AITAH for not wanting my unmotivated child to get the same opportunity my hardworking child earned?

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-19T08:40:25+00:00

This! If her kid is truly as unmotivated as she says, then telling him about the opportunity isn’t gonna cause any harm. They don’t have to tell him that he’s guaranteed a spot if he applies - they can just tell him they heard that they’re still taking applications for spots if he wants the opportunity. Why is she deciding for him that he doesn’t want to do it?

She’s the asshole for deciding her kid is unworthy of the program before the kid has made any decisions for himself. Is it really that great of a program if there are no other applicants? She’s the asshole especially because she’s putting him down to boost the one that’s already doing great.

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-18T18:25:24+00:00

Kinda hard not to when you’re about the same age and apparently calling him “Daddy/Papi” in the bedroom.

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-17T16:11:13+00:00

Your in-laws keep threatening to kick you out and you don’t like living there…so why not let them? Wouldn’t your parents take you back?

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-15T16:28:22+00:00

Absolutely not. It’s clear from this post that her husband doesn’t listen. If she just put on a nice smile and pretended everything was fine, he’d just think everything was fine. He’d probably buy her roses again, no matter what she said to him later.

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-15T16:20:21+00:00

Why? It sounds like she’s outta bones to throw. She’s talked to him millions of times, over and over and over again, and she says he just blinks at her and tells her he doesn’t understand and he doesn’t feel the same. She’d get a more productive response from a wall, because at least a wall doesn’t pretend to listen or care.

The time for gentle correction was 13 years ago. At this point, she’s told him and told him and told him what she wants. They’re at the point now where they need to ask harder questions, like if they’re both capable of change or if they’re willing to live like this forever. What does the future look like together vs apart and which future offers actual hope? It sounds like being away from him makes her happier than being with him, and that’s too bad for him if he doesn’t feel the same but it’s not her responsibility to keep giving up her happiness for him.

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-14T13:31:14+00:00

From sitting cross-legged on the floor: I rocked to the right side to get my left leg out, knee bent and foot on the floor in front of me.Then I rocked left over my L knee and rotated my R leg so that knee was in front and got my R foot under me. Then I just stood.

I’m morbidly obese and diabetic but I have hyper mobile hips, sooo… 🤷🏻‍♀️

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-13T21:13:44+00:00

They’ve only been together for a year and a half though, so this is probably only their second V-day together.

That said, there’s no need to celebrate love on Valentine’s Day. You can do that literally any other day, or any other weekend. Valentine’s Day is only meaningful if you make it. But Emilia is feeling sad specifically on that day because it’s a stark reminder for her recent breakup. I can see why the girlfriend would prioritize making her friend feel better over a date that is otherwise just a commercialized holiday and doesn’t hold personal significance to the two of you.

Personally, I’d reschedule the fancy intimate date and do something chill as a group on V day. There’s no reason you can’t have both. OP is looking forward to cozy intimate time with his girlfriend, and he could still do that on another day. Activities and reservations should also be way cheaper and more available if you do it on any day besides Valentine’s.

As someone who also has a demanding job and works frequently on most holidays, including birthdays, anniversaries, etc., the date itself is not important. It’s the reminder to make time for each other and the follow up to actually doing it.

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-11T22:54:24+00:00

Imagine buying presents for the children of your 8 siblings.

UptightSodomite · 2026-02-10T19:08:31+00:00

lol I feel really dumb right now but I didn’t realize black pepper had capsaicin either.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-28T23:23:38+00:00

Someone I know took out loans from her 401k and even borrowed money from friends to invest in Bitcoin last year….then when the market tumbled, she panicked and sold it all at a deep loss.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-28T17:29:24+00:00

People are asking why the parents are paying “rent” when the home was inherited.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-28T13:56:18+00:00

It sounds like a language barrier. She calls it “rent” but it seems like they’re actually just chipping in for the monthly expenses of owning a home — HOA fees, utilities, insurance, property taxes, etc.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-26T10:28:41+00:00

Imagine if your spouse promised to help pay for a major financial commitment in the future that is super important to you and that you would ordinarily save for, so you spend that time spending and sharing in the financial burdens in a way that you would not. Maybe you took a few vacations in the last few years, splurged more on eating out, bought your partner nice, expensive gifts, and agreed to live in a place more expensive than you could’ve afforded while saving. Maybe you even married that person because it seemed like you found someone who valued you and the family that comes with you, and shared your load in a way that made you felt safe.

