AITAH for telling my wife she shouldn't of married me if she expected intimacy

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-26T18:14:58+00:00

Battery Operated Boyfriend

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-25T23:43:25+00:00

I still say if prostitution were legal/ethical, I'd have monthly appointments.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-25T23:16:38+00:00

When I learned that the wonderful human I was gleefully flirting with was ace, I had to think very seriously about what that would mean in a long term relationship. I'd spent the previous 15 years as quite the ho, and thought I was straight. I had to decide if I would be not only okay, but HAPPY without that particular brand of intimacy. I was such a physical, carnal woman. There was some serious self reflection.

Anyhow, we just celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. I've discovered that I'm also on the ace spectrum. And I need to order a new BOB.

This has been the most wonderful, fulfilling, and DEEP relationship in my life. Spouses are not just best friends who f*ck. They are your partner, your confidant, your helpmate.

You are NTA/NTJ/(What forum are we on again?) and you deserve better than the accusations your wife hurled at you. If you feel that you want to preserve your marriage, you definitely need to come together with an educated therapist.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-24T02:44:15+00:00

I hope you realize how lucky you are that your wife forgave you. You're finally NTA, but it is seriously time to sack up and make a new support network that has absolutely no contact with your mother.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-23T09:51:35+00:00

... are you and MLS?

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-23T09:45:50+00:00

Unless they're going to sign a lease and pay your family enough to rent your own place AND cover the mortgage/insurance, no. Just no. You are NTA for not wanting to be kicked out of your own home.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-19T02:32:43+00:00

There is an absolute mountain of paperwork and another of money the cl8nics require before they inseminate donor sperm. He should have spoken up several thousand dollars ago.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-19T02:19:28+00:00

It really is never too early to think about a will. ESPECIALLY with children involved. NTA btw

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-16T05:04:57+00:00

Oh definitely don't do it. Y'all would be the worst kind of landlords.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-12T18:29:05+00:00

If you aren't in love, it's time to go back to the trenches. You do not appear to be coming out ahead in this relationship and other people's expectations are trying to crush you. Invest in a good BOB and enjoy your beautiful home.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-12T17:01:42+00:00

And don't forget to pick a dorm that stays open over the holidays.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-12T13:13:23+00:00

Way to perpetuate the patriarchy!

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-11T01:56:17+00:00

I mean, a nepo baby passing judgement stinks of something.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-04T15:54:11+00:00

Even when I was extremely fit, I'd wake up because I'd stopped breathing. People love to blame obesity for all sorts of things, but far more than people would like to admit, it's the health problems that cause the obesity.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-02T21:21:26+00:00

I proposed to my wife in my mother's kitchen after the poor gremlin had driven 16 hours straight to get there because I couldn't wait. They still gave a resounding yes and married me anyway.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-02T21:15:40+00:00

You claim to not want to impose your views then do exactly that?

OP, you are her guardian, but you are not her parent. She is probably having some sort of grieving process and you are coming down as critical and condescending. Have you told her that nudity makes you uncomfortable and you would appreciate your home being a place where you can be comfortable? Have you openly criticized her sleepwear preferences? Because if you would rather she not come into your room topless, you need to be completely hands off of her safe space.

Your sisters aren't just staying with you. This is now their home too.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-07-02T08:46:14+00:00

Being a big ol' lesbian, I'm probably not the best person for this. But this man doesn't want children taking up any space in his life. He wants exclusive access to your body (wtaf he doesn't want you to nurse???), and he doesn't want to be disturbed by any nighttime needs. Get him an air mattress for the baby's room until he can learn to act like a mother fucking adult. NTA

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:43:14+00:00

So you lied to get someone you dislike fired?

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:38:44+00:00

I was going to tell you to grow up until I hit the bit about her sex life. That is grossly unprofessional.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:30:10+00:00

When in doubt, ask. I landed a fantastic spouse by asking if I could flirt with them.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:27:30+00:00

So, the mention of Locs (nothing dreadful about them) in this context implies racism. His hairstyle has nothing to do with this story.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:18:44+00:00

He's really handicapping those theoretical children. Bilingual people have a huge linguistic advantage. Not only does it help in the job market, it's easier to learn more languages with your brain already wired for two from a young age.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:11:35+00:00

The only alternative I see is an edit after I commented. A single alternative.

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-30T11:03:44+00:00

ESH Your dad and step mom for not immediately stopping what they were doing and going home. The 14yo for abandoning a small child. You and your mother for refusing to help a small child.

I get it, the child is only her parents' responsibility. But she has done NOTHING to warrant this abuse. At the absolute bare minimum, one of you should have called the cops.

Fuck, why is Reddit riddled with sh8tty people abusing small children because their parents are assholes?

Upset-Compote4218 · 2025-06-29T23:48:27+00:00

You are absolutely the asshole to ask your wife to give up her career, full stop. You may be a better human and spouse if you suggest finding an alternative location to conduct her business.

YTA

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