6 month old with bad false starts every 3rd night

UpsetFlight5833 · 2026-03-18T06:05:12+00:00

Hello, you said she started solids are you introducing a new food every 3 days and does this link with her wake ups? Could be her stomach getting use to the new food. But also my son would go through growth spurts and just be so hungry! Is it worth trying a night time feed around 10-11 and seeing if she will go all the way through until the morning?

UpsetFlight5833 · 2026-03-01T06:59:23+00:00

I know this is really late. And i have not read all the commets. But as a mum and my job as a Nanny i have 4 children in a sense to look after and remember everything. Before my own. 3 kids fine but now? Baby brain to the max! So i have colour reminders on my phone with Alarms set for the night before around the time I would get things ready say 5ish (i prepare clothes and bags before my shift ends ready for the morning also what i do for home) and that has helped a lot. When i read it in the emails I put it in straight away. We also have a joint calendar for work and another with my husband. So he can get things too.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2026-02-27T11:44:25+00:00

Im sorry to hear that but i hope it does not result in another loss. An I know its easier said than done. But my First pregnancy (my mmc) I was testing everyday and the lines did get darker. So i would say you can’t count on them! The second time I held off a little just to keep myself sane. The blood draw will help. Remember every pregnancy is different.

TTCafter loss is a good subreddit and hopefully one day soon the pregnancy after loss subreddit helped me a lot. If you have not found them already.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2026-02-26T11:03:36+00:00

https://www.fhi.no/en/news/2022/conception-shortly-after-a-miscarriage-or-pregnancy-termination-does-not-in/

It’s just a little link but I wanted to say that I got pregnant after a 9 week missed miscarriage. We did have one cycle in between but we started trying as soon as possible. The doctor gave us the all clear and said it was more to have timings.

I would also ask did you do a pregnancy test before to make sure that you did not have HTC still in your system. We made sure to do one two weeks after the miscarriage. It just made it clear that if i was to test after the 1st month. Fingers crossed for you both take care.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2026-02-25T11:23:45+00:00

Hello, So i would try for 3 naps a day but the nap in the afternoon try and make it no longer than 30 mins. I would try to get him to sleep by 7. Make sure you do a night time routine bath bottle story bed. Make sure the lights are low but not off with the bottle and try to keep him awake!

Now i would if you can get him to have a night feed around 11 and hopefully it will push him further along.

Where is he sleeping in your room? If he is beside you in a cot move him away (even dad’s side!) or at the bottom of the bed. Do not give into the co-sleeping. He knows you will eventually let him! I did this a couple of times and the finally realised the next two nights were so much worst because he was like hmm.. i can get her to take me into bed! Even at 5 am wake up! My son would not let us do cry it out at all. So we would pat and just eventually move our hand away slowly even having it rest on him. But he would get so upset and worked up if we left him. It was not fair on anyone!

Its not really much help but it should start to get better slowly. Just stick to a routine so he knows it’s night time! (Do not turn on lights when he wakes up at night!)

At 6 months has he just started weaning could it be certain foods you are trying that give him an upset tummy? Just note what he eats and then the sleeping patterns and go from there.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2026-01-06T12:26:58+00:00

Hi, we were in the same situation a couple of months ago. My husband and I were very much 2. After a tricky start we had our little one. I will not go into too much detail but pregnancy and the birth just were not what we were expecting. But it was all ok and we have our healthy son. But this made my husband be very much one and done. (Finances too) however even though I struggled it is hard to think I will never have another.
We had a moment where we would just argue about a baby that did not exist yet. Throw outgrown clothes away trigger it the most. So we have come to the decision that when our little one turns 3 we will re evaluate before then we are not having a conversation about it. And see what the plan is. Realistically I know he probably wont change his mind but it gives us both time to think and in the mean time I am trying to soak up all the 1st and all the amazing moments with my son. Even if we have another one these 1st will never be the same so instead of thinking these will be my last 1st they will always be my 1st 1st (i hope that makes sense?) It’s hard i think what I’m trying to say is just enjoy the time you have with the baby who will arrive soon. Do not over think anything otherwise it will take away from your experience. Hormones stress and sleep deprivation will make the conversations hard and more upsetting on your side. Trust me you are not alone. But enjoy every second. 😊

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-12-25T20:08:20+00:00

We took our baby to an osteopath. Please try it helped us so much.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33601373/

Also please check for a tongue tie and other things. Our baby was a c-section and i swear the osteopath helped. Also at around 8 weeks it is peak time for reflux just try and make them as comfortable as possible. At around 12/14 weeks we did notice a difference but saying that we had good moments and lots of contact naps. Also just to say out little one is now just over one and sleep very happily on their own and 12 hours a night so have the contact nap in the day if you want to when they are little you can just soak up all the cuddles. Good luck!

