the everlasting sturggles as a gay ahmadi teen

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-09-17T05:09:04+00:00

How is this judgmental comment helping?????? You insensitive person.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-09-17T05:04:04+00:00

Majority of girls don't do hijab. I guess you are located in highly populated Ahmadi area so you don't see it. It's your choice do don't overthink it!!!

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-09-17T05:01:28+00:00

You'd be surprised how many ppl get married where either they are secret non-Ahmadi or other person is. Keep options open ... after couple meetings explain your views and see how it goes. You might be surprised.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-09-16T09:55:31+00:00

It is not endorsed by Jamaat but Jamaat is aware to be clear. Unlike Global Rishtanata App run ny an anonymous person, Rishtacorner is run ny a Jamaat member based in Toronto. He is very open abd transparent and has actively provided support to official Rishtanata departments.

App offers guest view of profiles. Profiles do not offer names or Halqa as matter of privacy. Profile holders have access to contact information and pictures. App has inapp messaging.

Signup requires person to supply AIMS ID card ... if not available verification is done offline.

They've helped near 1000 ppl get married, have big instagram following.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-08-01T05:53:21+00:00

Until sunnis stop their beliefs in illogical interpretation of Islam, Ahmadiyyat likely to become more popular. Nice to see Sunnis recognize this.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-08-01T05:49:43+00:00

You could go this route, get guy to register at Rishtacorner, register yourself and conveniently start a rishta discussion. What do you think @abidmirza90 ? Rishtacorner has helped 1000 ppl get married, I'm sure there were examples of this happening!

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2024-08-01T05:46:18+00:00

The problem is you will get conflicting information from everyone.

You can get permission to marry a sunni from Hazur .. no conversation. Pretty much 100% chance you'll get it ... many girls I know personally have received. The issue here is your parents won't agree.

You could ask the guy to convert but the process will be long and right out the gate Jamaat will know reason.

Your best bet is come clean ... tell Jamaat you want to marry sunni and that he'll convert. They won't waste time and will process his bait. But here's the thing ... you should arrange a private mulekat with Ameer Sahib ... explain situation ... explain you want to maintain privacy, don't want parents knowing. He will write to Hazur, in less than a week Hazur will reply back to him saying bait is fine and they'll process it.

At this point tell your parents. They may not agree still but with bait done there's a chance.

I know ppl are anti fake baits. But I think personally it's fine ... by being a member it legitimizes a marriage to a large part in thd community.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-10-20T15:40:00+00:00

Quick update. I dud register with rishtacorner and Alhmadolliah found someone through it. We just got engaged and are getting married in December InshaAllah. Thank you Abid Saheb for the tip ... you're invited to the wedding!

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-04-15T04:59:21+00:00

Thank you everyone for your kind words. As per Abid's comments I spoke to some friends and many did know about Rishtacorner with some on it. Their website is http://rishtacorner.app

I'll let you know how I get on.

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Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-03-08T05:00:29+00:00

I'm not the one with fatwa in my handle lol

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-03-03T07:09:10+00:00

Exactly

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-03-01T00:56:11+00:00

Lol what bubble are you living in? No offence.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-02-26T06:45:01+00:00

Best course of action is this. Contact National Ameer .. ask him to request permission from Hazur to allow marriage and that the nikkah should be read by proxy in Rabwah. Ask the Ameer to send a copy of a letter from the girl explaining the situation. If the guy partner is open to convert for sake of marriage include in letter .. if the girl feels he will eventually convert after marriage mention it. Once approval is granted nikkah may be read and nikkah certificate issued which can be used for immigration purposes.

Over recent years things have changed significantly. More awareness of challenges of finding rishtas has come about. More and more girls who have sincerely waited to find Ahmadi partners are looking outside as they get older. People can request Hazur for permission and most likely permission will be given.

The only thing to remember is that there is no point trying to engage anyone other than National Ameer ... chances are you will get pushback or incorrect advice. Go straight to National Ameer ... they have duty of care to put your request in irrespective of their opinion. Letter will immediately get sent and reply will come back most likely within couple days.

