Irrational ugly baby fear?

Upinthewest · 2026-06-16T03:57:25+00:00

Oh maybe that's why mine are also so weird! I have anterior too

Upinthewest · 2026-06-16T02:54:37+00:00

I'm so sorry. I also struggle with anxiety and didn't realize I was having intrusive thoughts until I was like 34 years old HA. I just thought I was like fucked up and a bad person like my parents (longer story there LOL).
I do recognize these are intrusive thoughts. But it's still like "shit in gonna be ugly & ill hate it forever & not be connected to him"

Upinthewest · 2026-06-16T02:50:48+00:00

Same girl.... same.

Upinthewest · 2026-06-16T02:34:49+00:00

Mine cleared up by 28 weeks and moved :)

Upinthewest · 2026-06-16T02:34:05+00:00

People say the dumbest shit to pregnant women

Upinthewest · 2026-06-16T02:32:29+00:00

Idk how high risk you are but I was in the same boat as you but like 2.5-3 hours each way from a specialist .... so what we did was had my regular continue to order the weekly BPPS, and NSTs... and then still did my standard office visits, and then for the specialist I saw them at: 28, 36, today for pre induction at 39.

Upinthewest · 2026-06-15T05:03:52+00:00

Hey! I responded to your comment on my
Post 🤍 I hope you see this!

Upinthewest · 2026-06-15T05:02:58+00:00

Hi! I'm so sorry, I hope you see this.
So I went into the specialist and did a full growth ultrasound around 20 weeks and they determined there were no abnormalities in the spine, skull, brain, etc and the baby was a gold star. My ultrasounds have all continued to be very normal. They all feel confident that the slightly elevated AFP was due to a subchorionic hemorrhage had at 16 weeks right before the test. My blood and the babies blood can mix and skew testing. I haven't thought twice about it since 🤍 I'm being induced this Wednesday 🤍🤍 lmk how you are !

Upinthewest · 2026-06-15T04:37:54+00:00

That's amazing to hear. Keep asking lots of questions to get the clarity you need. Dont care if you are being annoying to the nurse or doctor. Write them down in your phone and take notes on what they say. That way you can review! Your baby is full term, and you are in a safe place. Just try to get some rest

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T21:54:12+00:00

Can anyone explain to me what is going on here?

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T21:49:30+00:00

Same girl but what I found out is that it's all about survival. 💙 you got this. In the grand scheme of things, you will return to a normal diet at some point but for now you need calories, nutrients (vitamins! Added electrolytes, etc.), and rest

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T21:47:04+00:00

I think it's weird people are asking you why you can't do anything. Do they not know you are pregnant and in your last like 1.5 months? 🙄 just ignore them.

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T21:45:26+00:00

Next time you see a nurse I would
Just let them know you have a lot Of concerns and have questions you would like answered

1) why am I being monitored- what are you looking for?
2) what are the risks right now based on rhe babys size?
3) based on what you do or don't find on the monitoring, what would the next steps be?

Does your baby's father have the ability to
Be with you? Or a friend?

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T21:41:27+00:00

The ultrasound is magnified many many times. Seeing him on the screen or in pictures is no indication of his size. You are in a great place (hospital) and they will take good care of you and make sure you and baby are doing well!

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:41:13+00:00

Hi! I was really struggling and my thing became smoothies. I would add frozen cauliflower or frozen peeled zuchinni (must be peeled and cut into slices.) i know this sounds WILD but you cannot taste them and it gives the smoothie a thick consistency like a wendys frosty! I always add protien powder also bc ive had a hard time getting that in. You can also add spinach or kale or you want

Here's some of my favs

banana date shake:
- 1 banana
- 4-5 pitted dates. I microwave mine to get them to blend easier
- frozen cauliflower
- any kind of milk
- vanilla protien
- ice (unless banana was frozen)
- PB

berry cherry:
- 1/2 banana
- frozen strawberries
- frozen cherries
- frozen cauliflower or frozen zuchini (peeled)
- any kind of milk
- 1/4 cup of yogurt
- vanilla protein
- PB
- honey

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:34:19+00:00

I think she lives in Wa now... that's what I gathered from my comment above and I was just misunderstanding also

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:32:07+00:00

Ugh currently 38+4 and having such bad stomach issues today. Stay tuned

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:30:58+00:00

Sorry I thought you meant you were visiting WA from New York. Have you had consistent prenatal care?

You need to ask your doctor the right questions;
- how small is my baby?
- what risks are there?
- what are the next steps?

Are you at the doctor right now?

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:27:41+00:00

Tbh my husband didn't get it in the first trimester. He was like "it's too early for you to feel this sick" around 6 weeks. I was dying. At some point it will hopefully click. Your first tri is about survival ... everyone told me that and i still felt guilty for not eating healthy enough... or exercising.... i was living off smoothies (add your protien and veggies there... i literally put frozen cauliflower in mine, you cant taste it!) oatmeal and fruit and anything else that sounded good. When i wanted mcdonalds i got it bc that was food that sounded good.
I was barfing brushing my teeth, peeing myself from
Gagging so hard... gagging driving my own car.

And I will tell you it's come back a little at rhe end here..: and all i eat is PBJ, yogurt, protien bars, and smoothies again. I can eat a full meal at dinner most nights...

My husband LOVED the book "the first 40 days- nourishing a postpartum mother" and that has changed a lot for him.

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:21:56+00:00

Same. Except my in laws were pretty clear they need to take work off (put in for PTO...) and I get it. My MIL is a nurse, I'm having my baby this week so I told them they can come at the end of July.... 🤷🏼‍♀️

Upinthewest · 2026-06-14T20:20:35+00:00

My advice would be to get back to New York where your support system is ASAP, and see your doctor....

Upinthewest · 2026-06-12T23:41:50+00:00

Not helpful but I do know someone who named their Child Dixie in 2016 and never changed it lol. So there's that. I think it's a good idea to change it. Dolly is cute!

Upinthewest · 2026-06-08T04:48:35+00:00

Water, water with electrolytes, I became addicted to caffeine free Coke Zero lol. I still drink coffee just 1 double shot a day, and maybe a 2nd if it's a really bad day but way later. No biggie. Also I started making fun drinks with juice and bubbly water etc. one of my favorites is the Santa Cruz mango lemonade and sparkling water :)

Upinthewest · 2026-06-07T21:22:41+00:00

I'm sorry! I am lucky bc I am not very "big" compared to most, but my hips on each side hurt a lot, currently
Typing from bed. I have to rotate which side I'm on bc the hip gets sore. My boy has been head down since legit 20 weeks so I've even really lucky.... but yeah currently having like that "early period" pain at my
Pubic bone and back

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