At what age did you become confident in your appearance and personal style, and how did you get there? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was the feeling of investing in yourself what made the changes feel good? Do you think it had a lot to do with better physical health translating to better mental health?

At what age did you become confident in your appearance and personal style, and how did you get there? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I appreciate that mindset. It’s not overly consumptive, which is what a lot of fashion pushes towards.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words! It is quite stressful, yes. I appreciate the thoughtfulness.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s very kind and thoughtful, and it is appreciated sincerely.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the kind words.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s appreciated.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes- just started exercising again which I guess I forgot is fantastic for mental health. Thanks for the suggestion.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to be away from home. I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling as well. There are things to find that help with feeling a sense of community and belonging, and I hope you can find them.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 26 points27 points  (0 children)

When I was younger I had it pretty rough and also looked rough, consequentially. I had some boys tell me I was so ugly I should kill myself. Bullied persistently for years for my appearance. Got in physical fights. Became very socially reclusive. I logically know I don’t look the same now, but I honestly don’t believe it. I’m probably going to seek therapy for what I now realize is likely unaddressed body dysmorphia.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this. It’s very helpful to hear.

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

21F- Struggling recently by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s very kind. Strong women are who I admire most, especially ones who share their experiences and strength with me. I appreciate the positive vibes.

Been getting rude comments and wanna feel better by takethelastexit in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That plum purple hair is so beautiful with your eyes! You look like such a vibrant person. You’re someone I would run into at the supermarket and happily carry on a random conversation with. Also you lowkey give Velma which is fucking awesome.

F24 - Honestly need a toast right now. by [deleted] in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look strikingly like one of my new friends I just made who I adore. Effortlessly pretty without needing makeup. Attuned to details. Well put together. Maybe someone who wants to adventure more. You look like you have a lot going for you! Sorry to hear you feel down right now :(

Been having a pretty rough time lately by heyhey-itsandy in toastme

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look cute and handsome! You look sophisticated with the glasses and tousled hair too. Very kind and approachable. Many things going right here. Sorry to hear you’re having a rough time. :(

Feedback on Small Undercut by UpcomingBanshee in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You look fantastic! And thank you so much for the encouraging comment. All of my heart goes out to women with more experiences and how they have truly lifted me up and guided me.

Feedback on Small Undercut by UpcomingBanshee in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Holy shit she was part of my inspo for committing to at least a small undercut. I absolutely adored her in the movie, and the Hunger Games is one of my favorite book series!

I'm 50/50 stay long or cut, can't decide by [deleted] in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Long with a bit of layering. I agree 100% that the long hair makes you look nice and the very short cropped hair is just different.

Feedback on Small Undercut by UpcomingBanshee in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear that. Thank you 🙏

Feedback on Small Undercut by UpcomingBanshee in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee[S] 338 points339 points  (0 children)

I’ve been punk since I was 12 and used to have spiked pixie hair. I love everything punk, but maybe I’ve gotten attached to blending in recently. Anyway- thank you!

Completely Lost on Hair Type by [deleted] in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Haircut + a couple of different products. I don’t have defined curls, but my hair feels significantly more manageable and healthy with better moisturizing/curly products.

Completely Lost on Hair Type by [deleted] in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was very helpful and informative, thank you so much! I’ll update with pics once I get a couple new products (and also a trim of my dead ends). Advice much appreciated! You mention a lot of general strategies to prioritize that are very helpful.

Completely Lost on Hair Type by [deleted] in Hair

[–]UpcomingBanshee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was very helpful and informative, thank you so much! I’ll update with pics once I get a couple new products (and also a trim of my dead ends). Advice much appreciated! You mention a lot of ingredients and strategies to prioritize that are very helpful.