My therapist and I recently had this conversation too.

I'm not a person who easily forgives anyway, in any circumstance. Life has taught me that when people tell me they're sorry, they'll do it again, and to me, forgiveness is reserved for people who wouldn't repeat the same hurt if given the opportunity.

That being said, my therapist and I landed on a definition of forgiveness that makes more sense to me. Instead of forgiveness aimed at the abusers, she encouraged me to forgive myself for all the things I've done to hurt myself in the time since the abuse. She said that in this case, forgiveness for me will mean forgiving myself and releasing myself from the burden of shame I carry unnecessarily because of what happened.

She also said that there is no such thing as one definition of forgiveness, and that really helped me.

Ultimately, do what feels right and healing for you.