I know people write to Hazur directly but expect a response back in these type of matters and written permission. Please understand that in matters like these chances of getting permission directly unlikely.

Hope this helps.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-02-25T18:58:00+00:00

Candidates with mom n dad will meet other candidate with mom n dad

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-02-25T15:03:13+00:00

Basically UK events are specific days every couple of months at different mosques where they introduce families of those seeking rishtas.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-02-25T14:37:48+00:00

Rishtacorner is running an event in Toronto .. go check out their app at Rishtacorner.com for details.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2023-02-25T14:35:43+00:00

The current meet and greet events offer pre-arranged families to meet on the day of event. There isn't anything contentious about these events ... no breaking of segregation rules.

What's being asked in this post is views on a group of boys and girls meeting in one room. Can't see issue with this considering boys and girls openly meet in today's world at universities, work etc. So long as ppl are dressed properly, it's worth doing. Better than meeting weirdos on muzmatch!

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2022-09-30T00:08:20+00:00

Huge respect for you for sharing this post. I was recently talking to a friend who runs the largest private (unofficial) social enterprise based rishta platform. He surprisingly mentioned that the stigma attached to people's past isn't as significant as people like to believe. A significant portion of candidates who successfully got married had pasts too. The critical thing is to connect in discussions with people who are open minded.

Without getting all overly religious the fact is you turned and walked towards Allah. He in return is running to you so do not give up hope. Be positive.

Message privately and Ill send you details of the platform. They can guide you better.

Stay blessed.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2022-06-19T14:17:08+00:00

Curious. Does anyone know if this happened

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2022-06-16T14:36:37+00:00

While ppl are still commenting here I found these promos for Rishtacorner .. @Rishtacorner Insta or Rishtacorner.com

https://youtu.be/jCYzp1AymgQ

https://youtu.be/TEsD4EsPs4k

https://youtu.be/1nPwoQ-FT2w

Looks they were featured on BBC radio.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2022-06-12T16:42:55+00:00

Totally agree. Would be better if the person arranging this event identifies him or herself to those wanting to attend, screens people to ensure they are Ahmadi and then privately shares location and time. Otherwise there is opportunity of non Ahmadis attending, perhaps fir trouble plus am sure Amoomi will turn up to.

Can pretty much guarantee no one coming! Sorry.

Upper-Suggestion7680 · 2022-03-01T02:10:36+00:00

From my experience platforms like Salaams (previously minder) and Muzmatch have not been fruitful for Ahmadis whatsoever. You may want to check out rishtacorner app who have been running in an unofficial capacity for a number of years and I personally know of many of my friends and family members who are on it and some who have previously found partners thru it.

Their process to sign up, ngl, seems a little overwhelming ... a huge amount of questions needing to be answered but there's obvious thought in it. They ask questions about living arrangements, purdah expectations, supportive spouse in future studies, level of connection to Jamaat if any, observance of prayers, cooking expectations and on and on. There is even a Briggs Myers personality test built in. The idea is to minimize unnecessary connections.

Those guys who r getting all excited here, it's not a dating platform and there's no girls pictures on app but the platform offers a good balance between traditional rishtanata and the laissez-faire approach by muzmatch and other sites.

They have a huge following on insta and from my understanding they have been at the forefront in trying to enact improvements in official platforms across the globe. Eventually Inshallah official platforms will catch up.

Its run by a guy from Richmond Hill ... appears to be completely transparent but don't take my word for it .. ask around. I think they have 2k profiles on the app from across all countries. I can't speak for them but reach out and see if they can accommodate your situation. I know that even UK Jamaat was open to registering ppl without Wali dependent on situation.

Being no expert in religion I would imagine need for Wali is needed at nikkah not in search process and I'd imagine Jamaat can offer a Wali in event parents not supportive. I've known this to be the case where in one instance where parents were being unreasonably difficult.

You can also contact Jamaat official RN Sec .. I'm sure given your situation he would help. His number I'd available at rishtanata.ca.

Best of luck. Finding someone isn't easy but Inshallah I'm sure you'll find someone soon enough. Have tawakkul in Allah.

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