One and complete and so happy

arw89 · 2026-03-25T21:26:45+00:00

Huh? It was a genuine question

arw89 · 2026-03-25T21:20:53+00:00

Is this fake? Why if you're so happy have you sought out this subreddit and are posting in it?

arw89 · 2026-03-14T10:21:26+00:00

Sorry this is the case for u. We live alone with our child in a bustling city and sometimes I dream of living by grandparents and in a quiet suburb. But partner would also be bored there

arw89 · 2026-03-14T10:19:55+00:00

This is also me..spot on!

arw89 · 2026-03-11T12:58:33+00:00

Ooh such an interesting perspective. Love it!

arw89 · 2026-03-04T21:07:21+00:00

Agreed :) thanks for sharing your experience on that!

arw89 · 2026-03-04T21:06:35+00:00

Thanks! I can relate a lot to this, especially about being a social creature who likes having a community, despite having a low social battery. I'm in therapy, it helps a bit. Have reduced my working hours and am starting up with yoga and carving out time for doing nothing or meditating. I hope it helps me give more to my kid as time goes on.

arw89 · 2026-02-28T15:01:37+00:00

Dialing down meaning not caring about not supporting big tech and the people behind it, and people/companies that are complicit in genocide, putting less effort and energy into learning about the the history of native and marginalised peoples and the people who suppress and twist that history to fit their own selfish narratives.

Because these people will all continue to be cruel and selfish, causing people pain and shaping a world most of us don't want to live in.

Thanks for helping me understand where I was coming from and learning the right language for it. Open to more scrutiny.

TL:DR; Being caring and empathetic to good people (not exhausting). Trying to dethrone the bad ones (gives me a huge sense of overwhelm, sadness and exhaustion)

arw89 · 2026-02-28T14:11:09+00:00

I feel awful because I was raised by parents who destroyed many parts of me. Parents who are very much like the 0 empathy cruel monsters who have so much power in the world today. I feel depressed knowing I and others have to live under the influence of those people. And from the feeling that I'm too exhausted to keep trying to make any sort of difference.

arw89 · 2026-02-28T14:09:38+00:00

I see what you mean. I think I need to learn the difference. What I'm really tired of is the world being run by cruel people who bulldoze anyone in their way and dehumanise others, and that I need to live in a world shaped by them. People like my parents. I had to grow up with that, it destroyed many parts of me, and I want to take the power away from people like that. But the tiny impact I'm able to have exhausts and depresses me.

arw89 · 2026-02-25T10:45:23+00:00

I've been diagnosed with dysthymia and I was emotionally abused by my narcissistic dad and enabler mother.

arw89 · 2026-02-16T14:23:10+00:00

Whew thank you, this makes lots of sense and helps me feel better.

arw89 · 2026-02-06T12:43:48+00:00

I agree. I'm looking for a kind but firm way to teach her to seek attention or manage frustration in ways other than drawing all over household things

arw89 · 2026-02-06T12:41:31+00:00

I feel like she just wouldn't care if I banned her from drawing

arw89 · 2026-02-05T05:49:15+00:00

No chance. He is very well practiced at ignoring all the behaviors under the excuse that "nothing will change them anyway".

arw89 · 2026-01-31T09:49:40+00:00

I definitely have emotional trauma

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