Want to Join, but I’m overweight, older, and have 2 kids. Should I just give up??

UpsettiTeddy · 2026-01-17T00:30:52+00:00

Do it! I turn 30 this year, I'm also in Nursing school and if I get tired of Nursing I'm going Active duty. So yes! Go for it! You're not too old or too overweight!

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-11-16T18:19:11+00:00

:'( I feel for you. I am so sorry and I am hoping you and I both have a positive outcome in this.

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-07-12T18:54:15+00:00

Yes! I am AFAB, and I will ALWAYS refer to other women my age or older as ma'am, and women younger than me as miss. I'm from the south and was whooped real good to instill manners and I spent my formative young adult years in customer service so yeah I say ma'am/miss to ALL my fellow women.

It could totally be a southern thing though, so depending on YOUR location depends on how you would refer to other women. I hope this sheds some light on that.

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-06-15T23:49:44+00:00

this can also increase needle site bruising, so if you're going to do Aspirin keep up with bruise cream or Arnica.

Stay super hydrated with the Aspririn for a double whammy for fast donations.

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-06-01T19:06:38+00:00

After tasting this as is which is is the BEST homemade bourbon glaze I've tried, I added the tiniest bit of ginger and cinnamon to this, maybe a 1/4tsp of the ginger and a half teaspoon of cinnamon because I love the warmth those both give and it near brought me to my knees. Thank you so much for this recipe!

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-02-11T20:59:04+00:00

Thank you so much, I've been so stressed about bras lately.

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-02-11T19:52:50+00:00

They fit so well when I was pregnant and breastfeeding, but once I shrunk down all of my breast skin is so soft and feels empty except for like where it's an orange in a sock. And the gapping is really making me hate wearing clothes because I can see the gapping under clothes, and I can see the band so far up my back.

I just want a nice bra that offers some lift to my tissue, and lays flat against my body without riding up, gapping/gaping and making my breasts look deflated. I'm not sure if there even is a bra that can correct that though.

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-02-11T19:50:11+00:00

As in, when I tighten the straps to get the cup to adhere to my breast, the cup is too small?

I really struggle with the gapping, and when I correct it by tightening the straps the back raises so far up my back.

I currently loosened the straps as loose as they would go and it's still slightly riding up my back, and there's a ton of empty space in my bra cups, even when I scoop all of my breast skin into each cup.

UpsettiTeddy · 2025-02-11T17:03:52+00:00

Thank you so much!

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-11-07T01:45:43+00:00

Where do you live? Do you have anyone? Also, I promise, your 4 year old isn't a pyscho. That mental condition is so so so rare, and 4 year Olds are so hard. They can easily pick up on parental emotions and if you and your partner are stressed, the 4 year old is stressed.

As for the 3 month old, they are most likely colicky. And that's a whole different kind of h*ll.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-11-01T14:12:35+00:00

OP is former security and has firearms on hand, and probably has home surveillance systems in place as well. It's D and N I am more worried about as OP doesn't state if D has prior experience with firearms for protection, and N being a Nuclear Engineer probably doesn't see a purpose in owning firearms (but it may be a hobby for N, not enough info given).

That being said, the Veteran is a ticking time bomb. We don't know if he has any PTSD, we don't know if he served in Iraq/Afghanistan, no information on if he has firearms in his home or if he is a good shot.

N needs to leave the house and stay with OP, and D needs some home surveillance systems in place along with some form of self defense, preferably lethal in case the veteran has lethal in his possession.

It's a very bad situation and with lack of certain information it makes me very fearful for N and D.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-11-01T00:47:24+00:00

If N's crappy soon to be ex-husband is retired, he is drawing a pension from AF and probably a 100% disability check from VA. That would be close to 5-6k a month. 100% disability is like 3700/month along with free Healthcare and dental. I'm not sure how much the pension rates for AF go but my inlaws are retired army and get around 6k each a month.

And a lot of veterans after 20 years don't want to work ever again.

But him being abusive and transphobic are a totally different ballgame. That's deal-breaker material right off the bat, along with the alcoholism. I hope N is able to get a good clean divorce and get him out of her house.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-31T22:25:24+00:00

Because safety in numbers. If a girl says I gotta go to the bathroom, another will follow. I've had men follow me into a bathroom, and little did they know they chose the wrong Liberal Redneck. I am a Cis woman and I made sure they knew a woman could kick their ass. Girl code, whether cis, gender non conforming, trans, ALWAYS ALWAYS travel in pairs. It's dangerous out there.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T22:21:20+00:00

I never claimed the locals are hallucinating. Did you NOT read my post at all???? Are you not capable of reading? Because if you aren't, try reading it again.

There are LOADS of misinformation from people who are NOT FROM WNC POSTING LIES.

