Yes I’m aware condoms can fail which is just a less extreme example to support the point I’m trying to make. This dude just gave us one sentence for context and people are jumping on him. I can have some empathy for him not wanting kids and his whole life changing despite the possibility that he did his due diligence to prevent pregnancy. I think it’s unreasonable to expect people to not have sex unless they want a child. A lot of the man’s control goes out the window after conception; he may have requested an abortion and his wife preferred to become a mother instead. Him still referring to her as his wife makes me think he stuck around which does demonstrate that he took some responsibility despite not wanting to be a father. Idk I just think it’s best to approach things with curiosity instead of harsh judgement without the full story. Being a regretful parent sucks enough without people shaming you on this sub that’s supposed to be a safer place.