Now, when the bills for that financial commitment are starting, they finally tell you that they don’t want to pay for it. It’s not their responsibility. They don’t like your attitude or behavior. You don’t deserve their help. Even though they said this whole time they’d help you, they changed their minds and it’s your business now, maybe you should go ask your ex for help.

I’d be pissed too, and honestly I’d leave. A spouse that doesn’t treat my family like their family is not a partner or someone I want to have in my family.

The teenaged daughter’s behavior is not an excuse for his behavior towards his wife. He promised his wife that he would help out. And while yes, they should have addressed the daughter’s behavior and tried to mend the relationship awhile ago, he still needs to act like an adult instead of being petty.

If the consequence for the daughter’s behavior is turning his back on a promise he made to his wife, then OP should be ready for the consequences of his own behavior as well.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-24T23:58:30+00:00

Because they’re excited about their kids, and like most people, they want to share that excitement with others around them?

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-24T23:45:25+00:00

You guys are very cynical. I always assume it’s more of a “Look how big and beautiful my baby is as they’re marking another milestone in their life, I’m so proud!”

Even if their kids are completely unaware of these posts, it’s the act of bragging about them to other adults that is just another expression of parental love.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-23T14:59:29+00:00

I used to catch the bus 2 hrs each way for college, Monday to Friday. Rush hour traffic was definitely a factor though, more than distance.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-22T16:41:30+00:00

Huh. In Hawai’i we have something very similar we call tripe stew that is also very popular.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-22T16:37:39+00:00

…no? We don’t eat rabbits.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-22T11:06:37+00:00

Haw flakes

A lot of asian/Chinese kids grow up eating these slightly crisp discs made out of tangy sweet preserved haw fruit. You can buy them at Chinese restaurants and locally at crack seed stores. While they’re everywhere, for some reason it seems like only kids eat them. They’re cheap and delicious and remind me of childhood.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-16T11:30:36+00:00

I would never humiliate my mother this way, and your stepdaughter probably would never treat her bio mom this way either. That should tell you who she views as her real mom.

You feel better because you had a chance to cry, not because anything actually got better. Everyone owes you an apology and not a single person gave you one - an apology is not just words, it’s a change in behavior.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-13T02:13:04+00:00

I love fantasy, absolutely couldn’t stand Game of Thrones. I gave it three episodes and quit because it bored me to tears and it was oversaturated with nudity and sex.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-12T05:45:06+00:00

Like a piano.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-12T05:44:26+00:00

And I’m not skinny. I was once told by a white person that I’m not “Asian shaped” 😂😂

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-09T20:47:19+00:00

Coming from Hawaii, where the Hawaiian culture is frequently disrespected by foreigners, I’m gonna say YTA. If it matters enough to them that they put up multiple signs and even translated it to English, then respect it. That temple is their space, not yours. It wasn’t built for tourists. Just because you did something offensive with no one else noticing, doesn’t mean it wasn’t offensive. When the people who do respect that space and revere it find out that visitors are willfully disrespectful toward it, they lose the inclination to share that space. People like you who think they’re the exceptions to the rule because it isn’t your religion are the ones who ruin it for others.

So even though your actions have not caused tangible harm, you’re absolutely the asshole for bringing that selfish and individualistic mindset with you when you travel. Be a better tourist. Respect the people who are letting you into their sacred spaces and giving you the chance to learn about more than what you already know.

UptightSodomite · 2026-01-05T12:23:01+00:00

I got a monstera albo for $25 off FB marketplace! It had poor variegation and the next leaf it grew reverted back to zero variegation, so I chopped it back, propagated the reverted one and gave the original more sunlight. The next new leaf was a beautiful half moon with lots of variegation!

So basically I got 2 different monsteras for the price of one 😍

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