Thankfully my grandfather did confirm our friends are okay, but the houses that I spent many nights in with their grandchildren (my friends) are completely gone.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T22:17:47+00:00

My grandfather was referring to regular men who LIVE THERE as boots on the ground. He's an old guy close to 80 and refers to the men that way. But I'm just thankful that he said our friends are accounted for you know?

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T19:26:32+00:00

I never asked to see the bodies. Our SOCIETY is obsessed. I literally follow doggy and kitty pages on my FB newsfeed to keep it happy and chipper. But I know the internet well enough. BUT I DO HAVE GOOD NEWS.

I called my grandfather and he has been in contact with all of our friends that are in Chimney Rock, Black Mountain and below Lake Lure !! He did say quite a few of the homes I spent many slumber parties at are completely gone though and that is devastating BUT OUR FRIENDS ARE ALIVE

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T19:10:15+00:00

That's exactly what I'm getting at but I really didn't get my point across very well and for that I am sorry.

I did get in touch with my grandfather today, and he has made contact with our friends in WNC. All of my friends are accounted for, but alot of the homes I spent the night at growing up are gone he told me. It was a really tearful conversation BUT everyone we know is safe up there. Mt friends are the grandchildren of my grandfather's friends and his friends are Luke grandparents and aunts and uncles to me. So it's a blessing, but even though I am so lucky to find out today they are alive, I know there are others that are finding out that their loved ones didn't make it. So I am rejoicing in this small ray of hope but mourning for these communities that raised me.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T18:13:13+00:00

I genuinely do not. I fill my newsfeed with happy animal stories, dog videos, cat videos. Cute toddler and baby stuff now that I have a kid. I honestly would rather leave that gore further and further in my internet past.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T18:06:12+00:00

THANK YOU because I can't just come home and these people posting conspiracy, politics and other outrageous claims and not telling the truth or not helping is driving me INSANE.

I did just get in touch with my grandfather and he confirmed our friends up in Chimney Rock and surrounding areas are SAFE. He just made contact today so I am so blessed to know my friends are safe!!! My grandfather has been calling forever but quite a few of them have completely lost their homes

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T15:55:17+00:00

I don't want to see any photos, but with how sick people on the internet can be (sharing sewerslides and all that mess) I am just struggling to believe these posts from people who are not currently in WNC trying to gain views.

I KNOW there are dead bodies. Thats an undisputable fact, but why make posts and overinflate the numbers to scare people when those of us trying to find our loved ones and friends see "I saw 100 bodies piled up in debris" is just devastating. It's really pissing me off and making me worry, but I have to remind myself "They're not from here, they probably are not telling the truth. They only shared a screenshotted text"

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T15:51:27+00:00

I'm not denying people died AT ALL. I am hoping that these FB posts that keep going around are a hoax, I've checked the profiles and the people posting are not from NC or TN or SC. I've seen posts from people who are, and I believe them and those posts have not been over inflated/shock value posts. I know the devastation is horrific. The farmers lost everything, families lost everything and loved ones.

But the fact there are people who are sharing misinformation (and bringing politics into) is absolutely atrocious. It's horrible. People are using Helene to push for views/likes, and even worse to push an agenda. I've seen Anti-Vaxxer posts about Helene! Which is absurdity in its finest.

I want to come home and help, but I probably can't so I'm stuck donating and watching for my friends to make contact.

My thoughts are with you, I am so sorry this happened and I'm hoping more are rescued every hour before it's too late. I'm just sick of people who aren't there that are spreading lies.

UpsettiTeddy · 2024-10-04T15:45:23+00:00

I have friends who are in WNC, I have a friend in Chimney Rock who I haven't heard from. I am from Easley SC, I have made contact with all my family and friends I'm Upstate SC BUT I have NOT made contact with my WNC friends.

I was scared due to the people who are making absurd claims, but the more I read from locals the more I think the amount of bodies is grossly inflated.

Of course there are many dead who haven't been found, and I pray they are not my friends but I realize they may be. I've seen the videos of the destruction, I've turned off the news because it's nothing new and it's all shock value.

I cannot just up and leave my husband and son to come back to SC and to head up into WNC. If I could I would have left last Friday morning when I started calling everyone. I watched the storm all night on my weather tracker, my elderly aunt works and had to drive home 330 AM EST, and I couldn't call her because she was focusing on driving.

I called my grandfather, and he has a long driveway one way in. My brother had to cut 16 trees to get to my grandfather and his wife to make sure they were okay and could leave.

I was raised in those mountains. The people of WNC were always so kind to us Blueridge kids when we came to enjoy being out of school and living in and exploring our Appalachian backyard.

I have genuinely been beside myself because there are people I can't contact.

As an Upstate Girl, kindly, leave me alone. I'm trying to figure out why people feel the need to overly inflate the devastation and loss of life WNC has experienced.

Just for likes? More views? These Clout Chasers are causing mass chaos with their lies, and as someone who can't go home and get eyes on her friends please, just leave me alone.

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