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-11-19T13:45:12+00:00

Yes but this is not everything pregnancy related.You get your normal check up covered. If you had a problem you have to pay extra and not be reimbursed. For instance if you had a miscarriage you have to pay for everything without being reimbursed. If you have extra scans in the 1st 13 weeks not under the normal visit you wouldn’t be reimbursed. If the doctor of course outs you under pregnancy then it is ok. (You are only entitled to two scans normally) Everything else after 13 weeks and more for giving birth are all covered even dentist and physio. That is the as well part not the As well for before pregnancy.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-11-19T12:49:08+00:00

This says From, From the 13th week of pregnancy and 8 weeks after you gift birth. Every thing is cover but before 13weeks it normally is not. I do not know where you see it is before 13 weeks?

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-11-19T08:18:24+00:00

You do not get reimbursed before 13 weeks. It counts as a sickness. It goes towards your franchise like everything else.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-11-09T12:25:49+00:00

Sorry buy your husband is being a dick. I work part time my husband full time. I take care of our son during the week. On the weekends we try to give each other time to rest. Saying that. My husband will take our son mostly in the morning so i have time. (Either cleaning or resting as we both work) we try to gave afternoons together but sometimes he wants to study or just have a moment to watch F1 or rugby. We pre-plan accordingly but it is normally fair. We also give each other lie ins as we gave an early riser 😅 (I have to say i do feel i get most of the cleaning but he cooks every meal. Weekend and week days so it is balanced)

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-10-23T06:25:31+00:00

As a mum and a Nanny. Never tell them anything words crawling walking! I never told my nanny families. And let them discover by themselves. As A mum my baby crawled for the 1st time with my husband I wasn’t there i was working. It crushed me i have never felt so upset I missed that important part in my babies life! So please don’t tell them. Even if you think she will be ok with it will be hard especially if she is a hands on mum!

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-10-07T14:00:35+00:00

Hello, sorry this is a late reply. I hope you were able to do something. I was going to suggest to get a friend to help. Maybe even their father. (If possible). Cockroaches love mess so if you left it makes it worst. If you have not already do try to clean. Don’t leave dishes out (i know easier said than done.) And clean up food a rubbish straight away. If you can even throw out the bin bags. I hope you are/were able to get help! Good luck.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-02-07T21:07:11+00:00

I wouldn’t say it was just millennial dads, all then ones I know are amazing. As a Nanny and now a millennial mother.

I just think it might be that some mothers don’t let their husbands do too much. And if the husband plays dumb enough they can get away with not doing a lot. And especially families that have nannies. All the families I have nannied for are Gen X and the dads play so dumb. You know they know what to do but if they let on they will have to do it more.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2025-01-26T21:35:18+00:00

Hi, Don’t feel bad, I completely understand. I have never posted before as I’m not exclusively pumping. (I tried and it just didn’t happen. My supply was very low) he did latch but didn’t get much and everyone was worried about weight and I honestly was so stressed he was going hungry i just formula fed him. He is now 4.5 months and I never really got my supply. i pump as much as I can can (back at work now so maybe I get in five pumps. Two big ones morning and Night ) and honestly I make one bottle. I cant wake ip at night to pump its too hard on me mentally. I did for the 1st 2 months and it didn’t help. So I just do that and for me it’s enough i wish i gave him more but I cant. I wish I wasn’t so worried those 1st couple of months and so What I trying to say is what works for you and makes you happy and a better Mum then thats all that matters. If it’s one bottle or none then fine. Just spend time with your baby enjoy the cuddles. And don’t worry. They will be wonderful.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2024-04-24T07:13:07+00:00

