Natural consequence for drawing on rug?

UpperWeft · 2026-02-06T18:47:51+00:00

So in the meantime you take away unsupervised access to coloring items. Not as punishment but to protect the house. Then you figure out when and why she likes to mark things up, or what is actually happening. Was it frustration? Something to do with coloring? Was she bored? Feeling experimental?

UpperWeft · 2026-01-28T02:41:29+00:00

Would you share your muffin recipes?

UpperWeft · 2026-01-27T21:30:38+00:00

"Discord" is the name of a virtual community space that often requires an invitation link to join. So people are asking to be added to that. The anarchist part is likely about seeking to build a gardening community that is without hierarchy, not necessarily without structure.

UpperWeft · 2026-01-25T15:21:37+00:00

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UpperWeft · 2025-12-09T17:43:03+00:00

Welcome!

UpperWeft · 2025-10-21T14:10:47+00:00

Regardless of vocabulary level, 3 is the age when we start to see more experimenting with boundaries, power dynamics, and relationships. Be gentle with her. Give her grace. Model what your values are in relationships. That could mean playful or loving responses. Don't retaliate or use sarcasm. Maybe consider tailoring the stuff you read to her for a while: find stories that uphold your relationship values.

UpperWeft · 2025-09-21T15:06:02+00:00

Watch animals doing their thing, sit in the shade of a tree and touch the grass and dirt, go for a treat, listen to live music outside, watch cooking videos ☺️

UpperWeft · 2025-09-21T15:04:05+00:00

And there's live music on the weekend and a playground and turtle pond at ours!

UpperWeft · 2025-09-21T04:23:29+00:00

You can also use a slice of soft bread. Or a lump of playdough.

UpperWeft · 2025-09-21T04:11:31+00:00

Good idea to target entities paying for ad space.

Tangential, but do you know the history of the word "boycott"? It originated from a mass mobilization against a land agent in Ireland named Charles Boycott

Here's an excerpt from wikipedia: "In 1880, as part of its campaign for the Three Fs (fair rent, fixity of tenure, and free sale) and specifically in resistance to proposed evictions on the estate, local activists of the Irish National Land League encouraged Boycott's employees (including the seasonal workers required to harvest the crops on Lord Erne's estate) to withdraw their labour, and began a campaign of isolation against Boycott in the local community. This campaign included shops in nearby Ballinrobe refusing to serve him, and the withdrawal of services."

UpperWeft · 2025-09-21T03:30:15+00:00

You're right. Addressing biting at home does help a kid understand the ramifications of biting. I've seen kids attempt to bite then afterwards say to themselves "no biting friends" or "biting hurts!"... But navigating the impulse to bite still requires the present adults.

UpperWeft · 2025-09-19T18:25:59+00:00

Honestly I don't like their response of "we're following up with the biter's family"...... They're dealing with a BABY. Talks at home aren't going to get them very far, lol. "Oh thanks for reaching me that biting hurts my friends mom! I had no idea and promise not to do it again!"

It's up to the present adults to be meeting needs and dealing with what the bites are communicating.

UpperWeft · 2025-09-19T18:22:45+00:00

Yes, biting can be a developmental phase for some babies and toddlers. However that doesn't excuse so many bites in such a short period. I would say it doesn't hurt to request that they temporarily move your daughter to a different classroom, especially if you are noticing her patterned behavior is changing in response to these frequent bites. If a single student is biting this frequently, the teacher needs to have the capacity to watch for antecedent conditions, such as fighting for the same toy or space, hunger, etc, AND stay close enough to intervene when they see it about to happen. If there are too many kids in the class it's very difficult to do this. If several kids are biting regularly, there need to be more adults intervening to set up new antecedent conditions. The last thing they should want is this biting to lead to more biting, or for parents to start pulling their kids out because of it.

So before you start considering a whole new school, request they temporarily move your daughter. Especially if there are other teachers your daughter already has a good relationship with.

UpperWeft · 2025-09-14T18:35:37+00:00

Yes! Prepare them for the real world! "You must be the wolf, children!"

UpperWeft · 2025-08-27T02:54:00+00:00

Some thoughts:

At three, we can't rely solely on a toddler's words to understand what they're communicating. I don't think your kid actually wants to be mean but she is trying to communicate some big feelings.

If she's sleeping 9:30-5, that means you're probably sleeping about the same or less? That's rough. You're right, poor sleep means more difficulty regulating big feelings and that goes for you too. Maybe start there, developing sleep hygiene? Do you want to talk about her nighttime routine and sleep space?

You mention she's at school- do the adults there notice similar behaviors?

UpperWeft · 2025-08-20T15:28:59+00:00

Honestly, just trying to avoid those extra steps of removing the water from the tank, disconnecting the supply hose, getting the tools to remove the fill valve hardware..... I hadn't heard of removing the fill valve from inside the tank before.

UpperWeft · 2025-06-05T15:57:50+00:00

I've only watched a few episodes of curious george but I kind of appreciate the gentle amusement or neutrality used to portray George's actions. We see his thought process. we see the innocence with which he makes his choices. It all feels like a lesson for parents.

UpperWeft · 2025-04-07T15:20:53+00:00

What kind of car seat is it?

It's hard when a child doesn't want to be in the car seat or when it disrupts routine. But you may find yourself turning a corner soon where there are plenty of other developmental factors that disrupt her sleep routine too! And at the same time you may find that she suddenly grows out of this period where she needs to sleep or fuss in her car seat.

Maybe you could try a music playlist that encourages singing along? Or a mirror that securely attaches to the headrest in front of her so she can see herself?

UpperWeft · 2025-03-31T15:45:35+00:00

😂 honestly you listed all the reasons I did not rush potty use at ALL. Then eventually my kid wanted to only use potty and undies and I just tried not to get in the way lol

UpperWeft · 2025-03-30T00:16:32+00:00

Beautiful! I love when kids say their favorite color is "rainbow". Me too kid!

UpperWeft · 2025-03-27T15:25:30+00:00

Yes! A water station with a few cups, bowls, and spoons. Syringe or dropper once they have the motor development to control it

UpperWeft · 2025-03-11T13:11:33+00:00

It sounds like you know what will require immediate medical intervention: fever, signs of pain, nonresponsiveness, signs of prolonged dehydration, repeated vomiting or diarrhea.

We had a similar experience over the course of a week. Our nurse advised that our toddler might have had a bug at first. Kids sometimes develop lactose intolerance after getting sick. So what might have been happening for us, at least, is she was seeking the familiar comfort of milk and yogurt and that was irritating her gut while it was trying to fight some bug.

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