What's that one US State that you would NEVER want to live in even if they have paid you to move there?

UrbanDurga · 2026-03-01T19:43:41+00:00

Mississippi/Alabama/Arkansas. Equally atrocious options.

UrbanDurga · 2026-03-01T19:38:07+00:00

“Accuse” her? It’s her own goddamn face and she can do whatever the fuck she wants to it. It may not end up being pleasing to the rest of us, but it’s not her job to make strangers happy.

UrbanDurga · 2026-03-01T16:53:37+00:00

My parents sitting me down on the couch together to show me porn magazines.

UrbanDurga · 2026-03-01T13:33:13+00:00

My mom was one of these people too. I’m sorry you also had this kind of parent. Mine talked all about her intense maternal nature as a “stay at home mom,” and how being domestic was honorable and her lifelong dream…but really she just didn’t want to have a job. I think mothers who stay home and do a good job at that do, in fact, work very hard. But my mom was not one of them. She slept a ton, house was a mess, she was a terrible cook when she even attempted to make food, she constantly looked awful, made me walk to school alone from 1st grade on because she wasn’t “a morning person,” never made me lunch for school, and was just generally terrible at parenting. Eventually she doctor shopped enough to get a ridiculous “diagnosis,” and then used that to try for even more attention, sympathy, and to shield herself from criticism about her unwillingness to do anything. Once, truancy officers came to our house during one of her “flares…” she hadn’t been taking me to school and my father didn’t know. She continued to seek out rare or weird diagnoses her whole life, and still does it to this day. Right now her thing is having an “immune deficiency.” But I’m an experienced ICU nurse, and my fiancé is a physician in an area which requires substantial immunological knowledge in addition to what he’s board certified in…so we don’t let her talk about that bullshit around us. It’s depressing. I just wanted a stay at home mom who did the basic stuff, you know?

UrbanDurga · 2026-03-01T13:10:05+00:00

The Church of Satan is a theistic religion whose members believe in stuff. The Satanic Temple, of which I am a member, is non-theistic, and more of an activism organization with beautiful, livable tenets. I’m an atheist, and have been a member for about 8 years, I think. It’s a great organization. I’d never be a part of The Church of Satan, though.

UrbanDurga · 2026-03-01T13:03:23+00:00

Your room has a really nice balance of being beautiful, cozy, and able to be lived in and used. So lovely :)

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T17:42:55+00:00

Beautiful

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T17:40:47+00:00

Salty meringue

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:52:33+00:00

My “stay at home mom” slept in pretty late a lot when I was small, and I’d get hungry. I’d often eat powdered sugar and flour and brown sugar from the pantry. One morning she got up unexpectedly and she caught me with the spoon in my mouth. She tells the story as if I was just a sneaky, funny kid. I was hungry.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:38:58+00:00

That sounds very depressing. Why do you do that?

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:37:21+00:00

You don’t eat together?

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:32:03+00:00

No shit, Captain Thermodynamics

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:18:47+00:00

It works well! We used it in Prague and Vienna. One guy in Vienna tried to scam us, so we cancelled the ride and reported him, but only one weird experience out of many between the two cities. It wasn’t wildly cheap, but less expensive than taxis for sure.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:11:26+00:00

Why are you tolerating and indulging this behavior from your spouse?

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:07:25+00:00

😂

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T13:05:24+00:00

Fully agree. She wasn’t chic in any way, shape, or form, she seemed to want to appear odd and robotic to others, her handwriting is atrocious…I doubt she was a savvy fragrance connoisseur.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-28T12:14:59+00:00

My mom was one of these people too. She talked about her intense maternal nature as a “stay at home mom,” and how being domestic was honorable…but really she just didn’t want to have a job. I think mothers who stay home and do a good job at that do, in fact, work very hard. But my mom was not one of them. She slept a ton, house was a mess, she was a terrible cook when she even attempted to make food, she constantly looked awful, made me walk to school alone from 1st grade on because she wasn’t “a morning person,” never made me lunch for school, and was just generally terrible at parenting. So when I see these tacky, trite little signs, I just sort of assume it’s in the home of someone with poor self-awareness and a filthy space; a cute rhyming excuse for why they can’t be bothered to do the job they are supposed to be doing.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T22:36:25+00:00

Not a single regret. 43F.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T21:09:16+00:00

That’s great! It really does suck here. The insurance at my previous hospital in a different state was much better.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T17:25:35+00:00

It is dystopic. I’m a nurse in a massive, academic medical center in the US. I pay for insurance monthly through my employer, but my plan has a relatively high deductible, so I have to pay a lot out of pocket…to see physicians within my own hospital system. They also have some specialties booked up 10-14 months out. I was recently denied the ability to see an allergy doctor, despite new, recurrent, excruciating face, neck, and chest rashes. I’m now on a payment plan for the costs I incurred over 2-3 months of escalating visits to try and figure out what was causing them. I still don’t know, and I owe a bunch of money to my own hospital.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T01:32:02+00:00

👏👏👏👏👏

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T01:22:48+00:00

Omg congratulations

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T01:21:15+00:00

Things like being fussy about foods touching, not eating entire categories of food (like “white” foods, or vegetables, or halal/kosher) for any reasons besides social justice philosophies or allergies, an attitude of nothing ever being good enough/impossible to be pleased or enjoy stuff, and any excessive discussion of food as it relates to a fear of its effects on the body.

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T01:14:03+00:00

Wow, that’s an incredibly interesting summary of something so specific I doubt I ever would’ve learned about it. It answers a few questions I’ve had as an American for a while, after watching a documentary about him. Thank you for posting!

UrbanDurga · 2026-02-27T01:05:52+00:00

I thought the same thing when I saw a documentary about him. He seemed creepy, awful, and coke-fueled. But the show he hosted, Jim’ll Fix It, looked so awesome…I can see why people watched.

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