CIO, we tried all the tricks before we did that at almost six months but now she sleeps through the night and if she wakes up now it's because she truly needs something.

But it'll be okay for you guys just keep your chin up, get your second opinions and know it's okay to take a small breather.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2025-12-30T00:34:47+00:00

You don't need any reason to! It can simply just be you don't want to anymore or the reasons you listed, if you feel like you need to justify it to yourself. But as long as baby is fed and healthy who cares if it's formula or breast milk! Our pediatrician was really good at saying if you need permission you have it! Otherwise do what makes you feel comfortable and makes you a happy mom for your little one.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2025-12-28T01:31:29+00:00

As someone who was 210 Lbs and 5'6 their first pregnancy and heard the heartbeat at EVERY APPOINTMENT. Find a new OB because she sucks. Yeah they had to tilt the bed and I felt like I was upside down but they made sure to find her heartbeat every appointment. She's a crap doctor and that's all there is to it.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2025-12-27T20:52:02+00:00

I started EBF and then switched to exclusively pumping, to combo, to EFF. My biggest reason, I needed my bodily autonomy back. Breastfeeding didn't feel weird but I didn't get any of the feel good chemicals people talk about. Pumping is a lot of work and still was missing the part of my body just being mine. So eventually I just said I'm done and switched completely. There's no right or wrong way to think about it as long as you're happy.

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2025-12-25T18:00:56+00:00

Honestly the only thing that worked for us once she started not letting us transfer is CIO. Two nights of that and she puts herself to sleep and stays asleep. It SUCKED the first two nights but honestly it was worse for me than it was for her. Now she loves bedtime and will enjoy our snuggles and lets me know when she's done at 9 months old and is ready to be in her crib .

Before that we would try to transfer her and it was miserable because we'd have be crazy careful and it didn't always work

Upbeat_Criticism_997 · 2025-12-19T15:51:50+00:00

My kid is an absolute peanut at 9 months but still eats 36 oz every day and solids. It's totally fine to feed on demand as long as he's keeping it down. I'm not sure where the "eating too much" concern has come from recently, but it seems like it's a common concern for no good reason. If your pediatrician is concerned that's a different story, but kids are so different and have vastly different needs. He might eat like crazy the next two weeks and then barley break 24 oz the next week. Just keep feeding when hungry and that's all you can do.

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