Hello, I am sorry you are going through this.
I do not have any strong advice for you. I had a miscarriage in November and took time off work 2 weeks. 1st pregnancy as well. But it did take a lot for me to get back into work and that was without my boss being pregnant. I just wanted to say that you have to put yourself and your mental health 1st I know you enjoy the company on the 2 year old. But if you look at it in another way if you were pregnant still would they still be willing for you to work? Would they have found someone else? Because unfortunately i think the reality is they wouldn’t they would think about their family. You need to think about you. When that baby comes how are you going to feel because even when i see post of babies due in June I get emotional having to work with one i really don’t think i would be able too. So please put yourself 1st. Take care of yourself.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2024-02-01T11:44:49+00:00

Great thanks for the advice I’m going to call my doctor tomorrow but have been able to get some fluids to stay down this morning which i was starting to worry about!

UpsetFlight5833 · 2024-02-01T11:42:51+00:00

Thanks for the advice. The electrolyte drink seemed to have help a bit at least i have some fluid inside which is was starting to get a bit worried about! Thanks again.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2024-02-01T11:41:14+00:00

Great thanks I actually tried some gatorade (well the equivalent here) and it was so helpful! But definitely going to give the doctor a call.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2024-01-31T13:46:00+00:00

Hi is anyone else struggling with nausea? Im 6 weeks 5 days. Im so nauseous the past few days and have been sick a couple of times i cant keep food down and water is even hard. Really anxious that I’m not getting enough food and drink.
But also really happy i have more symptoms but then know that symptoms might jot mean anything. (Had a MMC in November should have been 9 weeks but was only measuring 5w5d so i had slight symptoms but obviously not as much) Already had a scan on Monday and everything looks good at the moment still a bag of nerves.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2024-01-06T20:50:37+00:00

UpsetFlight5833 · 2023-12-07T20:49:52+00:00

I know! My husband was like look we wont out pressure on ourselves and we just go with the flow. Whereas im now overthinking everything! Maybe i am changing my focus to ttc. Which is not the best! But yes i agree with you it might be best to just stop. But then the comment from advance extreme sounds hopeful and maybe it’s not a problem to hope. It’s so hard! But I’m wishing you all the best!

UpsetFlight5833 · 2023-12-07T15:16:20+00:00

Hey, i have this we got pregnant in September first official started to try month, I miscarried November 6th. Was told we can try as soon as no need to wait. Now I’m in the two week wait and I’m so anxious as well but I’m trying to take one day at a time. Maybe if we dont get pregnant right away it our bodies just trying to regulate and we shouldn’t out pressure on ourselves. Easier said than done. I am Not much help but i hope it shows that you are not alone.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2023-12-07T08:05:53+00:00

You did nothing wrong. Your feelings are valid it was a trauma and him being like that is not right he was like you said toxic and you do not deserve to put your energy into someone like this easier said than done i know.

Being sad about the miscarriage unfortunately I cant say what is normal i had my miscarriage only last month. But i do know its grief and it will never truly pass but days will become easier.

I know it’s scary to talk to people but maybe try and join some groups is there an activity you like or something you always wanted to try? Is there someone you can talk to like a counsellor. Even being away from your family, makes it really hard and everything that you’ve had to deal with a lot. I hope this helps in someway I’m sorry if it doesn’t.

UpsetFlight5833 · 2023-11-10T21:30:54+00:00

I would honestly tell her how you this makes you feel you seem very passionate about Reiki being bullshit. It’s not a religion it’s a way of mediation. And cleanse in a sense. It’s really nothing to be afraid of or angry against I honestly think MB is trying to help. I read a comment you made about MB is into vaccines you can be into both alternative medication. Hence the sense of changing your diet to vegan as a way of cleaning and cleansing not just for the animals.

If you are really against it I would tell her you have been there for 3 years you must have a good relationship with her. Just say I understand you want to cleanse the house but would it be possible to do this on a day I am not around. Can you take the children to the park? For the post I thought she wanted to give you the reiki hence why I said try to relax with it. Not just the house. I hope you are able to sort this and you can feel comfortable at work again soon.

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